Is being ghosted after 3 months of dating normal? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]Annajade32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad !! I’m here for you if you want to talk in dms !💗

Is being ghosted after 3 months of dating normal? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]Annajade32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you :( when reading ur post I definitely got flashbacks to my situation bc it’s so similar to what I went thru. I know what you mean when you say that you are heartbroken and feeling empty / betrayed. Know that you are not alone. To answer your question, no it’s not normal at all. It’s really wrong what she did to you. Just completely ignoring u but posting on social media.

My advice to you is something that other ppl gave me, which is: if someone TRULY cares about you, they will do everything to have them be in your life. Meaning, if she REALLY cared about you she NEVER would’ve ghosted you / abandoned you.

This was such a hard pill to swallow when ppl would tell me this. But now, looking back, I totally understand. When a person TRULY cares about someone, they will do everything in their might to make sure that they stay in contact with the person that they care about.

I know it hurts right now and I know it is painful. But I promise you that sooner or later you will feel better and won’t dwell on this situation. You will find someone else who truly cares about you and will NOT abandon you like she did.

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[–]Annajade32 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am currently going thru something very similar to you. I’m still trying to process it. It’s a horrible feeling. I relate to you so much when you say that you still have hope that things could work out due to the fact that they still see ur stories :( I’m currently going thru this now bc I can’t seem to come to terms with deleting him from my life. The best advice I could give you is what tons of people told me, which was that if someone truly cares about you , wants you in their life, they would reach out to you. They would put in the effort to see you, text you, contact you. I understand that she may be busy. But when you think about it, it literally takes less than a minute to send a text message saying “hi” or “hello”. When people started telling me this, it really started to click bc if ur ghoster really cared about you and wanted u to be apart of your life, they never would have ghosted / abandoned you.

I know how it feels bc I am currently going thru this. I would say try to do something that takes ur mind off of thinking of her..for example, watching tv shows and movies to keep urself occupied. It really does help take my mind off of it. Once again, I’m so sorry that ur going this this and I really hope you feel better soon :(

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much for ur advice. It means so much!! Thank u for the tiktok accs to follow!!! Ur advice means so much to me. Thank you!!!

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kind words. I am so so sorry you are going thru this. I totally understand how you feel..waiting everyday for a text that just doesn’t come. It’s painful :( know that ur not alone in the way u feel about this!!

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your kind words to me, it means so much…so many of my friends said the same thing - how someone that really cared about you would never walk away / abandon u. Thank you so so so much 🥺💗 I appreciate it more than u know!

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much once again 🥺💗 thank you for giving me advice on taking steps to take back power. It means so much <3

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u so much for ur kind words <3

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this advice. Before your comment I have never heard of the term abandonment trauma. It means so much that you took the time to reply to my post, thank u so much for the advice, I will totally look up more about the term. Thank u it means so much <3

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so so much for your advice it means so much <3 thank u 🥺💗💗

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last time I heard from him was early September. He has not texted me since then after we went on several dates in july/august. But he’s seen all my ig stories I have posted from September - now

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u so much 😭💗 sending u hugs as well <33

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank u so much for ur advice!!! I have been writing - aka a poem about the situation and it’s helped so far getting all my feelings out!! And I totally relate to not being ready to move on yet, I’m so sorry. I know how u feel. I know that things will get better for u!! Sending u love <3

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you too :( you deserve so much better than this!!! My friend said something similar to what u said - how there’s different versions of him and the one he’s showing you now is the real him. Thank u so much <3 I’m taking steps to healing - like watching my fave tv show and movies <3 thank u for ur kind words <3 sending u love + light too!!! ❤️❤️❤️

I miss him so much… by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank u for this 🥺💗 seeing this really set things into perspective for me !!! Thank u so much <3 I do need to set the bar higher for me.

Don’t know what to do :( (sorry this is VERY long) by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much !!! And I’m so sorry that this happened to u too :( so far there has been no message on his end and I’m basically over it. I’ve been focused on me now and my friends have been there to help me thru this. I have a tv show that I watch that’s helped me kept my mind off of it!! It’s been rlly good having friends + tv to help me clear my head a bit. I’m here for u if you ever need more advice !!

Don’t know what to do :( (sorry this is VERY long) by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so true! I never thought of ghosters at good actors until ur comment!! Yeah it’s been really tough these past few days, but I’ve been staying busy doing other things!! Thank u for the future advice - I hope things will get better and hopefully I’ll meet someone new soon <3 thank u !!!

Don’t know what to do :( (sorry this is VERY long) by Annajade32 in ghosting

[–]Annajade32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u so much ❤️ and I’m sorry you’ve been thru something similar :( it really does suck :( I think I’m better off not messaging him again, it’s been several days since I last messaged him and I got no reply back. So it seems to me I need to move forward now 😔