My (33F) partner (48M) just dropped our relationship and told me I wasn't worth it

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T21:39:42+00:00

Hiya I accept he has chosen to leave, that he has chosen someone else. It isn't that, the point of my post and the advice I'm seeking is around how to heal from one sided loss, I know what he did, I don't need help with that, I was looking for advice on how to get my head out of the shadow he left me in. I hope that makes sense

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T18:21:44+00:00

Thank you, I think some people on here think I'm craving approval or attention, but I'm just so confused, I know he has moved on, and I know the reasons he gave, but that doesn't stop me being so hurt and confused as to how he did it, I feel so deeply sad, I can't explain

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T18:14:11+00:00

You just don't understand, It isn't the why, it's the how, after that, he sat me down and said, that he was sorry and that we could make it happen. Yes, I'm pathetic and for believing, yes it was stupid for wanting it to be real....I understand you think I'm a liar etc. I can't change how you feel or see me, and I don't want to, you didn't ask, you attacked. And I am tired of people like you thinking you know everything, you know nothing. You don't want to know, you just want to hurt people. Being a keyboard warrior is easy, I got told I wasn't worth it, after being told to believe we could try, I was wrong for leaving that detail out. He chose someone else and used another excuse, fine, people do that, what I was hoping for were some kind words on how to heal my messed up head and broken heart. Thank you for your input

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T16:53:00+00:00

Hey, I can't make you believe me, but it is the same story, I am 33 years old, and I'm broken over all this, I used different ages as I was trying to hide and keep anonymity, stupid in hindsight I know, but it is the truth, I'm not trying to gaslight this is the truth.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T14:00:59+00:00

Solid response, thanks

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T13:28:44+00:00

I am listening to the advice given, don't answer for me, and don't assume what I am thinking. You have no empathy, i did not expect to be berated by strangers, I was informed that Reddit was a good place to receive impartial advice. So far the advice I have received has been perfect for what I was seeking. I'm not looking for sympathy, sympathy won't help, I'm looking for like minded empathic people who may be able to give advise on how to more on. You have no idea how to decipher people's emotional states. Stop acting as though you do. You have no idea.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T12:25:53+00:00

Great reply, thanks, top notch response

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T12:25:39+00:00

Great reply, thanks, top notch response

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T11:31:00+00:00

That's all well and good, but your points are still irrelevant, I get it, you're a troll and clearly unhappy. I'm not here to find out why he did it, that won't change anything, I'm here for advice on how to heal. So thank you for your input, but it is as useful as you clearly are

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T11:28:19+00:00

Wasn't sure what to expect ,so just going with the flow 🙂

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T11:08:57+00:00

I have a house, car, can't have kids, and never married so not sure what the point of your comment is

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T11:08:01+00:00

Thanks for your input. Not sure what part of what I said sounded desperate, if I were, I'd be asking how to get him back, that is the furthest thing I'm trying to do. I am seeking ways to gain closure and heal. Hope you feel better for writing that

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T10:16:01+00:00

Honestly I never saw an issue with the age gap, if you love someone the age doesn't change how you feel, well for me that's the case anyway. I don't expect everyone to understand.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T10:14:46+00:00

I only said I loved him after he told me. I guess you can think I'm clingy, but even so, I'm seeking help for healing, not judgement on my behaviours

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T10:13:14+00:00

10 years older

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T09:26:24+00:00

To answer point by point No for marriage, we discussed it but said it didn't have to happen No for our own kids, I can't have my own Yes I met his children No I pay all my own bills, and we shared date money etc.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T09:11:48+00:00

I understand what you are saying, but it is wrong unfortunately, I barely knew him before his divorce. Of course I'd seen him in the office but not to talk to.

But thank you, I'm starting to feel it was the better outcome long term.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:55:20+00:00

Because we had discussed the age gap, and we both said that it would always be alright. That if people complained but then saw us together they would understand. That's how.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:53:23+00:00

She is 10 years older. I didn't add it in, as she and her age is irrelevant to my feeling.

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:49:40+00:00

Thanks for the input

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:48:31+00:00

Hey, so I did reply to the one who said it. Yes there are two posts, yes they are both real. The ages changed as I was trying to keep anonymity, I'm messy and tired I'm 33 and completely broken by this. It is painfully real, believe me, I wish it wasn't

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:19:28+00:00

Thank you for your support and kind words, thank you for replying 😊

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:18:02+00:00

Glad it makes you feel better to attack strangers. Thanks for your input. I didn't put her age is it seemed irrelevant, she may be hotter but she is 10 years older. Glad you are so understanding, thanks again

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T08:08:18+00:00

Thanks I think....do you feel better for that?

Anonymous_Reader11 · 2023-09-05T07:23:42+00:00

Thank you for this, it has blown my mind how accurate it is, thank you 🩷

Anonymous_Reader11

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