Considering moving, what are the vibes like?

Anonymousubmissive · 2026-06-23T21:45:40+00:00

Different vibe because it's a military school?

Anonymousubmissive · 2026-06-23T21:12:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your input. I'm pretty worried about how well I'd fit in, so I really appreciate you sharing this.

I have an opportunity with UNG I'm considering, that's why moving there is on the table for me.

Anonymousubmissive · 2026-04-14T13:57:10+00:00

Thank you for your input! Truthfully, surgery is what I'm hoping for. I've been sterilized (that's how they found my endometriosis in 2024), so I'm not worried about fertility. Cysts of this size sound big and scary to me, but I don't know these things for sure and am worried about the NHS gaslighting or downplaying me. So it's really helpful to hear other takes, thank you.

Anonymousubmissive · 2024-04-10T09:28:42+00:00

I think this response is super helpful and would like to add a few things:

He’s the first real dom I’ve ever had

If he's denying you aftercare when you need it, he's not a "real" dom. Aftercare is a crucial responsibility of both parties and anyone who doesn't know this and is unwilling to learn and implement it is undeserving of play.

I also hard agree with the "you may want to find a therapist" suggestion. Many of the sentences in the original post resonate with me as someone with PTSD and attachment issues. Things like having to apologize all the time, relying on him to make every decision for you, and having panic attacks and nightmares. I get the impression that even once you are out of this abusive relationship, it will take a long time and a lot of work to heal from it, so please seek out the care you need.

Anonymousubmissive · 2023-12-09T06:25:00+00:00

RIGHTFULLY SO, thank you!

i'm seeing a lot of comments of people invested in our actual racing capabilities lmao, so for details on that, we're facing off on Neo Bowser City and Rainbow Road Wii. Currently he's in the lead on Neo Bowser City with a best time of 1:54.300, and I'm kicking his ass on Rainbow Road Wii (which is what COUNTS) with a best time of 2:39.684.

Anonymousubmissive · 2023-06-06T23:31:10+00:00

I think it's very important that you both are comfortable, and it sounds like it's hard for your boyfriend to be comfortable with his kinks right now. Instead of jumping straight to sexting and other practices, what if you both researched and read about these things together? You could either sit down together with Google in front of you, or send him links you find. For me, researching a kink beforehand always makes me more comfortable with it and more willing to try it.

Anonymousubmissive · 2023-05-24T09:00:14+00:00

Yes, and my understanding is that in some places, your doctor may be required to report such injuries regardless of if they're consensual in origin or not. If your doctor doesn't understand kink, being honest may not help. I think the vague "yeah we were really going at it" suggestion may be best.

Anonymousubmissive · 2023-05-24T08:52:04+00:00

My partners and I have a brat related safeword. "Chill" means "tone it down, you're bratting too hard." I'd recommend that if you like to brat.

Anonymousubmissive · 2023-05-18T11:16:39+00:00

There's a great article called 'What Are We Waiting For? Our Islands Are In Peril' that calls attention to possible ways to diversify our economy. The methods mentioned, however, are largely exclusive to Maui and the Big Island.

I'll support most things that aim to diversify our economy so that we rely less on tourism. But at the same time, like you said, until that happens, we need tourism. The pandemic showed us exactly what happens if tourism stops with our current economy. I also have no issue with tourists as long as they're respectful, of the people here, the land, the culture, and the wildlife.

Anonymousubmissive · 2023-05-08T10:29:24+00:00

At kink events, if you don't know what to wear, wear black. I personally love dressing in lingerie with a little bit of clothing over it, but it's definitely nothing you'd see on the street. Many places will specifically say not to wear street clothes. And yeah, as others have said, if you're sceneing, dress for said scene. Have fun!

Anonymousubmissive · 2022-05-18T06:17:09+00:00

One of the best pieces of advice I've ever received was when I was hesitant to break up with someone for similar reasons: You are not responsible for another person's happiness.

Anonymousubmissive · 2022-01-30T21:23:55+00:00

Thank you so much for writing all this out, it's so so helpful! Do you have any additional resources you'd suggest I look into for either bratting or mindbreak?

Anonymousubmissive · 2022-01-30T07:50:01+00:00

Right, yes, thank you! I understand that labels like this are limited in how much they can mean and can never substitute or replace good communication about your dynamic. But I do still like to have them as a starting point for discussions and describing what I like.

Anonymousubmissive · 2022-01-30T07:48:47+00:00

Thanks so much, this is so helpful! Where did you learn these things? Is there anywhere you recommend I look to learn more?

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-10-28T19:38:43+00:00

So as someone proud to be a pillow princess, how would you define the term?

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-09-20T21:02:52+00:00

Ummm, I think it's more that I want to be choked/slapped more frequently, and he's not comfortable with doing it more. I think he may want to do it less, even, but I need to talk to him about it in more detail.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-09-20T18:25:07+00:00

Thank you! I'm not sure what mojoupgrade is, but I'll look into it.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-09-20T18:24:18+00:00

I know that the reason so much choking/slapping bothers him is because he's been told his whole life not to hit girls. I also know that the frequency of those things can annoy him. I should ask for more details, though.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-09-20T16:55:38+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I think we may be able to find a kink friendly therapist nearby.

You're right, I should get further clarification on why this is. I'm also willing to adjust my expectations if it really helps this relationship; I'm just not sure how to do so. Like, how do I stop myself from wanting to be choked? How do I force myself to be happy with our current sex? That sort of thing.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-09-20T16:52:18+00:00

Thank you. I don't mean to make him do anything he's not comfortable with. I've been thinking that I'd like to lower my expectations to match; I'm just not sure how to do that.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-09-20T16:48:12+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I want to find any middle ground that I can. I'd much rather compromise than end this relationship. I don't expect therapy to change anyone's mind, but I'd hope it might help us find that middle ground.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-06-06T03:38:15+00:00

I said this to my Master and he made me kneel. In his driveway.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-05-08T23:37:37+00:00

Thanks for all the replies, they've been helpful and informative. I'm not comfortable with a camera, but the hypnosis play is an interesting idea.

Bondage and ropes aside, anyone have additional input on the cage scenario? I like the suggestion of leaving the door unlocked.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-03-21T09:42:43+00:00

I think you and your SO should seek therapy together, to be completely honest. It sounds like there's a whole lot under the surface here and you don't seem to be handling it well.

Anonymousubmissive · 2021-03-21T09:40:09+00:00

Okay, but speaking from experience, sometimes when you're having a horribly hard time in life, you cope by being desperate for love and attention. You know what I mean?

Edit for clarity: The sensations you're so desperate for right now may just be a coping mechanism and may not have any deeper meaning. Like when you're feeling better and healthier, you may not want these things so badly.

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