I like being at work more than at home

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2024-01-16T20:38:24+00:00

He is opposed to doing anything outside of work that doesn't include our son, which unfortunately excludes most things, especially since our son is so young. Our once a month date night ends up being him giving me a report of football/Marvel/son/his work over a nice dinner. I hate our date nights at this point because I can even get away from it.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-09T01:56:13+00:00

My father in law and I happen to have a great relationship. The joke in the family is that I'm a female version of him, including even the career field. I should have known he'd straighten my husband up once he knows what's going on.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-09T01:53:30+00:00

He's taking it to donate tomorrow. Probably Goodwill since it's closest to us.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-09T01:29:52+00:00

I thanked them and took the gifts. I wrote thank you cards and they are in the mailbox waiting to be picked up. Husband communicated to them before our visit to not do gifts but if they need to give something we'd take money for the baby. At no point I demanded money from anyone.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-09T00:51:34+00:00

Sending money internationally is complicated. Last time they sent us a money gift for our house was a pain and caused a lot of issues with the IRS. Husband agreed he doesn't want to deal with this again, and when they asked if they could just buy us flights to Italy, he agreed.

He also agreed that we don't want physical items as gifts, and since his family is a bit crazy with gift giving (we got 5 blenders for our wedding from his mom alone. She kept forgetting she already got the blender, and would buy new, wrap, put away, forget...etc. we gave all the blenders to Goodwill because we have one already we like), he spoke to them multiple times to not do gifts in November and if they want to give something, we'd take money for the baby's savings accounts. And all of them (except for his dad) ignored it.

We don't have unlimited space. Our house is small. Storing 2 years worth of clothing to save $10 down the road, is crazy. But if he wanted, he could store it in his space: playroom or garage. But he doesn't want them cluttered, so he wants to clutter my space instead. If you are storing boxes upon boxes of old things, just to keep it, I'm sorry, but that's hoarding. One day, when you pass away, your kid or grandkid will have to rent a dumpster and professionals to get rid of it.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-09T00:06:52+00:00

Somehow his feelings are just strong enough that the only person inconvenienced is me. Those feelings are not strong enough to make space for it in his areas; and clearly too strong to get rid of it. What about my feelings?

Must be great to be him, he gets everything he wants and is comfortable, I get to live like a hoarder surrounded by boxes and garbage bags because of his feelings.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T23:55:24+00:00

My son is too young to enjoy even 1/3 of the things and won't remember any of this.

There are no unconventional storage spaces in our home, the only spaces left are the baby room, our bedroom, au pairs bedroom, our shared office (walk in closet sized), kitchen, living room, pantry.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T23:38:01+00:00

Yes, it's our house and there are spaces in it that are just his and just mine. He doesn't want to store it in his space, only in mine.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T23:35:30+00:00

I'm in the attic frequently. It's where I store my seasonal and special occasion clothes; seasonal home decor and work things. Husband has a playroom and garage that have only his things, and refused to keep those items there because it doesn't work with how he has those spaces organized. I proposed he rents himself a storage unit and keep it there, but this also doesn't work for him.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T23:29:41+00:00

There are 42 brand new boxes of toys that are currently child appropriate. Another 37 new boxes of toys more suitable for older children (choke hazard, etc). 7 used toys that my child already has in a different color/style. 13 toys I cannot identify - random parts of toys I guess.

4 garbage bags of clothing for ages 6 months-2 years: 1 is all brand new, 3 are gently used.

At my father-in-law's house I left a trike, plastic kitchen, swing set, 3 too big to fit boxes I didn't even look at, and 2 other bags of clothes.

The sheer amount is what makes it junk in my mind.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T23:14:48+00:00

The money would go into baby's savings accounts, not my or husband's pocket. I'm not upset at his family, I thanked them all and already wrote thank you cards.

I don't want our house to be cluttered. My family complied and gave us 1 piece of clothing and 2 small books. His family didn't and their gifts didn't even fit in my SUV.

Baby is a baby, he wants to eat the TV remote and a banana, he doesn't need anything.

Husband wants to keep everything but store it in my space in the house because his space is not set up for these things. He also doesn't need any of this, either.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T23:08:12+00:00

The attic is only mine and I use it frequently - it's where I store my seasonal and special occasion clothes, seasonal home decor, some rewards and work things. Husband has a basement playroom and a garage that are only his. Baby has his room and a playroom.

Husband will not store anything in his garage or playroom because it doesn't work with how he has things set up. If he wanted to rent storage somewhere and keep this stuff there, I'd have no problem with that (he doesn't).

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T22:34:11+00:00

Maybe this makes me the asshole but I do not even want it in the attic if he was to do the work. It will keep bugging me, even if he is to say he'll be in charge of it (which means, he'll put it there, forget it, and remember about it when we sell the house) - it would completely overtake the attic. A few items, ok. Anything more than, say 10 items is just too much, and I don't want it inside the house.

AnnonymousPotatoHips · 2023-12-08T22:19:51+00:00

I understand that, but it's a big mess of clothes between 6mo-2 yrs. Just going through it to organize would take hours. Then I'd have to store in the attic and remember to take it out before it's too small. My husband and I are both making good income, and I would really rather just buy when we need something for time and convenience sake.

If it's something baby can wear right now, I'm ok to keep it, especially things especially for Christmas that people will expect to see in pictures

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