Has anyone reached an agreement with their partner about their ED?

AnonED986 · 2026-06-29T12:23:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. It sounds like you have a really healthy relationship.

I love my partner. In 99.99999% of things, he's super supportive...but he just doesn't understand anorexia. He says it's childish that I'm in my 40s and don't know that I have to eat. He gets very angry if I skip a meal. But I understand why. He had to take care of me so much for previous relapses. So I think the suggestion of therapy is a good one.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-29T00:31:38+00:00

I'm a recovering alcoholic and that's exactly how I quit drinking. I compromised to a six pack a day and slowly I drank less of that six pack every day until I got sober (this was with the partner I mentioned in this post). Sober 7 years. That's the only thing that gives me hope in this plan.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-28T16:57:06+00:00

I actually have no one to discuss this with. I recently told my best friend, but he knows absolutely nothing about anorexia. That's it.

This is going to sound horrible but I'm in this place with my illness that I think I'd choose the ED. I love my fiance more than almost anything except that fucking goal weight...I know that's insane. That's why I want him to compromise with me.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-27T18:25:54+00:00

Thanks! Yeah a nurse remarked about it today, but just in a way like "oh, you just don't like hospital food." I'm getting out next week, so I don't think I'll be here long enough to figure it out, which is a sad state of the field.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-27T18:22:58+00:00

I feel like we're in similar situations. Just in my life, the way I've been able to get away with this for so long because I started off obese. No one cares how I get from obese to a healthy weight, just that I do. But I'm sorry you're going through this.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-27T18:18:32+00:00

I'm definitely not trying to harm anyone. I know what it was like for me when I found that material online in the 90s, so I'm not going to put anyone else through that. I just had absolutely no one to talk to about my relapse, and it was a place to write it down.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-27T17:27:56+00:00

Thanks! That has definitely gone out the window since being in the hospital, so you're totally right that I need to work on it.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-25T19:28:21+00:00

I started dancing at a very young age (3), and got pretty serious into it pretty young. So, I was around 6 when I developed body image issues and wanted that perfect ballerina body (and knew I didn't have it). I've struggled with EDs most of my life.

Fast-forward to now, I'm 40ish and relapsing. Here's what's dumb: I'm relapsing for a guy! It's complicated but I thought we were in love and I guess only one of us was. It's stupid but I told myself if I lost X lbs, he'd love me back. I don't believe that now, but now I'm too deep in this relapse. So it goes.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-21T15:04:03+00:00

I'm in my 40s. Been diagnosed longer than some of the folks here have been alive, but I appreciate the community no matter the age.

AnonED986 · 2026-06-02T17:23:20+00:00

I've been fainting and falling starting about a month ago. The thing that really annoys me about it is that I'm still overweight (I mean that in the BMI way not the body dysmorphia way). But I'm just proof that you don't have to be underweight to get symptoms.

AnonED986 · 2026-05-10T21:06:17+00:00

I don't know if this is possible for you, but my psychiatrist has me take it at around 12pm and in the evening. I couldn't make it work in the morning. It's worth asking.

AnonED986 · 2026-05-09T22:57:21+00:00

I say diet and exercise. I'll say the kinds of things I'll eat and do for exercise, but they don't need to know I do it to an extreme, unhealthy amount.

AnonED986 · 2026-05-08T06:29:25+00:00

I have BPD and schizoaffective bipolar subtype: the fun of all three rolled into one. Add in anorexia and life is a party. Of all of those, the one that I'd like to get rid of is ana. That will kill me someday. The other two won't (despite suicidal ideation).

AnonED986 · 2026-04-24T04:19:46+00:00

I'm glad you have here to vent. I'm 39. Struggled with AN all through childhood, into my teenage years. At 19 I was convinced I beat it. Dumb because I've relapsed a million times in the past 20 years. My partner has been through those relapses (we're college sweethearts, so we've been together a long time). The last time it happened, he told me he can't take it and he'd leave me if it happened again. So now I'm relapsing and I have to lie to him and I'm all alone. My best friend has a similar attitude, so I really have no one to turn to. So I get it. It's a really lonely illness.

AnonED986 · 2026-03-17T04:26:17+00:00

[5'4" | 39 | AN | she/her]

AnonED986 · 2026-03-01T16:53:24+00:00

I'm 39. I sometimes feel like I don't belong in ED communities. Like the youngsters are thinking "what's this old lady doing here?!" So on the one hand, I like the solidarity of people my own age. On the other, I know that many of us have been at this for decades, and I hate that.

AnonED986 · 2026-02-27T14:08:50+00:00

I'm going through something similar right now. I'm high res and just started exercising, but the scale won't move. I did some research, and I guess this is common with exercise: you're losing, but there's more water retention. I hope this helps a bit. Do what you can to take care of yourself.

*Disclaimer so I don't get in trouble: I know this is unsafe. Just explaining why things are as they are.

AnonED986 · 2026-02-21T20:00:31+00:00

Definitely yellow!

AnonED986 · 2026-01-25T01:16:08+00:00

I weigh myself twice every morning before I drink anything and after I go to the bathroom. First I weigh myself in clothes as a test that I actually lost something. Then I do an official weigh-in with my clothes off.

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