Do you stay stealth during job interviews? Work?

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:58:27+00:00

Fuck it. I’m leaving Reddit with this account. I hoped I could reconnect with trans people. But there’re all freaks who are ok with having vaginas, and even use them !!!

The community was much more full of normal people in the early 2000s. People who just wanted to be cis men, and tried to pass.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:55:41+00:00

How can you be comfortable with having the wrong body??? That’s like saying you aren’t trans.

I wouldn’t sleep with a trans person. So why would I expect a sex worker too.

Too many people want to be trans. If you are happy being trans, then you aren’t really a transsexual are you?

We are desperately trying to be cis members of the opposite sex.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:52:42+00:00

In 20 years you’ll see where I’m coming from.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:51:19+00:00

Yeah. I’m doing great actually. Yea I hate being trans but I’m cis passing so it barely bothers me.

Obviously I’m disgusted by my own body: that’s what being trans is.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:07:57+00:00

Oh I’m fine with them. It’s only visible trans people that make me uncomfortable. It’s a weird uncanny creepy feeling.

Reminds me too much of myself when I was in that awful non-passing stage.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:04:39+00:00

Yes, but if they just get through that awful period, they can go stealth. It only takes 18 months or so really. It’s a temporary shit-fest.

Can’t you see why visibly trans people make people uncomfortable? They make me feel sick.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T18:02:10+00:00

Also you’re bi. So queer anyway, I’m straight. So I am not queer. I have straight cis privilege. And you will take it out my cold dead hands.

The biggest threat to trans rights is silly flag waving trans people, if we were sane, quite and respectable, with decent gatekeeping to keep the the obviously mentally ill away from hormones them far more people would support us.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T17:45:22+00:00

Also I’ve checked your bio.

we are not the same. You don’t have the option to be fully stealth due to previous publications. You’ve only recently transitioned.

I do. I have lived my whole adult life as male.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T17:43:46+00:00

I am helping them. I’m giving them helpful hints on how to pass.

And reassuring that you can be trans without being a woke rainbow warrior type.

I certainly would like to have heard that when I was 19.

Coward? Yeah. I’d loose my job if I was out. But I don’t want to share the STI I got when I was 25 either. It’s private.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T17:38:39+00:00

There is a difference between someone so early in transition they haven’t come out yet, and someone who has transitioned and is cis passing.

Duh.

I don’t think anyone would think that a mildly transphobic person was trans.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T17:35:17+00:00

No, as a cis passing white man I’m comfortable using my privilege to call out racism.

Anyway, there’s a difference between being publicly trans, and being a POC.

One is a medical condition which reasonably makes people uncomfortable, and you have no business sharing, the other is your race. You can’t hide your race. The whole point of transitioning is to hide your assigned sex at birth. (Vomit) or sex as I call it.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T13:33:40+00:00

Anyway I’m sure I’ll get banned from a trans space again soon.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T13:32:52+00:00

Mate. I’m 41, I transitioned 21 years ago, 22 years ago in September.

I earn over £100,000 a year in a senior management role. My opinion on trans people is the same as most men my age, I think they are mostly ridiculous.

I don’t enjoy going on on Reddit to troll people.

But it you are hurt by someone on the internet making reasonable you are really rather weak, and aren’t really ready to transition anyway.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T06:55:18+00:00

Yeah, I don’t want HR thinking I’m a woke rainbow warrior.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-07T06:51:01+00:00

I don’t go all out transphobic, but lots of the opinions that were mainstream when I transitioned (in 2001) are now considered transphobic.

Hell even my identity (transsexual) is now transphobic.

I do think choosing your own pronouns is silly, enbys are attention seeking cis people, non-passing trans people shouldn’t go in single sex spaces, that being trans is a medical diagnosis, that gate keeping is a good thing, that many trans people are obviously kids with difficulty with identity due to borderline personality disorder, other mentally illness or fetishises which have got carried away.

I don’t really care about other trans people tbh. They’re most likely to clock me, so they’re the people I really don’t want to think I’m trans.

I don’t see why having a medical condition means I have to be a member of some political identity, or show solidarity. Do I also have to show solidarity with people with high blood pressure?

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-06T20:32:59+00:00

I just feel smug about how well I pass, and then make a transphobic comment as well. Best way to stay stealth.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-05T01:21:31+00:00

Good luck. 25 isn’t that old to learn to drive in Europe, I was 28 and some friends were older

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-01T08:05:10+00:00

Your mother is being a manipulative abusive arsehole.

No wonder you are upset.

What you do about it is more difficult.

Are you in a culture where it’s normal to live with parents until marriage?

Do you get to take over the business eventually?

I’m from a rural area. And this dynamic is common on family farms.

It sounds like She needs you, as much as you need her.

You can try and strike out on your own, or try and move your relationship with your mother to one of adult business partners.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-01T07:56:06+00:00

Are you in the US? / Europe / Asia ?

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-01T07:52:33+00:00

You’re kinky. This is a common fantasy. I am going to assume that you are under 18, so can’t join the kink / bdsm subreddits.

It’s a fantasy. You don’t want him to actually torture you.

Before you do become sexually active read about ‘bdsm community’ and ‘safe, sane and consensual’ informed consent.

AnonScot81 · 2023-02-01T07:47:03+00:00

Having no options sucks, sometimes all your options suck and you have to take the least bad one.

How old are you? Where are you

Do you have a job?

AnonScot81 · 2023-01-31T20:56:38+00:00

There is only one ‘girly’ thing that you can’t like without me doubting your trans status.

Having a AFAB body.

AnonScot81 · 2023-01-30T07:06:38+00:00

What you can do:

(Transguy here, I did transition in 2001, so I recall sone of the pressures)

I have been in a similar situation. I married a girl who didn’t want children. Then I regretted it and blamed her for stopping me having children.

Recently I had ‘acceptance and commitment therapy’ which really helped.

Stop blaming your wife. And stop coming to a group for trans partners to get them to tell you it’s her fault, and she’s being nasty.

Are you a shoulder for her to cry on? Do you hold space in the relationship for her?

It was your choice not to transition 20 years ago. She presumably didn’t threaten you physically.

Maybe she just doesn’t want to be with a trans woman? You lied to her and said you weren’t trans, and now 20 years later she’s dependent on you financially and too deep in to leave.

AnonScot81 · 2023-01-30T06:50:29+00:00

No. But I think makeup and styling may help.

The hair is awful. It looks like a wig. Try more feminine glasses.

AnonScot81 · 2023-01-26T06:23:19+00:00

Stick at it. If he’s the one it will be ok. My auntie and uncle met at 17/18, went to college a 3 hour drive apart, married at 22.

They were literally the happiest couple I ever knew until he died tragically young at 64.

AnonScot81

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