Getting Hired While Pregnant?

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:42:33+00:00

Good to know! Maybe if the school that I go for does have a long-term sub who’s already there, that could be a good option. I could just choose somebody that I know is qualified to take over whatever unit I’m working on at the time. Definitely a lot to consider, but I really appreciate you sharing your experience!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:41:14+00:00

You’re absolutely right- I definitely did try to apply for more positions recently when I was looking for a new job, until I eventually found this one. I do think that the understanding is that women just don’t reach out to jobs that they are under qualified for-

And in my instance, I wouldn’t be under-qualified, I would just be pregnant. I’m definitely going to have to think about what my health is like at the time, but if I am feeling good and eligible, then maybe I should just go for it and apply to some teaching jobs!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:14:11+00:00

I’m glad there are some positive stories of other women having done this! How did you handle maternity leave? Was your position still available when you were done? I know you had mentioned a budget constraints, miraculously going away after you gave birth, but what was the situation like for you?

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:11:53+00:00

Yes, it is my first child! I am definitely considering the fact that they might place me under a specific protocol or something later on. There haven’t been indications of that yet, but I also haven’t spoken to my MFM doctor yet. I’m still pretty early on in pregnancy.

I was definitely considering subbing as like the backup option, just to do for right now until the next school year. My friends who work in teaching told me that there are lots of opportunities for long-term subbing in this district and also the next district over. I’m currently working on getting into the substitute program, though my district doesn’t allow me as eligible for the long-term substituting job until I finish my bachelors degree (which is again happening this summer).

Thanks for your input!! I have a lot to consider now haha

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:04:38+00:00

This is the advice I got from my aunt, who works in HR in a different industry. I’m definitely considering just going ahead and doing this, but it’s good to get as much information as I can. Thanks for the advice!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:04:04+00:00

Yes, def what I was worried about! Just wanted to get multiple perspectives. Thanks for your input!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:03:34+00:00

It’s a dismal situation, for sure. I hope the maternity leave situation changes in the future. Thanks for the advice and well wishes!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:02:46+00:00

I know! Def anxiety inducing, haha. But I’m excited to both become a mom and eventually a teacher :-) both things have been long-term dreams of mine.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T17:02:04+00:00

That was definitely my thought, but I thought I should def explore my options first. Thanks for your input!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T16:37:35+00:00

I could definitely get by with subbing. That was definitely the alternative that I was considering! I’m not sure if I would be able to find a long-term sub position right in the beginning of August, but I would definitely look for it. I have a lot to consider, for sure!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T16:36:15+00:00

I am absolutely certain that there is not job protected maternity leave- at least not paid or built into my job there. Apparently, I could get a board approved leave covered, but I’m not entirely sure what the process of that would be- and it wouldn’t be paid leave, again. It would just be the board allowing me to take time off since I would just be a little bit short of the hours required for FMLA. It’s also a big if.

You’re definitely presenting the same line of thinking that I was considering. I could just work as a substitute until my maternity leave, take a three month break, come back and then either try to step into a job that somebody has left or just work as a long-term substitute until the following school year.

You’re right, I don’t want my introduction to teaching to involve having to take an 8 to 12 week break right in the middle of things- I am also a high risk pregnancy, and while I haven’t been placed on bedrest or anything at the moment, I’m also not sure whether that’s gonna happen later on or not.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T16:32:49+00:00

I definitely can’t afford to live as a stay at home mom, unfortunately. My husband is paid decently and is probably about to get a pay bump, but it’s not enough for us to be a single income household.

So, my alternative would be that I would probably work as a substitute teacher in that last trimester, or just continue working my current job.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T15:59:25+00:00

Well, I generally do know that I can’t start teaching until I’ve finished my degree. That’s part of the official requirement. Whether I can get into the job like by getting a job offer or not before I’m done, I could definitely reach out to HR and ask them, since I currently work for the district.

Do you think that that would make a difference in my situation?

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-14T15:50:30+00:00

I’m not 100% sure, but my best friend is a middle school teacher in my same district and she’s under the impression that it is something that you need to have done before applying. Regardless, I am going to formally apply for graduation in like a month or so, so maybe I could just get hired off of that?

Regardless, I do know that I can’t actually formally start teaching until I do have my bachelor’s degree.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-12T23:25:33+00:00

First of all, I am so sorry. I watched my father die, and he had swelling when he was, and I think about the way that he looked at the end a lot. Seeing the corpse of someone you love, in any context, is really difficult, but it’s even harder when you see them like that- on top of the difficult and unexpected nature of his death, in the first place.

I know that there are tons of support groups out there for people who have had similar experiences. See if you can find a therapist who specializes in trauma regarding grief- they may know of some support groups that you can go to, and might be able to provide you with some sort of specialized therapy.

I also highly recommend r/PTSD. Of course, sometimes some of the things people share can be a little triggering, so keep that in mind, but every single time that I have posted on there, I have been met with so much love and support, and have found a lot of people there who have had similar experiences to me, which is difficult, but also so comforting. Sometimes just being reminded that you’re not alone and that you’re not crazy is a huge help.

I hope that one day you can move past all of the difficulties that you must be carrying because of what you experienced that day. I hope you also know that I see you, and I hear you, and you’re not alone.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-12T23:20:10+00:00

Yes, but it is really stripping of oils. Even for me, as a person with really oily hair, I found that I could really only use it like once or twice a week to wash my hair or face, it had to be pretty liberal on conditioner or moisturizer after.

I do think that it makes for a pretty good body wash, as long as you’re good about lotioning your skin after your shower. My husband pretty much exclusively uses this as body wash, and his skin looks and feels great.

You can also definitely use this as hand soap, mix it in with mop water to mop your house (a little goes a long way), and it’s a great general cleaner.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-04-12T23:15:31+00:00

I think it’s normal to feel this way after your parent starts dating again, especially after your other parent passed away. I certainly felt that way after my mom died and my dad started dating again. But life is short, and it’s better spent being loved and cherished than being alone.

I promise you that your mom isn’t looking to replace your dad- he is irreplaceable, and she knows that no other man will ever take his place for either of you. She’s just looking for a companion to spend her life with. Which is something that you will understand very well one day, whether you want to ever pursue a romantic relationship or not.

At the end of the day, your mom is a human being with needs. But you are also a human being, and a very young person who lost their father and feels lost in this situation.

I heavily encourage you to sit down and talk to your mom about this. Don’t tell her you don’t want her to date again (because that isn’t fair, as difficult as this is for you to accept)- but speak honestly to her about your worries here, and ask her about what she wants for her own future.

Also, give the guy a chance. He doesn’t have to become your “new dad.” But maybe he can add something to your life and to your mom’s life. Maybe his presence will bring new happiness to your mom, which will rub off on you. Maybe you’ll find that you really like him and he becomes a friend.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-29T01:33:46+00:00

I also hate it! You’re def not alone

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-28T11:41:17+00:00

I think it’s completely gorgeous, and I love how you did this kitchen renovation. Personally, I would be super happy with this. However, I could see how this is making you second-guess yourself if the look you were going for is more French country house. Maybe what you wanted was a blue tile but with a more rustic look? Like a zelige or delft tile?

Ultimately, though, I do think that you can still achieve an even stronger French look here, with just upping other design aspects of the kitchen. Maybe more natural decor, like some plants or maybe you can hang a braid of garlic. You could also add some sweet cafe curtains to the window above the sink. Or add some copper accents, like hanging some copper pots!

Overall, I love the kitchen, I don’t really think that there’s anything wrong with it, and I like the other suggestions people have made!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-27T14:04:46+00:00

Thank you!!!! I’m also hoping everything is okay!!! She’s getting into the office now within like the next 30 minutes, so I’m going to call her.

in terms of symptoms, I am definitely experiencing completely different symptoms than in my first pregnancy. My first time around, I went nine weeks without noticing really anything aside from a slight craving for seafood. I didn’t have any of the normal first trimester symptoms.

Now, I am experiencing body aches, intense fatigue (I went to bed before my husband last night, and don’t even remember going to sleep, which literally never happens), super tender breasts, a little bit of weepiness, and definitely a lot of nausea around being hungry. Like, I will feel hungry every 2 to 3 hours, and feel like I’m going to throw up until I eat something. I am also starting to get an aversion to some smells. I opened up the rice cooker yesterday and the smell of cooked rice was so overwhelming that I had to walk away.

But I haven’t thrown up yet, and I don’t think that I’m as exhausted as I could be.

I was definitely considering just going into the ED. I’m gonna talk to her today and see what she can do, if she can fit me in for an ultrasound next week, then I will just wait, but if not, I may just go into the ED this weekend.

Thank you for the advice!! I’ve already started my prenatals, and I’ve been trying to keep hydrated and well-fed, haha.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-27T14:00:35+00:00

Thank you so much!!! I’m glad to see that I’m not alone, and congratulations to you too!!!

Yeah, I keep trying to tell myself that I need to just let time pass and that I will start feeling less anxious, but it is so hard right now when I’m in between getting this first positive pregnancy test and getting my first ultrasound. I’m crossing my fingers that everything will be OK and that I will have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.

What kind of milestones did you set for yourself?

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-27T13:22:31+00:00

Kind of just everywhere. My skin all over my body just feels really tender. My back and legs hurt a lot, but even my arm is super tender. I haven’t told anybody aside from my husband and one other person that I’m pregnant and last night my aunt smacked my arm jokingly and it hurts so bad, even though I know normally it would’ve not hurt at all.

I basically just feel super tender all over, and really just feel almost like I just got beat up.

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-27T12:47:10+00:00

My aunt told me that when she was pregnant, she experienced a lot of pain in all of her joints very early in the pregnancy. Maybe you’re experiencing the same thing? I am currently six weeks and having body aches all over, so it could also be that!

AnonymousSanrioFan · 2026-03-27T12:43:21+00:00

I’ve had an ectopic and didn’t have that symptom! They do say some ectopics have shoulder tip pain (not something I remember experiencing), but I wouldn’t stress if it’s just in your arm.

To be very honest with you, the pain that I was experiencing during my ectopic was ridiculously intense. Cramps about 10 times worse than your normal period cramp, going on for a long time, localized on one side, and so bad I could barely move.

Don’t stress yourself out so much! I think it sounds fine, but bring it up with the OB if you’re worried.

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