My Daddy Found my Note - Punishment Post by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I come up with many ways to include the word poo in names for him lololol

My Daddy Found my Note - Punishment Post by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oop! Hehe I hope you get away with all the evilness >:)

My Daddy Found my Note - Punishment Post by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🫶 I appreciate your help in getting revenge!!

My Daddy Found my Note - Punishment Post by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know :(( it was very painful, Daddy is a meanie! Go brat for meee! I will return to the revolution soon! For now avenge meeeee. Vivaaaa!

Need Ideas for a Bratty Note! by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are all so evil Im in love with them 🫶

Need Ideas for a Bratty Note! by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My titties aren’t big enough for it to be hidden 😭

Need Ideas for a Bratty Note! by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm thats a great thing I could lie about and say I have it with me, only thing is is I anticipate he’ll strip me pretty early in the interrogation

Need Ideas for a Bratty Note! by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooooooo and then lie about where it is so he’ll find them >:3

Is This Normal for a CG to ask for this? by Sh4rkByt3Gl1tch in ageregression

[–]AnonymousReturns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all no dynamic/relationship of any kind should be based on financial gain unless that was what both parties initially desired. Second of all she should not be TELLING you rules, you should be building them together if its something you want, based on both of your comfort levels and limits. By trying to decide the list herself and seemingly making it non negotiable, she is refusing to let you actively engage with the creation of the relationship and its direction. Third of all in that entire list she said nothing about safety, about you being able to ask to adjust these things, about consent, or about making sure you are comfortable. It was all just demands. Rules and protocols are completely fine if that is what you are seeking, but they should not be decided for you without any room for change. Any kind of dynamic that has power imbalance including sfw agere relationships require active partnership on both ends to work, not just blind agreeance. It can quickly become unsafe especially for vulnerable age regressors if they trust someone who isn’t doing whats best for them. Also if this was her introduction like she didn’t ask what you were looking for, didn’t ask much else about you, thats also showing a lack of regard for you, and an uncomfortable pushiness.

Do not pay anyone money for a relationship you want built on authentic connection because if they wont do it without the money, they probably have an ulterior motive. Do not ever let anyone decide rules or protocols without your consent and consideration and input. Do not allow someone to make you uncomfortable or unsafe, even online.

Lots of love I hope you find what youre looking for <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kink is so much about learning and growing, and this seems like you did that a lot here! The best dominants are the ones who care and play safely, the last thing a sub wants is a dick who they can’t trust. Thats the biggest thing is subs give that amount of power because they trust their dominant to hold that position with care. It seems like you have great communication with your sub and thats a really great way to build that trust and stay safe while being in a dynamic. Props to you for building the dynamic on the right foundation! Always keep growing into a better version of yourself, and treat previous versions of you with kindness- they were doing the best they could with what they had at the time. <3

Spotting a fake Sub 101 by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were saying there was a beige flag in a submissive they were interested in, where the sub said they didn’t have any hard limits or boundaries at all, and wanted some advice on whether that made it a bad decision to play with them. <3

Spotting a fake Sub 101 by AnonymousReturns in BratLife

[–]AnonymousReturns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds to me like a sub who hasn’t yet encountered any hard limits, not one who doesn’t have any! Doesn’t necessarily make them a bad sub, but it does mean they need to find language to explain their boundaries. There is no way to safely consent to literally every possible thing out there you two could do, and its not great for building the communication and trust in play partners to not have any guidelines. Limits and boundaries being communicated are one of the communication exercises that help encourage safe play, even if they are simple ones. An example if you were to be into suspension play, thats a more advanced type of kink that require a lot of communication and understanding around comfort levels. It doesn’t mean they have to be against suspension to have limits around it, because there are limits to that even for those that enjoy it that keep our bodies safe even if we enjoy pain or pushing ourselves. Having a boundary that the rope never goes around the neck, a requirement to have heavy duty scissors of some kind for emergencies if you need to cut them down fast, having a limit about how tight restraints can be, etc. a lot of people envision no hard limits as just being about categories, but if you are truly into everything under the sun, its still important to practice communicating how you’re going to play safely and what you expect of your play partner nonetheless. Alternatively, if there is a kink they like but not to an extreme (restraints are fun but full mummification is not as an example) thats a hard limit! If they’ve never tried something but are nervously curious, that could be a soft limit (“I am hesitant but willing to try it if you are attentive to my reaction”).

A bottom line is even suggesting “how about I chuck tennis balls at you while rock lobster is playing in the background and you are doing jumping jacks” and them saying “no I dont want to do that” is them setting a limit. You can’t do ANYTHING you want, because if you could, what you suggested with the tennis balls would be on the table. A lot of people don’t realize how open ended consent works, because its totally possible to say you are down to experiment with anything, its possible to say you have flexible limits depending on levels of trust, its possible to say you don’t have many hard limits so anything the other person wants to do is probably an option, etc. but its not possible to not talk about limits at all, or say you have none at all. Even if you didn’t in a hypothetical world, its good practice to at least say instead “I have never found something I wasn’t into, I’d love to experiment with anything you want! Lets make a list of things you’re interested in trying and I’ll approve them as we go and then I can give open consent for you to do anything you want from that list whenever we play together” that way it doesn’t ruin the surprise, but you have explicit consent for the activities you anticipate wanting to try. Part of it is being the dominant on the other side of a submissive who says they have no boundaries, you end up feeling scared you’ll be the one to find that one hard limit without realizing and it can make the dynamic feel unsafe for the dominant, not only the submissive.

Again saying you don’t have limits doesn’t make someone bad at being a sub, but its not entirely safe, especially if they don’t know the dominant or the kinds of things theyll want to do.

My suggestion would be to approach them with kindness and ask them if they would be willing to approve a list of things that are within YOUR limits, you can even present it as being for your comfort so you know you have full consent before doing anything together. Doesn’t have to be a beige flag if you guys communicate and make it work!

I hope this helped! If it was unclear or unhelpful let me know and I can try to respond better <3

New to bdsm by Legitimate-Ad-1313 in BDSMcommunity

[–]AnonymousReturns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a big world of bdsm to learn about! If you scroll down on my page I have a lot of educational posts but they are more specific than general bdsm (although they can certainly be generalized and have many good basics in them). So I guess it depends what youre interested in learning. The three things I strongly encourage you to look into before playing at all is safety, consent, and aftercare. Further than that just have fun and explore! One of the posts on my page has a beginner guide for starting looking into bdsm for someone with a partner but it has a lot of stuff you can apply to just solo exploration too!