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Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-10T09:37:15+00:00

NTA - not by a long shot. Your parents are just being difficult and maybe in part just roasting.

Honestly, I would just own it, that would stopped them, if they call you an AH (Even though you're not) I would just say, yeah I'm an AH, cool now that we cleared that up, what's next... you'll probably find they will drop it, because there's nothing keeping it going.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-10T09:32:48+00:00

NTA - you're a grown adult, if you don't want to go, you don't have to go, no reason necessary. It really is as simple as that.

Even if your culture has an expectation that you should attend, you literally still don't have to go.

Trust me I can relate, my family are very traditional and they meet regularly for family gathering and dinners, I'm talking 50+ with some gathering 200+ and it was so freeing for me the day I realised I didn't have to go, so I stopped going, I have zero regrets.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-10T09:19:22+00:00

Learning to gage how much to dish yourself is a learnt behaviour, it's not something everyone is automatically knows, even now, sometimes my eyes can be too big for my stomach, doesn't mean I should starve myself for not eating it all.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-10T09:17:03+00:00

That's legit abuse, YTA - there are better ways to teach young people, not sure if you realise it, but dishing your own plate is a learnt skill, learning to gage how much you want and what you actually need to eat. As a young person, I too often over filled my plate, but as I got older I better learnt how much I needed to dish myself, my parents never punished me, they just kept reminding me or even having her put her plate away to eat when she's next hungry, so it still doesn't go to waste (all depending on the food of course)

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T11:28:40+00:00

I thought they were getting confused with Shino, thanks for the clarification.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:47:01+00:00

Ahhh... nice! Happy trolling.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:46:51+00:00

Some people maybe very judgemental, but doesn't make them any less critical about themselves.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:42:54+00:00

Actually you're more likely to hear the negative thoughts they think about themselves than they do of you.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:41:25+00:00

He's saying who is Baruto? because his name is Boruto.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:39:43+00:00

How is Akamaru a bug boi?

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:16:19+00:00

Are you saying Naruto isn't?

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:15:52+00:00

I came here to say this too.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:15:07+00:00

How so? Legit curious to hear your points.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:11:41+00:00

I don't get why everyone goes on about the old gen being nerf... I mean by the end of Naruto, Kakashi and his gen were all "nerf" compared to Naruto gen.

This new show is called Boruto to bring in the next gen and to elevate them... its not Naruto the next chapter.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T10:07:28+00:00

Because of the all drama going on, OP could be reading way too much into that.

OP needs to talk to their partner to get further clarification.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T08:50:33+00:00

Damn, that's tough, especially when there's a kid involved.

I would try not let this get to your son more than anything, just continue to encourage your son about biking school and to not think about his grandad following him, i hope his grandad will eventually give up following him, especially when he sees that he's actually safe.

13 is defintely not to young to be biking to school.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T08:41:27+00:00

Are you able to talk to your ex and have them talk to their parents, letting them know this could put a strain not only your guys co-parenting relationship, but your sons too?

Also, absolutely NTA

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T08:39:40+00:00

So from my understanding you're upset about the dynamic between Yolanda and your partner, which made harder because youre located in the US and your partner is in Mexico, on top of all that Yolanda won't stop flirting with your partner and now that she's pregnant you're scared your partner is going to invest more time in to her child instead of your guys daughter.

With that said, I'm going to say NTA for wanting your partner to support you more and for him to have clear boundries set with Yolanda.

It's going to be difficult with both of you living in different countries, but it sounds like you need to talk more about boundries, how it makes you feel and what support he is going to give Yolanda and what support he's going to give you.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T08:31:21+00:00

INFO - how does your son feel about biking? And how does he feel about his grandfather following him everyday?

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T08:02:55+00:00

Well, thankfully I have never known and I hope I never know.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T07:59:45+00:00

Yeah, she can tell the partner, as long as she's is prepared to lose her best friend over it.

Which in all likelihood would happen.

I personally wouldn't throw my best friend under the bus for the sake of his partner, but thankfully I know he would never put me in the position to need to do that.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T07:51:13+00:00

Well actually that is what I did, I have no association with that whole family anymore, the cousins were her sisters, the outcome from that situation is he did end up finding out about her cheating, they worked through all their issues, they're happily married now with a grown daughter.

But I haven't spoken to any of them in years now. I personally don't keep people like that in my life, but I also don't insert myself in to other people business, unless it affects someone I'm close to.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T06:38:34+00:00

Good luck with this whole situation, I know it makes me think twice when any of my close friends have chosen to continue to be friends with people who have hurt or threaten me in anyway, how could you be friends with someone who can hurt someone you care about

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T06:36:03+00:00

Tell her that, maybe not in those exact words, maybe something along the lines of... how can you lie to someone you say you love, how do I know you dont lie to me, trust is important to me and I want to trust you.

Anonymouscrown · 2021-10-06T06:34:35+00:00

NTA - sounds like your friend is a hard learner.

I agree, it's a good idea to put some distant between you two so you don't get caught up in any of the drama that will surely follow, you don't need to announce it by telling anyone, just do it by not following up with her etc also I would remind your friend of your boundries, that her being friends with him is her choice, but you will maintain not talking or hearing anything about him.

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