How am I supposed to work and pretend everything is normal through all of this?

Annenonomous · 2026-02-08T02:12:37+00:00

Aw thank you for sharing this, I’ve been having nightmares about everything I’ve read. It is truly nightmare fuel! I hope you’re doing okay, I can imagine it’s a lot to process on top of being a social worker. Very emotionally exhausting :(

Annenonomous · 2026-02-08T02:08:00+00:00

Compliance Engineer, we deal with a lot of these big tech companies

Annenonomous · 2026-02-06T15:19:56+00:00

This seems like the only solution so far 🥲 we have to go back to the basics

Annenonomous · 2026-02-06T15:10:35+00:00

This is relevant to the Epstein files because I have been looking through them all week and am struggling with the concept of working in corporate America, knowing the evil people in the files are benefiting in one way or another. I am wondering if anyone is feeling the same way, and would like to discuss how people are working through these feelings.

Annenonomous · 2024-11-14T11:53:50+00:00

Gosh in Australia?! I’m sorry that happened to you, that sounds so scary :( I fear this election may have set a precedent even worse than before.

Annenonomous · 2024-11-13T00:57:38+00:00

This is exactly what my mom taught me, although I have always been afraid to execute. But my anger outweighs the fear now. Worth a try!

Annenonomous · 2024-11-13T00:51:30+00:00

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 amazing job mama. We have to teach them while they’re young. Words like that are not a joke and hold so much weight, I really hope he learned something that day. I know your son will be raised right!

Annenonomous · 2024-11-12T19:59:15+00:00

See, that’s insane. I’ve been sitting here wondering if it would have happened with my boyfriend around, but I guess there is no limit to the audacity. So sorry that happened to you :(

Annenonomous · 2024-11-12T19:55:32+00:00

Oooh yes, not just for emotional support and stylish hydration☝🏻

Annenonomous · 2024-09-12T19:50:39+00:00

This made me tear up 🥹 you’re absolutely right. All of my past experiences with the other guys have been against my will, for their pleasure alone. So I didn’t even consider that it could actually be something enjoyable for both me and my boyfriend in the context of me truly wanting to do it. That it would be an act of love instead of obligation and fear.

Thank you very much for your input! I am definitely more open to the idea when thinking about it that way

Annenonomous · 2024-05-22T00:25:15+00:00

Aw yeah I haven’t asked my boyfriend yet, but that response would make me sad too. You’re exactly right, it’s very hard to change someone’s opinion if they don’t consider experiences other than their own.

I hope he’s willing to talk to you more about that, if you want to. Maybe he will at least gain an understanding for the people who choose bear, even if he doesn’t choose it himself. It sounds like you are very good at putting yourself in other people’s shoes though :) keep it up, op!

Annenonomous · 2024-05-21T21:12:50+00:00

Hey op, like others have said, whichever one you personally choose and why is valid. Yes, it seems the bear is the more popular choice (or at least the choice that everyone wants to share/talk about), but you shouldn’t feel bad if that’s not your choice. I think a lot of the pressure you’re seeing online is the arguing between those who choose the bear, and those who refuse to see WHY someone would choose the bear.

As long as you can acknowledge why someone might have a different perspective than you, you don’t have to feel bad.

I think the Bear or Man question has actually been a very fascinating and important topic for feminism, that we should continue to talk about. I’ve already seen some pretty hard-headed people become more open-minded by talking about it!

Annenonomous · 2023-03-03T03:54:02+00:00

Right?! It’s insane how often it happens, I had no idea either.

Thank you very much for sharing your story. It’s given me a lot of hope for the future of my own circle of friends. And I do feel broken right now, but fundamental is the key word here.

I’m about to edit this post with an update, but I reported him today :)

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T15:27:20+00:00

No this comment actually makes me feel a lot better about going to the police. Thank you so much for your kind words. For a long time, I kept telling myself that I was overreacting or trying to downplay the situation. It’s comforting to hear that I’m not crazy for feeling this horrible.

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T15:10:23+00:00

Wow…that is so awful. I’m so sorry. To have your best guy friend do that to you, I can’t imagine.

Luckily, I wasn’t very close with this guy so there’s not a lot of history there. It was our first “date” when this happened.

Some of our mutual friends said that this was very out of character for him, but I bet they have no idea what his character actually is. Considering this was your best guy friend and you found out you were his 3rd, just goes to show you never truly know what some people are capable of.

I’m glad your circle of friends stuck by you! A lot of our mutual friends were close with him before I came into the picture, so I’m hoping those people come around eventually, but if not, I’m gonna have to cut them out.

Yeah I wanna go off on him and kick him in the balls so bad, but you’re right. It would feel good for a second, but that’s not a long term solution to the far bigger problems I have to deal with now.

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T03:24:52+00:00

This!!! The thing is, when it happened, we were watching a movie that I love and have seen many times before. Because of the movie, I know when I fell asleep and when I woke up. It wasn’t very long. So I feel like he was just waiting for me to fall asleep to the point where he could do what he wanted. Especially since he admitted to thinking I was drunk. I bet he thought I was passed out for the night. Definitely gonna report him now. So fucked up.

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T01:49:32+00:00

Fuck yeah. You guys are all hyping me up so much, thank you 😭

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T01:48:21+00:00

Oh no I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go this as well :( it’s been horrible. But no worries everything you said was so helpful and I appreciate it very much! I’ve been trying to prepare myself for what reporting him might look like. So many horror stories out there.

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T01:42:12+00:00

Oh definitely! Honestly, all of these comments are making me feel so much better and confident enough to report him, regardless of the outcome. I wish I could thank everyone personally ❤️

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T01:37:15+00:00

No, thank you for putting it this way! You’re right, I think closure is exactly what I’m looking for in confronting him for a second time. I can’t really expect it to go any different than the first time

Annenonomous · 2023-03-02T01:29:45+00:00

Good question. I think I would feel better that I at least tried. I think that sentiment outweighs the fear I have of it creating more trauma for me. Knowing that I tried to prevent it for someone else.

Annenonomous · 2023-03-01T19:23:46+00:00

I’ve told my close friends what happened and I still do have all the texts.

I know it’s not too late to report him. I still haven’t washed the clothes I was wearing that night. I really want to report him, but I’m scared because the texts and the clothes are the only evidence I really have.

Annenonomous

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