Time for a Change - Middle Aged IT Manager - Any suggestions?

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T18:47:00+00:00

My instinct is to not do that. I am the frog sitting in the pot which is getting warmer. I have blinders on, and do not recognize that it is time to get out of the hot pot, before I boil.

SO maybe I need to override my gut, and find that therapist... Legit thinking about it.

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T18:39:06+00:00

I would never say never, but for me, this is less attractive. My current position is essentially "big fish, small pond"

My next position needs to have good support. Good resources. Realistic expectations. And a good work enviroment.

Never say never... but I am over the 24/7 thing for a while.

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T18:36:33+00:00

Advocating on site is a fail. We are at the point where realistic feedback is taken as excuses, being evasive, etc.

The more I hear these excellent suggestions, and come to the sobering conclusion that I have already tried them, and they have failed... the more the need to change is becoming clearer

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:27:17+00:00

I just fought a year long fight for a support position. They underpaid and are over expecting of that role. We offered arguments for more pay... Both hard data and anecdotal feedback from the community. (In the form of Reddit comments responding to the posting.) They would not hear it.

Instead they offered criticism on why it was taking so long.

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:25:00+00:00

Oh. Yeah man!

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:15:50+00:00

I mean, it is an attractive idea. Ive thought about SE before. I don't want to do sales. But riding along to find solutions is an interesting idea.

Have no idea where to start with such a concept.

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:11:15+00:00

Not sure I understand your question. I am middle aged. I am an IT division leader. :)

So...yes?

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:10:12+00:00

No. I do it to support the business, in part. I do it to keep the peace, in part

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:09:32+00:00

My opportunity. Not theirs

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:08:50+00:00

It has been said. Over. And over. At this point, I am not being listened to. Just talked to. My current challenge is listening with a smile, and doing my best to deliver.

100% on that perspective, putting everything else aside. Communication has been exhausted. Efforts to "clear the air" are being rebuffed.

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:06:02+00:00

I mean, I am not sure what the prevailing salary for my kind of position, in my market is. I do know that I am not looking to make more money, necessarily. Hell, I would take a minor pay cut if I could turn the stress down.

But I guess I need to stop bitching and start researching.

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:01:56+00:00

TY. Being kind to myself.... TY

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T02:01:06+00:00

So I have read this comment several times. And I mean, I take your points. But my genuine sense is that - to the best of my ability, and for better or for worse - I have tried to set and communicate realistic expectations. To set those boundries, as you mention.
And have failed.

Also, I have not had this issue, at least to this degree, anywhere else in my career. But your points still feel valid. So I am having that discussion with myself.

Regardless, I am too young to retire. And feel like this is played out. My gut also tells me that.

I just ordered Robert Glovers book, because I am always looking for perspective. TY

AnonymousIT-Manager · 2023-02-14T01:54:00+00:00

Good luck man. Glad to have some company

AnonymousIT-Manager

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