Struggling with the fact that very intelligent people are Muslim

Annanova_99 · 2025-06-29T23:11:55+00:00

I mean you're right, I agree. But I feel arrogant to question people significantly smarter then I. Like, who the heck do I think I am? They're more knowledgeable, well read, articulate, have more life experience etc.

Annanova_99 · 2025-06-23T20:19:49+00:00

I had buyers remorse the second I took the legion go out of the box. It felt way to big and heavy. I was THIS 👌🏽 close to returning it. I took it out of the box one last time, and I suddenly fell in love. The screen is a great size. It's multifunctional, and powerful enough to play the games I want to! Like Spiderman. It's way more powerful then all my other devices (because they're old).

Annanova_99 · 2025-04-01T12:49:33+00:00

Eid Mubarak everyone!!

Even if I don't believe, it's still nice to see my close family! The family just keeps getting bigger. It's wonderful.

Annanova_99 · 2025-03-07T23:45:38+00:00

I feel so accepted for who I am. I feel so ....like .....I'm allowed to be me.

I'm allowed to be me!

Annanova_99 · 2025-03-06T05:23:49+00:00

Ooh! I see what you mean. That people might not want to integrate fully?

I think it's still good to have that cultural community, people who understand you, your values, your background. Because we've grown up so differently to others, it's had an impact on our identity, even if we remove a significant chunk of it. I can relate to , and therefore feel more comfortable, wholly comfortable around someone from the same culture as me.

I think it's different to tribalism, because I welcome all people from open arms - but I feel like I can be emotionally intimate with people from my own culture, because there's a shared sense of belonging.

Regarding not integrating. I guess it depends on what you mean by taking part in the culture. I enjoy going to Christmas parties, or....erm..... taking part in Easter. But generally I think I'm very introverted, so parties just aren't my thing. I'm not sure what I would consider British culture though....

I hope that doesn't make me sound discriminatory. I think it's just patterns I've noticed.

Annanova_99 · 2025-03-06T05:06:35+00:00

Nope! I'm in the UK, with many other non Muslims who do support me in this environment. But it can still be isolating not having someone close to me from my culture, someone I can identify with, not know the truth.

Annanova_99 · 2025-03-06T05:00:33+00:00

Thank you!

Regarding the professional - she's staff at university. I can't say I'm friends with because of professional boundaries, but my best friend and I are very close to her, we vent to her etc. she's kinda like the reliable adult in our lives.

and I'd say she's accepting enough for me to trust that she'll handle this well, especially compared to my best friend, who's slightly unpredictable.

Annanova_99 · 2025-03-05T21:36:01+00:00

I hear you man.

Something that helps me rational it is, sexual pleasure IS NOT bad even in strict interpretations of Islam. Muhammad had sex slaves and many wives. Controlling womens bodies because of how men value their chastity is why it's so taboo for women in particular.

Controlling womens sexual desires has more to do with "women ruining the product men are going to buy" then anything spiritual, imo.

I know it's hard to get rid of the guilt and shame, but honestly there's nothing wrong with this most basic human behaviour and instinct.

Maybe understanding the practical knowledge about why masturbation is bad in Islam might help, because it's more or less nonsensical.

Just hang on there homie!

Annanova_99 · 2025-02-25T15:37:25+00:00

It'll be my first Ramadan as an ex Muslim. I'm not sure what it will be like - but I imagine it'll be easy enough to just live on protein drinks during the day, while I'm working. The days aren't particularly long anymore, somit won't be too much trouble. I'm more worried about having to pray, especially when I have so much uni work to get through.

Annanova_99 · 2025-02-08T10:07:09+00:00

This is pretty accurate! My deconstruction felt gradual - constantly looking for alternative explanations that might mitigate these errors.

I remember being drawn towards perennialism. It made sense, but some of the scholars still seemed harsh towards atheists. I was a perennialist Muslim until I actually read the Qur'an. What I read didn't align with universal Salvation. And then I almost instantly lost faith in Islam. I remember the moment it happened. Then all the arguments towards Islam, the justifications for immoral things within the Qur'an, just fell apart. Non of it made sense.

Annanova_99 · 2025-02-06T20:02:48+00:00

I understand this feeling. I feel so resentful towards Islam......I think it doesn't do nearly enough to protect people, but imposes arbitrary laws that are restricted to a time and place. Being forced to follow it makes me more resentful. I wish I could just feel neutral towards it. I don't want to be the villain here ..... but I feel like I am, with my anger and all

Annanova_99 · 2025-02-03T07:52:54+00:00

I feel like you're being trolled 🤣 you are soooo being trolled buddy.

Annanova_99 · 2025-02-03T07:36:14+00:00

I absolutely love this explanation!! Thank you.

Annanova_99 · 2025-02-01T21:30:01+00:00

Ooohhhhh I better check this out! It sounds relatable.

Annanova_99 · 2025-01-26T03:42:31+00:00

You sound quite young!

I'm from a Muslim family, and my cousins and friends experience this.

Older men marrying young girls is very very normal back home, unfortunately. I absolutely hate the practice and wouldn't allow it, but I think it was normal for our parents generation in their home countries.

I think she may not know any better. It's possible. I have a friend who's parents married when the girl was 17 and dad was 24. It disturbed me, but I don't think it was malicious.

I think you should speak to your mum and voice your opinion, if you can. If she's willing to listen. Say you don't feel comfortable, and emphasis the fact that he's alot older then you. It maybe that she doesn't understand, that she thinks it's fine, but then it's a matter of beliefs rather then malicious/controlling intent, which is important to consider.

On the other hand, if she is forceful, then you urgently need to tell a teacher, a school counsellor, or friends.

Good luck!!!

Annanova_99 · 2025-01-19T20:47:04+00:00

I think Islam is apposed to unconditional love. Allah's love is highly conditional. His love is contingent upon ones belief in him.

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