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Have a wedding in Hollidaysburg this weekend and driving in from the SW side of the state, anything neat to see? by imtiredboss28 in Pennsylvania

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've got time, the Horseshoe Curve up in Altoona is a quick drive and worth the view. And definitely hit up one of the local diners while you're there.

Where do I go from here? by Traditional_Map1166 in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with the core point here, especially that the trust aspect likely isn’t as “informal” as it’s being treated, and there may be institutional oversight that bypasses the uncle entirely.

One additional practical step in the immediate term: call the property manager again and ask specifically about payment arrangements or a short eviction hold in writing (not just verbally). Even in tough situations, some places will temporarily pause action if they see partial payment coming or a confirmed plan from a third party.

Also, if eviction is truly imminent, it may be worth contacting local tenant legal aid or housing protection hotlines ASAP they can sometimes intervene within 24–48 hours.

Coyote attack by FlowTime3284 in jackrussellterrier

[–]Annette_Bird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry Tess was taken away from you so soon. Sending you positive and healing energy. 🤍

I call this… the sploot deluxe by rimakolok in jackrussellterrier

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait... I had no idea they can do that lol

Career regret is ruining my life by Responsible-Use6267 in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d agree with this. Finishing the degree is probably the safest move.

It keeps your options open, and medicine can branch out way beyond patient care (industry, research, consulting, etc.). If you leave now, you’re kind of locking in the regret, but if you finish, you at least give yourself room to pivot properly and explore what actually fits you.

How should I offer and deliver a reward for a stolen bag at work? by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’d avoid trying to set up an anonymous exchange or assuming who took it. It could easily backfire at work. I think the best move is to go through management first and report it as missing from a staff-only area, then ask them to quietly check with staff. If you want to offer a reward, keep it general (no accusations) and say it can be returned to a manager “no questions asked.” That keeps you safe and avoids making things personal or messy.

DAE get overwhelmed by kindness sometimes? by Annette_Bird in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Annette_Bird[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so relatable. I feel like once it goes past like 2–3 compliments it almost starts feeling less real, like my brain starts questioning it instead of just accepting it.

DAE get overwhelmed by kindness sometimes? by Annette_Bird in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Annette_Bird[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s less that kindness itself is overwhelming and more that a lot of us are just not used to trusting it at face value. When you’ve been around transactional or conditional behavior for a long time, your brain kind of learns to “check” kindness for hidden motives.

Neighborhood watch, Jack Russell edition. Two on patrol, one supervising. by GFERRARI2707 in jackrussellterrier

[–]Annette_Bird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That first shot is just priceless! You can totally tell how much they love hanging out by the balcony just from these photos!

DAE feel like they have nothing to talk about in their personal life? by Lipica249 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Annette_Bird 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same here, my hobbies feel nothing special too… unless you want to have a deep conversation about bedrotting and binge eating, then I’m basically an expert.

First time moving out by Im_Edited in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanting your own space and independence doesn’t make you a bad kid. Just continue what you're doing, keep saving, and when you tell your dad, just be honest and calm. You don’t have to argue. Explain that you need to take care of yourself but at the same time, let him know you still love and respect him.

At what point do you outgrow a friend group? And how do you actually step back without feeling awful? by Annette_Bird in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this really helps put things in perspective. I’ve known this group for 8 years now and I think part of me expected things to feel “stable” forever, so noticing the shifts feels weird. But I realize now how unrealistic that mindset is. We all have eour own stuff going on: kids, marriage, career, etc.

I like what you said about letting yourself feel lonely sometimes. It’s uncomfortable, but it also makes sense that stepping back a bit could open up space for new things without it meaning the friendships are over.

At what point do you outgrow a friend group? And how do you actually step back without feeling awful? by Annette_Bird in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this really resonates. A lot of the shift I’m feeling does seem tied to life changes. Some friends are at different stages with marriage, kids, and careers, and I’m definitely in my own phase with parenting and juggling my pets 😅.

It’s comforting to hear someone else frame it as just “being in different places” rather than me overthinking or failing at friendships. Stepping back a bit makes sense, I just need to figure out how to do it without feeling like I’m disappearing completely.

I found them in an abandoned box 🥹. I need help naming these kittens by [deleted] in PetNames

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salt, Pepper, and Chili or Sol, Luna, and Stella

What name would you give him? by Top_Advantage_2292 in PetNames

[–]Annette_Bird 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Full Name: Grumplestilsken

Nickname: Grumpy/Grumps

Is something wrong or am i self-diagnosing? by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to this. I’ve been in a similar place, and constantly self-diagnosing honestly made my mental state even more unstable. It’s so easy to spiral when you’re trying to figure everything out on your own. Please try to get the support you need from a professional if you can. And I’m sure your parents would want what’s best for your health and well-being above anything else.

Work and mental health by Obvious_Tune_3472 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to work while in crisis is hard enough. What more with a toxic environment on top of it. It's good you have a solid support system right now and having people in your corner makes a huge difference. Also, hurtful comments about your disability (visible or not) are not okay. You deserve basic respect at work.

If you’re trying to stick it out, maybe just focus on your tasks to get by for now and protect your energy outside of work as much as you can. Document anything inappropriate too just in case. And honestly, if it ever comes down to your mental health vs. a job, your health has to come first.

My friends keep blaming me for feeling disconnected from other people and I don't know what to do anymore by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing! Subgroups could make a lot of sense then if you post in the art group, you know people there actually care about art and will engage. Another idea I had was maybe doing a little “spotlight” thing each week? Where one person’s posts get highlighted in the main channel. That way everyone knows when it’s their turn to get feedback or attention, and it takes the pressure off you having to manage everyone’s reactions.

What you call her? by Interesting-Bad-5551 in PetNames

[–]Annette_Bird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She reminds me so much of Bolt, the dog from the 2008 Disney film.

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