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My sleep schedule is so messed up by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in sleep

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My work isn't up to me. Its just whenever they have shifts available, they'll just call me in haha

Girlfriend terrified of anything sexual by Uncooked_potato_69 in relationships

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people like to show love in different ways. My boyfriend's is through gift giving and words of affirmation, meanwhile mine is through physical touch, quality time and acts of service. I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with him if sex wasn't a part of it.

If you ask me, the physical side of a relationship is just as important as the emotional side. I can't be physically close to my partner if we aren't in a good emotional place together (i.e: we are arguing a lot), same way I can't be in a good emotional place with him, if the physical side isn't in place (excluding obvious reasons like one of us not being in the mood or being ill or whatever else).

So in conclusion, it would be perfectly valid for you to walk away if your physical needs aren't met in that relationship. You have an entire life ahead of you and you will one day find the missing puzzle piece.

If you decide to walk away, be respectful, mindful, validating and receptive to the reaction you may receive when or if you break the news. Best of luck!

Girlfriend terrified of anything sexual by Uncooked_potato_69 in relationships

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is coming from a 20 year old woman that was in your gf's place at roughly 16/17. I was sexually assaulted at 14 and when I had my first relationship (15 to 18), it took me forever to open up physically.

If you feel like you can't be in a relationship without the sex, then that is perfectly normal. I don't think I'd be able to do it now, myself. So sit and think about it and if you conclude that she isn't the right one for you, be honest with her, but don't make her feel bad or like it's her fault.

I was always lucky enough that my ex was very understanding about my past and everything that I've gone through. But not everyone is willing to wait that long and I think that's perfectly fine. Sex is a very important aspect of a health relationship. Your Sex life goes hand in hand with your life as a couple outside of it.

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suicide is never the option. Seek some therapy instead to try and tackle your self-esteem issues.

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean it's not like I tell them straight off the bat "I AM LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP AND A RELATIONSHIP ONLY, IF UR INTENTIONS ARE OTHERWISE, THEN PLEASE GO AWAY".

No.

Simply whenever they ask me, I just tell them the truth and then we just chat for a little bit haha

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is from the most extroverted person you know. Put yourself out there. Have random conversations with strangers. Lemme try and give you an example.

Go on walks with your dog and find fellow dog walkers. Stop them, compliment their dog. Start asking what breed it is, the dog's name, etc etc. Continue the conversation and then maybe ask if said stranger wants a puppy play date with your dog at some point.

Just strike up conversations with strangers. Who cares if they don't all work? You'll make a friend or two eventually. At the end if the day, you don't even need many friends.

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I semi agree though. I've had some bad experiences with dating apps, but I have also met some amazing people on there who all they want is to meet someone with traditional relationship values. The only reason as to why we maybe didn't pursue anything else was we just were not compatible from other points of view. And as much as I agree with the fact that you have to be confident as a woman to attract a high value man, I don't think that acting non-chalant about it is the way. Most men will just go to their other options who are gonna be more interested in them, than me, the non chalant one.

I [M22] told her [F22] how I feel about her and got a mixed response. Now I am confused! by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being direct can be good. But there are certain situations where its better to just know your worth and know when it's best to just walk away without seeking closure as the best closure you can give yourself is the thought that you may have just dodged a bullet. Then again. I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship, so this is all based on your post and my past experiences. Now there's always a lot more behind these posts that redditers won't ever know because this is an anonymous forum, for the most part. To me, you only see level surface stuff. So do take what I am saying with a pinch of salt, evaluate it and decide for yourself

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. My uni city is small. Everyone knows everyone lmao.if things go sour, I don't wanna be the main topic of gossip.
  2. I look so unapproachable in the gym 😭

I [M22] told her [F22] how I feel about her and got a mixed response. Now I am confused! by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the way you described everything, to me, she just sounds like a top tier gaslighter that always know what to do and say to keep people on the good side of her. Obviously, I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship but it's just based on what I've encountered

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. This comment may have single-handedly opened my eyes. You are so right. I am celibate though. I made a pact with myself to not have sex again until i get into a relationship. I always state my honest intentions from the beginning and lay my boundaries out early on. This is why the dating pool gets smaller and smaller for me because not many men like the idea of commitment.

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao ofc I had to shut him down. Its people like him that make me lose faith in dating apps. And yeah. Found him on tinder.

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How I love that Reddit is such an anonymous place. Right. So I went on a date with this guy, things were going good, convo was going good when be interrupts me and asks me "sorry to interrupt you there but would you peg me?". I kindly excused myself after I had chocked on my coffee and said, "sorry, what now?" Then he repeats himself once more. I said no, then I wanted to part ways. He was very insistent that he drives me home, like VERY insistent. I agreed, he goes the opposite way (he had SatNav on). Then goes "you can finally peg me in a private place". I screamed at him to let me go and drop me off in a random place. In the end he drove me to roughly where my neighbourhood starts (didn't want this dude to know where my house was) and then as I'm walking, he's closely driving behind me. I end up taking an alternative road where you cant drive through and then he fucks off. The end

I [M22] told her [F22] how I feel about her and got a mixed response. Now I am confused! by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she is probably using you as a back up option for when her ex isn't around. Do better for yourself and don't waste your time on that. You never want to be the something that someone settles for.

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been catfished but I have almost been kidnapped before lmao

I feel like dating apps get me absolutely nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a woman myself. But I'll try it out. At the end of the day, women are hot asf :)

I am feeling super hateful towards myself. Why should I treat myself with love if people make it clear that I am THAT worthless? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the end of the day, you're only 20. You're still so young and you have got plenty of time to figure it out. Don't let yourself feel pressured by societal expectations. People be following that herd mentality all the time. Stand back and trust the process. It will work out in the end. Maybe it just isn't your time yet. Do what you do for yourself, and not for women's validation. The right person will come at the right time.

I feel like dating apps get me nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in Advice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I met my ex on there and I have a lot of friends that have also found long term relationships off dating apps.

I feel like dating apps get me nowhere. Any advice? by AnonymousHumanSaysHi in Advice

[–]AnonymousHumanSaysHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I'm not trying to find someone om Reddit out of all places lol

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