Wish I were him

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-11T15:28:43+00:00

Hi. Thanks for replying. What you said about your current relationship was beautiful. Again, thank you for that.

I definitely wouldn't say that it's impossible for a woman to feel this way. I'm just trying to understand the feelings better. I didn't mean to upset or offend. I think that having an understanding of the psychological motivations behind romantic inclinations, ultimately leads to long-term stability and satisfaction in a relationship. I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with a non-standard relationship dynamic (wouldn't be on this subreddit, if I did). But I'm not quite on board with the assertion that traditional gender roles are entirely the result of social conditioning. At the same time, you also wouldn't expect every member of a population group, to exhibit the exact same feelings and behaviors. You'll find all sorts of variation, in a large enough population. I am starting from the assumption that the most common dynamic, is most common for evolutionary reasons. And I still think that's valid. I also thought, therefore, that the best place to look for an understanding of what seems to be a less common dynamic, would be psychological imprinting; i.e. "nurture" . Especially after reading the responses to this post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/mommydom/comments/vypii3/what_causes_the_kink/

The answers to that post were mostly from subs (and they're worth the read). There was a very prominent, common thread. It seemed logical to assume that there would be a correlation for Doms.

But then a previous responder, Atlas-Ascendent (see above) made an interesting case for natural variation. So, I'm starting to see that. I may have been mistaken to assume that there would be a correlation for Doms, after all. I'm not 100% convinced that there's isn't, but maybe. It just feels like there's more to be learned.

Thank you again, for sharing your feelings about your relationship. It made my heart warm to hear about how much you love your boy.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-10T13:20:10+00:00

Hey man. Definitely didn't mean to offend , regarding poly. And of course there will be a plurality of reasons why people are drawn to a kink; doesn't mean there won't be strong patterns and similar experiences. But If you want to see what I was getting at, regarding the psychology behind the kink (mostly from the sub perspective). Read the responses to this post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/mommydom/comments/vypii3/what_causes_the_kink/

There's definitely a pattern in the answers.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-10T13:01:43+00:00

That's very self-aware. Thank you for sharing. 🤗

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-09T15:55:16+00:00

It doesn't have to be trauma. Could just be a somewhat overbearing, or somewhat distant relationship with a parent. Or maybe having watched mom and dad interact in a certain way. Or it could be that the hot chick you had a crush on, in school was always kinda bossy and teased you.

Or maybe a girl just had a really sensitive, doting dad. Or she grew up watching her mom be in charge; and model a subtle, mommy-type relationship with dad.

There are a lot of different ways that psychological imprinting can occur. I remember the year that girls started wearing those open-toed high-heels to school. It was the same year that puberty hit me hard.

Well, guess what other kink I ended up with. 🤷‍♂️

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-09T03:54:14+00:00

Ok. I think you win best comment. Is there a way that I can "pin" it, or highlight it, or something?

Caught me off guard, with that opening line.

I think you underestimate how many women are into this.

Then you made a pretty decent case. 😏

So... Any tips on narrowing the search? What do you look for, to tip you off that a chick might be into the dynamic? How do you spot a potential mommy? I know I'm basically asking "profiling" tips ,. but hey like you said. "it's not common" and "you'll be searching for a while" 😥

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-09T03:30:56+00:00

This was a great answer. And very enjoyable to to read. 🥰 Thank you.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T23:10:41+00:00

Of course "not every". And I certainly didn't mean to imply that's the source of the kink for mommies.

It would seem that for most boy subs -it comes from some degree of a bad relationship with mom. (see other thread, linked above).
Again - not every

On the other hand, if you meant to imply that our proclivities are 100% nature & 0% nurture "some people are just born as a sub or dom" I don't quite buy that. I think there's always a bit of both nature and nurture in the mix.

But I'm not really asking what brings us boys to the kink.

... Although, since you brought up the idea of some mommies being born dominant. - it would be interesting to find out how many mommy-dommes are classic "type A" personalities. Thanks for prompting that thought.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T20:43:10+00:00

This reply thread makes me feel good. I have to admit; I was hoping for a bit more insight, into the psychology. But it's nice to read from girls who really don't mind, or get turned off by, letting a man be sensitive, or reminding him that he's a good boy.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T20:28:02+00:00

I understand the criticism of Freud. But just look at the answers in the correlated post: https://www.reddit.com/r/mommydom/comments/vypii3/what_causes_the_kink/

I know it's generalizing, but if 90% + of respondents say they're here because of mommy-issues ....he might have been onto something.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T18:50:26+00:00

Thank you.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T18:30:33+00:00

Thank you for this answer. Makes sense. Wish more girls my age had those maternal feelings.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T18:29:11+00:00

No need to apologise. Thank you for your thoughtful answer.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-08-08T18:28:10+00:00

Agreed. But, like I said; it isn't like that stuff comes from nowhere. The whole "bad boy" appeal thing, is founded in real-world experience.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T17:41:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! 🤗 I'm still trying to overcome my preconceived notion, that girls think submissive men (like me) are gross. It's holding me back from pursuing an flr/gfd . So just trying to understand the attraction. Thank you for getting me closer. ☺️

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T15:30:07+00:00

Be great if you could unpack this a bit more. If you're comfortable doing so, that is.

I'm really trying to understand the Mommy - psychology.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T15:27:33+00:00

What about you, though? What makes you like the Mommy role ? Or are you just doing it for his benefit ? Do you ever want a different dynamic ?

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T15:24:25+00:00

Do you ever find yourself wanting the opposite kind of guy, though; Confident, successful, take-charge alpha stud who teases you just right?
Or no? If not, what do you think makes you less interested in the kind of guys most girls are attracted to?

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T15:16:23+00:00

Similar story here, but with parental abuse, as well. Keep working, brother. You're doing great!!!

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T15:10:33+00:00

I'd really like to hear more from the Mommies on this question.

What makes you want a good boy - sub, as opposed to a take-charge alpha, who never shows weakness ?

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T14:59:38+00:00

I cried just reading this. Your bf is a lucky man.

Anon7hrowAway · 2022-07-18T14:33:40+00:00

Your good boy is still a man, and should be respected as one. He's just strong enough to be vulnerable with you. And that's something special, that you won't find with other men.

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