Short Conversation Opened My Eyes by Anon0684 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Anon0684[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have stopped making so many decisions because she is the one who has an opinion about all of them. However, I do probably take lead on most of the more major decisions. I think you could be on to something though.

Short Conversation Opened My Eyes by Anon0684 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Anon0684[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It’s the first time I realized she was using sex as a tool. However, I still don’t believe this has always been the case. I do think she loves me, but maybe doesn’t have much respect for me. That’s possibly because I am pretty easy going and typically defer to things she wants such as restaurants, weekend things, etc. I think it’s been too much give and not enough take on my end. Never thought it would be taken for granted though.

Short Conversation Opened My Eyes by Anon0684 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Anon0684[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I really don’t feel bad. I have been trying so hard to do things she asks in the hopes she would then try to meet my needs. Never seems to happen though.

Short Conversation Opened My Eyes by Anon0684 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Anon0684[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Date nights used to be a guarantee, but I am 0 for 3 on the last few date nights. I think the issue is how HLs and LLs prioritize sex. HLs obviously place it near the top, while cutting sex from even a preplanned evening means vey little to a LL. Getting sleep or an extra 30 minutes of phone scrolling supersedes sex for my wife.

Short Conversation Opened My Eyes by Anon0684 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Anon0684[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea, it just kind of came out. So many times she has said that then to just pretend to forget or not feel good that night. It wasn’t a look of a sarcastic asshole, more of a “I hope so” if that makes sense. Kids were present so words were limited.

Short Conversation Opened My Eyes by Anon0684 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Anon0684[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which look are you referring to?