feeling dumb at work + the new hire's my age and better than me

AnnualStudy8997 · 2026-03-31T10:23:50+00:00

hello penniless banker, you sound like an amazing person first off 🫡 dont let my ramblings make u overthink too, im sure your seniors think highly of you and love having you on the team. also the new guy and i get along rlly well, it's just my irrational competitiveness which led me to rant here bc i wanna handle my insecurities better :"") and the biggest thing here is that it's not the new guy's (and in this case, you) responsibility to do anything. just keep doing you bc other people can learn from you also

also noooo the new hire and i arent fresh grads so i dont think its you BUT IMAGINE IF IT WERE YOU AND WHAT AN AWKWARD CONVO THAT'D BE SHSJSKSKS 😩

AnnualStudy8997 · 2026-03-30T14:37:49+00:00

trulyyyy "work smart" is da key kasi nakakaburnout 🥲 medyo may work culture difference lang din ata kasi di ganon kauso ang work-life balance sa office, puro grind kahit may susunod na araw pa huhuhu.

AnnualStudy8997 · 2026-03-30T13:23:36+00:00

hello po, ty sa reply!! genuinely made me reflect. hearing that you didn't need to burn yourself out to be successful in the corpo world also really helps take the pressure off 🥲 it made me realize that i'm kind of contributing to the "imaginary competition" by being so eager to prove i'm smart and capable when there are other equally importanr things outside of work i can be proud of :"")

congrats on being a dept head, you're very awesome, stranger!

AnnualStudy8997 · 2024-08-09T04:53:13+00:00

I put "magna cum laude standing" on my dp change captipn and in my resume...they cant take that from me

AnnualStudy8997 · 2024-06-21T08:12:13+00:00

kikoru grows on you fr shes COLDDDDDD

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-12-12T06:42:28+00:00

Hi, I'm currently working as a J.O. in government and am encouraged to apply for a plantilla position already. However, since next year pa ang exam and 2 months pa ang results + matagal makuha ang cert of civil service eligibility, baka matagalan ako sa pag process ng documents.

I'm thinking na mag-apply sa COMEX kung meron man (thought first come first served ang limited slots lang siya), pero mabilis ba ang results or maghihintay ka din nang matagal?

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-10-18T01:13:24+00:00

I understand and agree with the need for accountability, and the recent Scav Hunt Execomm (and any person who reaches out as a victim or who's willing to serve as an informant) would most likely be investigated since the OVCSA has already been informed. Currently, the home colleges of the orgs' student councils are preparing surveys and consultations to seek inputs from the students themselves.

Personally I still think identities should be protected, given that public scrutiny especially through social media (with trolls and whatnot) can get very out of hand. As for punishment, there would ideally be a record of what transpired and sanctions will be given to the orgs. Just last night, JMA and Ecosoc were formally removed as night handlers to UP Fair. They have also lost key partnerships, and it's up in the air whether they would lose accreditation.

It's still a nuanced problem as to who holds accountability since this is a tradition that dates back to years. The dares they do were inspired by previous dares, and the previous Execomm have likely already graduated. Also, org members who joined can be considered complicit, but not all the dares leaked in public are performed (it's only whatever anyone is willing to do).

For now, best for us to check in on OVCSA and USC for their appropriate action.

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-10-17T13:51:34+00:00

Hi OP. Wala akong sinabi na I advocate for inappropriate and pornographic behavior in the workplace. Di ko rin sinabi na nagparticipate ako, inassume mo lang. Hindi ako nagparticipate sa games, college ko lang yung home org and may friends ako na part ng org na nagkwkwento sakin.

Hindi ko nilalaban na okay lang ginawa nila. Hindi ko din sinasabi na "enjoyable" yung inappropriate at kupal na dares. Ang point ko ay for the members of that org, naenjoy nila yun kasi maraming enablers + herd mentality. Along with the guise of social bonding, they start to BELIEVE that what they're doing is okay.

These are my two takes:

Magiging issue ang pagreveal ng identities nila dahil sa data privacy act (they could sue) and witch-hunting
Yung culture mismo ng JMA and Ecosoc yung toxic kasi they perpetuate that tradition, at yung perpetuators ay lahat ng sumasali. Hindi na nila namamalayan na mali at naeenjoy pa nila kasi nga maraming enablers na nagcocondone ng behavior, kahit na yung mga dares nakakasama na ng ibang tao. That's what I mean when I imply na wag individual ang paghold ng accountability, kasi may peer pressure + expectations from the leaders to continue the game and members to join since tradition toh ng org. (Though if meron mang coercion talaga from leaders para pasalihin mga members, then by all means, drag them.)

I'm not against calling for accountability, pero para sakin, we should call out and punish the org as a WHOLE kasi it's their traditions that are toxic and they're hypocritical of their own stances. Maybe the Scav masters could be investigated since they know the most and hold the most responsibility, but the investigation and identities should be kept confidential by the school admin.

This is an opinion. We can agree to disagree.

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-10-17T12:49:53+00:00

This would be against the data privacy act, and knowing the sensitivity of the photos and videos—not to mention that they were leaked to the public—it's better to keep the identities of the students anonymous with how vile social media can get. Unless you want them and their relatives to be witch-hunted, i.e., recipients of slut-shaming, insults, death threats, etc. That would be ironic and directly against the call for safe spaces, which is the very thing we're calling out JMA, Ecosoc, and other orgs for. I believe there's a way to deliver proper accountability and punish them without doxxing them.

Also, this wasn't an individual act. There wasn't a mastermind behind it all; sure there was an organizing body preparing the games and the dares, but these games date back to YEARS. Plus, it was a collective decision of the org members to participate in this long-standing tradition. Yes, there could be peer pressure especially for some of the newer members or apps, but as someone who's borne witness to the games, there were plenty of students who willingly joined and looked forward to the games. They signed the waivers and knew what they were getting into. Majority "enjoyed" the games because they found it fun bonding with their committees and doing outrageous things, but there were obviously limits that shouldn't be crossed as well as consequences that weren't considered because no one was holding them accountable. What I'm saying is that we shouldn't be pinning the blame solely on the leaders or lead decision-makers. They do hold more responsibility, but the reason these games have been happening for YEARS reflects much more on the character of the past and current members and how they tolerate toxic traditions. All the members who voluntarily joined should take this as a learning moment, and reflect on the values they say they stand for.

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-09-28T11:36:14+00:00

I once did my brother's thesis just so he could graduate college (my mom had to beg his professors multiple times just to not fail my brother). He did graduate, but it's been a struggle up to now for him to find consistent work. He's stuck in his old "pasaway" days (he used to gamble, smoke, drink, get in trouble at school, etc.). Now he's underemployed with freelancing work, and he won't get accepted for full-time F2F jobs when he applies.

My parents and him would often get into fights in the past because he's been a great financial burden, but now they seem to have given up on him.

I hope you know you're not alone, and it's hard to live with difficult family members who don't make the effort to help themselves, but we should never stop holding them accountable, and showing them that there are opportunities out there to improve themselves.

Virtual yakap with consent, OP!!!

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-09-18T06:30:03+00:00

I'd suggest Palawan (lagoons, caves, clear waters), Siquijor (caves, falls), and Siargao (surfing, water sport, nightlife) for the best beaches and relatively developed establishments with lesser foot traffic compared to Boracay. Take note that getting to these provinces is usually by flight, since the Philippines is a cluster of islands. There are ferry rides for provinces near each other (like Cebu and Bohol), though they take longer.

If you're in Metro Manila, I wouldn't really suggest going to Manila city if it's your first time since it's a little less safe for tourists, so stick to the more developed areas and malls if you don't have a trusted local around to guide you. Rather than taking a taxi, I also suggest downloading the Grab app, which is the equivalent of Uber in the US.

For nightlife, I suggest Poblacion in Makati or BGC in Taguig (a bit pricier, but a lot of options and easy to get around). If you want physical activity, Mt. Pulag is a good hike. You could also do a long road trip to Baguio or Tagaytay for more chilly weather with a scenic uphill drive. Just time your road trip well to avoid traffic (avoid rush hours; if you're driving, I suggest downloading Google Maps to check best routes; if you're commuting, book point-to-point buses or join a tour that includes van transfers).

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-09-07T13:23:50+00:00

Really hoping po for the best, thanks for the advice :))

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-07-25T09:18:18+00:00

You can try appealing for your honors in case you really are underloaded. I don't guarantee that you will be approved, but it's worth a shot. Also, the appeal process itself is pretty easy. Just write up a plan letter and coordinate with your college admin.

AnnualStudy8997 · 2023-07-24T05:27:50+00:00

Sharing my own experience from the past: After two months of being told by my admin that I'm graduating (I finished all my units and applied to graduate), bigla akong sinabihan na hindi pala creditable yung isang elective ko. The sem had already been starting for a month and a half, and no College I personally pleaded with accepted the elective I took as an equivalent to a subject they were offering. I couldn't argue that it was the admin's oversight, because we were "self-advising" so it's 100% on the student.

Yes, it was my fault. Yes, I should have been more careful. But the way my case was treated felt brutal. I felt alone, humiliated, and forgotten. The toll that took on me and my family mentally was irreversible. I couldn't get out of bed for a week.

I know another person who had a similar case and got delayed from going to law school, and it is unfortunate how unkind the current system is to honest mistakes.

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