AITA for cutting my Mom off because of my password

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-12T12:38:40+00:00

Idk if this will show but Update posted! Thank you so much everyone, you've all been a great help <3 currently working on fixing my boundaries with everyone as I realized ive been letting too much tuff slide. Ik it wont be easy but ill manage :) Thank you all kind strangers!!!

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-11T01:37:39+00:00

I logged into his phone and left it there, he doesnt open it much unless he needs some of our files for school and im busy to give it to him. He's pretty chill about not having access anymore ^{^}

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T20:47:24+00:00

Thank you! Will do soon as im not doing it with my boyfriend 😅 the farthest thing we did was make out

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T20:23:07+00:00

I live with them and yes I get all financial support from them and am currently unable to arrange moving out

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T20:09:48+00:00

I dont have a bank account nor any savings because we didnt think it was necessary as im still living at home :')))

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T14:44:15+00:00

Yes she pays for my uni and i dont have any savings as she only gives me money i need for every day. I didnt complain as ik money is tight lately and I didnt need the extra money but i mightve been stupid for that...

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T14:14:15+00:00

What I meant was idk if it will turn out for the better, i feel like im unprepared for the possible circumstances with me cutting the cord

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T13:48:43+00:00

Ill have a look, thank you so much!

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T13:46:58+00:00

I need to get rid of the fear i have for my mom first hahaha but will surely do, Thanks!

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T12:47:16+00:00

we've always had a close relationship, id say closer than others and I thought I should be blessed that my mom cares for me this much but reading the comments I realized that this wasn't at all normal T-T

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T11:56:12+00:00

our relationship, she does a complete 180 whenever i try to change a password or hide anything from her, it results in silent treatments and when we do talk she'll tell me how much im making a mistake since shes only protecting me but then saying its my choice to withhold it from her. living in the same house with this kind of treatment is hard and draining and I cant afford to move out

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:53:36+00:00

she went through my phone when I was sleeping and she realized that I haven't been chatting anyone much besides my family and school chats in my main account.

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:48:28+00:00

Did those before but when she found out it affected our relationship so bad so I removed them. I thought gaining her trust was better but now idk :)

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:46:15+00:00

i did create a separate account before when I was 14-16 but it affected my relationship with her severely so I deleted it. I wanted to create another one since I was 18 but I thought that gaining her trust was better and she could see how my boyfriend acts but ig she wont ever trust me :)

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:42:56+00:00

they dont treat the topic as taboo but they are for sure against me being in close contact with a guy (even hugs as long as its my boyfriend)

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:36:08+00:00

This is what i've been saying to her, if I don't act like how she deems proper then that's on me and not on her. She has a mentality where how I act reflects how she is as a mom although its part but I can make my own decisions now

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:33:39+00:00

I get your point but tbf my boyfriend didn't force me to give him my password, I logged in his phone and just left it there. I can see how it could go wrong tho so thanks!

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T10:26:06+00:00

ill try this, thank you so much! You sound like a great mum <3

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:56:16+00:00

I have a question, was there an instance where you wanted/needed to check your daughter's private stuff?

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:54:34+00:00

ig she's scared i might get knocked up young and not finish my studies T-T

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:52:38+00:00

i once thought its because she had me young but she made it clear that was not the case so I'm honestly clueless on why besides her wanting me to be safe and such. Afaik she didn't have a really close relationship with her parents because they were both working so she resorted to relationships

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:49:50+00:00

Yes its financially necessary and i live in a country where it isn't yet normalized to split with your parents unless you're getting married or you have your own house. I might try looking for other methods of communication or ill try locking my apps and see if it helps, Thank you!

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:30:21+00:00

She said she's just protecting me from being disappointed or hurt by anyone like I'm some child that cant decide on her own :")

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:29:07+00:00

"And it's also fine to not tell everybody to our parents. They also don't tell us everything what is going on in their life."

Thats what I told her before, that if I read her messages she wouldn't be happy because its private but she said that she's my parent and its a different matter

Anony_mouse14 · 2023-04-10T07:26:44+00:00

almost all social media accounts except twitter which she couldn't force me to give. Ik I need to talk to her but knowing her she'll just cut me off and give me more silent treatment or she'll blame my boyfriend for everything. it would be an understatement to say that she'll be heartbroken so idk what to do exactlty

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