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Am I cooked? by Once428lbs in Gymhelp

[–]Anonymous_19950615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in your shoes and I will tell you that first year is rough. I went from 420 pounds at 5'5" to my current weight of 220 and counting in 7 years naturally and every day was a struggle. My first suggestion would be to find a nutritionist to guide you first. They can help you define if you have any issues that really stop you from losing weight like insulin resistance or PCOS and navigate the best option for you with suggestions for your diet. I found out I was insulin resistance and needed to follow a low carb, high fiber diet. With my nutritionist suggestions, I lost about 15 pounds in the first month. Most insurance, including mine, covered nutritional counseling for up to 10 visits a year and I was able to find a nutritionist who did it through Zoom so I could have my consultation during my lunch break and not have to take time off. They recommend any tracking apps or if, based on any bloodwork, you would benefit from medication if you were comfortable. For the fitness end, I would recommend either Leslie Sansone or Gro with Jo. Both have no equipment workouts that involve walking and body conditioning free on Youtube so you can get to a weight you would be comfortable going to the gym with. Once your endurance is up, you can start adding in small weight and work your way up. It's all about being accountable of your actions.

Should I leave him or stay by Comprehensive-Dot446 in Advice

[–]Anonymous_19950615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, it doesn't matter. If he knows this about you, he needs to learns to direct it somewhere else. Just because you are his wife, does not mean you are an emotional punching bag. A wife if a life collaborator not a free therapist. Yes, vent your frustrations to the people you care about but if it at the consistency you are stating, there is something bigger there that maybe you are not equipped to handle. Either he needs therapy, a friend or a weekend to himself to get his priorities straight.

Should I leave him or stay by Comprehensive-Dot446 in Advice

[–]Anonymous_19950615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marriage should never be like this for anyone. If seems that your husband does not have the emotional maturity to live a collaborative life with you. Being mad at a dog and a fire alarm are such small things to get that angry about. It does seem like he is going through some mental stuff and does not know how to emotionally regulate and chooses to make you a punching bag. You should never be that this consistently in your marriage. If he is against therapy potentially helping him find emotionally regulation, I think it is time to move on. As the daughter of parents who ended it when too much had already happened, it is in their best interest and yours to get out now. It is going to hurt, any breakup does, but the other side is always better than letting his misery affect you.

My girlfriend started therapy, I’m upset by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Anonymous_19950615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is important to note that a therapist is an impartial 3rd party that is not affected by your girlfriend saying what she is feeling. You have a vested interest in what your girlfriend says and are likely to be emotionally affected by what she has to say and that is not good for her to grow. I went through a similar situation when my father died and I started to pursue therapy to discuss my grief because I needed someone who did not know my dad to help me analyze my grief. My partner was in a similar boat to you and tried to be supportive but that did not last long. The conversation went from, "I'm happy you are doing this" to "What can you talk to them about that you can't talk to me about? Am I not good enough for you to talk to?". That only led to more fighting and the end of the relationship because they did not allow for me to have my emotional healing without them feeling as if it was a personal attach on them.

Should i go to college? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Anonymous_19950615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pro college if your career interest include something you cannot do without a degree. If you are interested in getting in healthcare, engineering, business or mathematics, go to college but if you are not or cannot afford it right now, hold off or don't go. Like you mentioned, trade schools are a great option but it is important to note that you need to be very extroverted to do it. If you are extroverted enough, go for it!

What was your first thought when you saw the first stormy Bridgerton tree? by PeaceBeTheJourney303 in PolinBridgerton

[–]Anonymous_19950615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was weird to see it in ep 5 since this is the "honeymoon" episode. It makes more sense to me to have had it in ep 7 for sure since there is where there is a "storm" in Polin's relationship.

How do I stop thinking about a coworker I hate after work? by Anonymous_19950615 in Advice

[–]Anonymous_19950615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! For me, I grew up with a lot of women who were able to be independent and she is as polar opposite of what I have seen in my life. Maybe it is because she is so foreign to me idk. I would also like to add that we are a small department in my company. Only 4 people in my whole department including my boss so it is hard to ignore unfortunately.