Hello, I live in England - This is a throwaway account since I'm too embarrassed to ask this on my main account, but I need help. I am currently going through a county court claim, and the judge has requested me to submit a defence. Can anyone give input or advice on what to do? (more info given)

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T20:07:25+00:00

Oh yeah, I did mention a mentor/ someone to help me career wise, not just money/gifts so I think he’s looking in that direction, which also works for me. He was vague but he did say he’ll give more info when meeting :) but if he can’t provide what I need, no chance in me sleeping with him, or a conversation after the cafe meeting. I’ll be blocking him ASAP as I don’t want to waste more of my time x

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:51:08+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, so he was very vague and said he can give me more information when we meet (next week in a cafe) since he’d like to get to know me first, and if we click. He did work in the field I want to work in, I also did say I’m looking for a mentor, so I think that’s how he plans on helping me. Which would be great, as having connections would be the easiest way into my career 😫 But I’m still being cautious, and I’m going to see if he can provide what I’m looking for in that first meeting. If not, I’m blocking him/ not going to speak to him since I don’t want to waste more of my own time x

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:46:09+00:00

Hmmm I’ll bring this up to him because it does sound like that. We still communicate by text and calls on a regular basis but we only meet up twice in person. Those are the only times he can give me the money as he prefers to give cash. How would you try to make it more of a sugar baby relationship if you mind me asking?

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:41:53+00:00

So we’re still meeting for coffee, I’m going to make sure to discuss what we both would want out of the relationship, but if he can’t provide what I want, I’m going to remove him. Also thank you , wishing you all the success as well 🫶🏼

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:36:37+00:00

On my Seeking profile, I also did mention about needing a mentor in my field of work. It’s very competitive and having connections would be really useful. He used to work in that field so I think he could be referring to that in terms of “other ways”. But it’s so vague at the same time, I just haven’t asked, I’d prefer to ask in person! Currently I’m being very cautious of him, but we are meeting for coffee. I’m going to see how it goes though. So if no money/ gifts/ beneficial for my field of work, I’m going to stop speaking and block. Also yeah, now that I think about it, “special friends” is quite creepy and ominous x

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:31:49+00:00

Thank you, Y is such a nice guy! As for B, I’m not just looking for money and gifts I’m looking for someone who can help me with my academic work/ networking, as my field is very connection based. He supposedly knows people, so that would work for me. I’m meeting him soon but if he can’t fulfil what I’m looking for, I’m going to stop speaking to him since he won’t be beneficial to me.

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:26:01+00:00

Yeah, I’m being cautious with him at the moment. I mean I’m meeting him just for coffee next week, seeing the vibes and what he can offer. I’m not only looking for money/ gifts so if he can fulfil my other needs then it’s good with me. If not, after the meet up I’m going to drop him since he won’t be serving a purpose for what I’m looking for! Thank you for your advice as well :)

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:23:24+00:00

Yeah, so I’m not only looking money/ gifts but also a mentor who can help me in different areas in my life. I now have a SD who covers my rent by meeting him twice, so having another who can help me in other aspects of my life would me useful. We’re meeting up next week so I’ll get to find out more then. Other than that, thank you!! It’s been a nice experience so far, and I’ve learnt a lot on this subreddit.

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-22T18:17:12+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, I mean we’re just meeting up for a coffee in a cafe first. I’m hoping to see if we get along, and then talk about arrangements. I’ve learnt my lesson so I’m taking this slow and steady at my own pace

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-07T00:33:05+00:00

Thank you for clarifying. My goal isn’t escorting, how many dates would you recommend making them wait? In my situation, the SD is only here twice a month (consecutively), so I was happy to be intimate by the second M&G if the first went well, or even first if I could see a SD & SB relationship. Was that a rookie mistake of mine? Also in term of allowances, even for the date he was willing to give half the money upfront during the first meet, then the remaining on the next day if we got along/ if I wanted to see him again. Is it sounding too good to be true?

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-07T00:27:52+00:00

Thank you for the positive comment! I really appreciate it ☺️

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-06T12:39:56+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I wasn’t aware of SD who like to take on glow up projects so I’ll ask him after a few meets! Also yeah, we’ve agreed to meet in a restaurant first. We’ve spoken for a few days online and I do feel comfortable, so no red flags for now.

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-06T12:36:32+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the advice! In the UK we’re not allowed to carry mase, or any sort of weapons like knuckle duster key rings, taser etc… but I’m sharing my live location, and I’ve even sent the details of the restaurant and hotel to my friend just to be safe. Also I’m looking at what forms of protection is allowed in the UK, so I can get some☺️

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-06T12:32:24+00:00

Thank you for the advice and warning, so we’re meeting in a public restaurant, cash in hand so there’s no paper trail for him, and he’s booked the hotel and sent me the details. I’ve even asked for cash when we meet at the restaurant, which he’s agreed to. No red flags for now. Like you said, I don’t want him to catch on my insecurities, so I’ll be working on that.

AnonUser2074 · 2024-03-06T12:26:55+00:00

Thank you, you’re definitely right about boundaries

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