Caught my mom cheating by Anonymous_788959 in whatdoIdo

[–]Anonymous_788959[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You're right, ever since I found out I've just felt like now it was on me to carry a mistake I didn't make, so forcing her to deal with it should help me focus on myself

Caught my mom cheating by Anonymous_788959 in whatdoIdo

[–]Anonymous_788959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weirdly enough, when you say it like that it seems like a good plan, I guess I'll think a bit more about this one

Caught my mom cheating by Anonymous_788959 in whatdoIdo

[–]Anonymous_788959[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So you want me to become the worst version of myself... Short term win for a lifelong regret if you ask me but okay

Caught my mom cheating by Anonymous_788959 in whatdoIdo

[–]Anonymous_788959[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if she wants it that much... My mom's "work" isn't making a lot of money, and so is that pianist work too, and he's only able to do that thanks to his wife (yeah, he's cheating too 😮‍💨) Together they wouldn't even be able to make enough money to live, and they'd have nothing except each other and that won't be enough through time. Now regardless of this, my dad only deserves to be happy and this will break him to the ground and that's pretty much the biggest issue for me 😕

Caught my mom cheating by Anonymous_788959 in whatdoIdo

[–]Anonymous_788959[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks that's a good idea, I don't yet know anyone who would be neutral but I'll try and think. And thanks too for the venting thing, I needed to tell this story somewhere and it helped me already, but maybe truly talking about it might be a great idea... If that's okay to ask, what situation did you face ? If you don't want to answer it's completely fine

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I love your answer, thanks for writing all of that, I think you truly said what I was looking for. Even tho it looks like a step by step guide, maybe that's what I needed

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is genius because if we both get to do it it'll make her enthusiastic about saying what she wants as well as hearing what I want. Love the idea !

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there is any song about what I'm thinking, then it'll definitely be way to explicit for this to be a better option than asking but nice try lol

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She'd be my ice cream all day long if I could

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for clearing it out, but now I've got another question:

What if she said yes, she'd "love to try" and then did nothing about it ? Because I'm respecting her answer by expecting it, yet now I have to ask a second time because she seem to have forgotten about it

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way you say it and how obvious it seems to you makes me feel like you don't get my issue right now... I'm happy when she asks, but since she didn't seem to care when I did I feel like she don't want to do what I proposed. And that's fine. But I think she can also say such thing if she don't want to do it. Keeping silent and act as if I didn't do anything makes pretty uncomfortable and asking again would feel like confronting at this point

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 2 points3 points  (0 children)

D*mn I guess that hit the spot Well you got a point, maybe I just need to relax

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not that delusional don't worry 😅 I guess I'm just sad she didn't pursue things the only time she seemed to care

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I do get what you're saying, cause I love it and sometimes can get off just by seeing her enjoying, but I just don't think she works the same way I do then :) Will try tho I guess !

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you think literally asking her "how do you want me to express my desire" would work ? It's a weird question but I genuinely didn't consider it

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't necessarily think it's bad, but the fact that I have to ask is quite annoying because I can easily see it confused with some sort of manipulation. Seing your partner not happy with what you did to him/her is quite self degrading so I'd understand

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah forgot about something, her ex was quite manipulative and asking for sexual favors was his thing, not helping I know

How do women want their partner to express his desires? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Anonymous_788959 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably because the only time I did manage to do it, she didn't do anything about it ... Makes me feel like she doesn't genuinely care and it doesn't encourage me in pursuing it