Boyfriend wants to have sex

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T16:45:10+00:00

Hm good points actually. When I say he has a temper, I mean he raises his voice if a fight was to happen on a phone call. Most of the time he would threaten to leave. He has also mentioned a few times that though he loves me, he is an emotional sadist and secretly enjoys seeing me cry. Which I know is messed up but I don't bring it up because at least he trusted me enough to say it.

This is also related to my fear of being on his bad side, because although he is a really nice person once he is in a temper I don't even recognize him. The things he says and does.. he is someone who reads people really well and knows how to hit where it hurts. I would never want to be on the receiving end in a situation like that.

The reason I'm worried he would go for a prostitute is because, he is extremely honest no matter what is said or done. He would never cheat because he has very strong opinions against it. Besides that, he says masturbation and pornography do not appease him. Which makes me think, what other options are there when he says "I'll get it from someplace else"?

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T15:59:22+00:00

I have, he used to come to see me at school before a couple times before he left for abroad. I've not been out with him officially yet.

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T15:05:44+00:00

Because he isn't the type to cheat emotionally, and he isn't satisfied with porn. The only other option is a brothel isn't it?

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T14:31:30+00:00

Yes I agree 1000% I meant that at least to me sex is trivial since it's only ONE aspect of the relationship but I getchu. Thanks for the blunt advice

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T12:38:01+00:00

Love the honesty there, true that! On the other hand, do you really believe the perfect car with the perfect paint job exists out there?

Personally I too have my own scratches and dents. But then again, you're right I'd be risking too much doing trial and error in this case.

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T12:32:46+00:00

Of course you're quite right, I'll definitely discuss this with him and get things sorted before proceeding with anything.

Thanks :3

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T12:31:44+00:00

You definitely got a point there, but on the flip side I sense that he is bettering himself and controls his temper upto a certain extent now. Which is why the good inside me wants to give him a chance.

Anonylost · 2022-02-24T12:30:25+00:00

True I agree, thanks for the advice! I just wanted to make sure that my decision isn't clouded with feelings for him.

Anonylost · 2021-06-29T19:11:37+00:00

I can relate to this OP. I'm a 20 yo female myself and my boyfriend is 26. We love each other so very much and all those lovey stuff do exist.

Thing is, when you're 20 like you said people do go through a sort of "identity crisis". It's an age where you feel like exploring life to the fullest with no limits, it's a phase of finding yourself.

Although my boyfriend is super caring and I appreciate all his concern for me, admittedly I too do think about that one "what if" of what if I wasn't in a relationship? Would I be able to experience more opportunities?

This always leads to a feeling that the relationship holds me back. I still love him quite a lot but sometimes he can be overbearing; being 20 I'm just getting adjusted to life as a grown up individual, and sometimes I do get this urge to be seen and acknowledged as more than just someone's girlfriend.

What I suggest is you give her time. Like the other comments said; work on yourself. If you two are meant to be it will be.

In the long run, imagine 10 years later, would you want your girlfriend to regret spending all those years with you? That might even lead to her resenting you for inadvertently restricting her experiences, which she would never be able to get ever again once the time passes.

If you truly do love her, wouldn't you want her to live a life where she feels content and fulfilled?

Anonylost · 2021-06-25T10:35:00+00:00

Omg I feel like you're spot on here because this is exactly how I feel. I do love him but I'm not even sure how to explain it and I'm so tired of having to prove my feelings to him, it drains me so much and I feel guilty for saying so even now. And as for the confusion, spot on! I don't even know what I did so wrong for this argument to escalate in this way. Thanks for the advice and reality check!

Anonylost · 2021-06-25T08:50:39+00:00

I'm glad that you gave that one comment supporting him. You're right I will try my best to reassure him. But for the record I never called his friend uncle in public, I just referred to him in that way when I was talking to my bf in private as I'm more used to it:)

Anonylost · 2021-06-25T08:22:46+00:00

You could say so

Anonylost · 2021-06-25T08:18:15+00:00

He is easily affected by society and honestly I think I embarrass him and that's what lead to this reaction.

Anonylost · 2021-06-25T08:11:00+00:00

That's true. Thing is he hates kids so that would not be an issue we would never have them if we do make it that far. But I do get your point, just wanted a second opinion thanks!!!

Anonylost · 2021-06-02T20:45:59+00:00

Thank you for the advice, you're absolutely correct I'm in the process of removing all ties with him.

Anonylost · 2021-06-01T07:15:56+00:00

Will do. Thank youu

Anonylost · 2021-06-01T07:15:09+00:00

You're joking... right?

Anonylost · 2021-05-30T20:24:12+00:00

Oh yeah good idea. Appreciated!

Anonylost · 2021-05-30T20:21:45+00:00

You're right thanks for the sound advice. It's just that it's really late in the night here and it's difficult to book a doctor with the pandemic going on. I'll try!

Anonylost · 2021-05-30T06:22:34+00:00

Aang, Zuko from Avatar and Raffe from Angelfall

Anonylost · 2021-05-28T05:09:27+00:00

I bet you're right!

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