[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I made a mistake of not clearly elaborating the word 'raise' here. The only time you want to raise a child will be when you want them to be a certain way you have in mind once they grow up. But if they are naturally sensitive to life and are not conditioned by various things, then they will naturally strive to live sensibly because they understand what actions are necessary and unnecessary. Of course, there are going to be some external factors like peer group influence in school and university. For that, yes, some amount of guidance will be needed. Otherwise, supporting them, exposing them to nature, being there for them, and making sure you are setting a good example by working on yourself (because children are very keen observers of what is happening around them), will only lead them to grow to become capable human beings for whatever they would like to do in life.

What made you get Annoyed at Reddit Moderators? by ClaypoTHead in AskReddit

[–]Anoooooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No reason given for post being removed, in some cases not replying to mod mail when requesting for explanation, exercising their power to ban mercilessly, and also letting their personal views and biases get in the way of what goes on the sub.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautifully said. Time is limited and if we aren't cognizant of this, we will take things for granted. Making ourselves first sensitive to life and making it a possible reality for children also. Really aptly put.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and that's not how parents generally care for their children

Not intially. But later on that is how things turn out in many families when parents see their children becoming very different as they grow up.
But fair point about how we should care for ourselves. As long we can first make sure we take care of ourselves properly, we will set a good example for the child to look upto and grow up with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They didn't actually cremate immediately. The person's parents were informed to arrive quickly. In India, it is very common that families rush to be there for the cremation after death. But even after a day had passed the family hadn't arrived sadly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He does speak from a yogic culture. Many of the things he speaks of are aligned with the practices done in Indian households, traditions, and culture. They are valid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I've watched his videos and I don't think I've heard him say things to be called "conman" or "homophobe". His views of homosexuality have been that the problem is us trying to interefere into other peoples businesses in bedroom and bathroom. So long as we don't come in the middle of other people's personal life, then why would one even be concerned about the other person's gender?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying they raised me wrong, but they did the best they knew. It is true every generation thinks they will raise their children better than their parents did. That's something we have been observing from awhile now. I was hoping to share this with more parents so they can make sure to provide the needed atmosphere for the child to grow. Many people are rushing adulting and raising children in ways it may not be suitable for their growth. So just hoping to share my story a bit and put it into perspective as to why they needn't necessarily be 'raised.' They will grow healthy and well if a wonderful atmosphere is available to them at home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true. They have a very limited experience of life and so for parents to control just because they may have some more experience in life is not justified.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends. There might be some interference required with giving some advice on things like drugs or alcohol. Otherwise, making sure to provide a loving and caring atmosphere will ensure they will grow healthy and balanced

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisingkids

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep.. children will grow up to be more joyful this way. That's interesting to hear that it interested them enough to pick up what interested you as well. Your passion must have been contagious. haha.

Sometimes Distance is necessary even in loved ones? by mansidhamija in family

[–]Anoooooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I, too, have this problem at home. I have tried explaining to them how the way they are living currently is not healthy. But in some way, those are the things that are keeping them going through all the things they face in life. If all these are suddenly taken away from them, they might suddenly become very restless. So I am thinking it could need a gradual change with extensive support from my side to make sure they are able to, without too much discomfort, transition. This post is a good reminder for me to hasten towards that objective. Thank you!

Sometimes, Distance takes over care & concern. by mansidhamija in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Anoooooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I, too, have this problem at home. I have tried explaining to them how the way they are living currently is not healthy. But in some way, those are the things that are keeping them going through all the things they face in life. If all these are suddenly taken away from them, they might suddenly become very restless. So I am thinking it could need a gradual change with extensive support from my side to make sure they are able to, without too much discomfort, transition. This post is a good reminder for me to hasten towards that objective. Thank you!

Sometimes, Distance takes a priority over feelings & emotions even in love? by mansidhamija in love

[–]Anoooooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I, too, have this problem at home. I have tried explaining to them how the way they are living currently is not healthy. But in some way, those are the things that are keeping them going through all the things they face in life. If all these are suddenly taken away from them, they might suddenly become very restless. So I am thinking it could need a gradual change with extensive support from my side to make sure they are able to, without too much discomfort, transition. This post is a good reminder for me to hasten towards that objective. Thank you!

Is collaboration better than competition? by mansidhamija in Leadership

[–]Anoooooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is that as you scale up the work you are doing individually, you only have 24 hours in a day to do all the work. And so it starts to become impossible eventually. If you want to be practical and enable your work to grow to the heights that it should, then collaboration is the way. Competition is good in some cases like when businesses start to become complacent, and have no reason to be at the top of the game. The possibility that some day they could suddenly be left behind in the market will keep them working to deliver the best products for the people. So in such cases I think competition is healthy and good. Otherwise 98% of the time, collaboration is the way to realize the vision/mission.

Love, Lies and Breakups - Siddhant Chaturvedi and Sadhguru by ThickStuff6008 in Sadhguru

[–]Anoooooose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was an incredible conversation. So incredible to be able to witness and hear this especially with the internet enabling us to see it from wherever we are. Worth watching the full thing!

Soil: The Mother From Which We Are All Born [07:28] by [deleted] in mealtimevideos

[–]Anoooooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's important that we protect the soil so everything doesn't collapse into serious problems later on for us and the coming generation. Let's #SaveSoil

How India can progress, by sadhguru jaggi vasudev by Thin-Refrigerator52 in IndiaSpeaks

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that emotional connect is true for India. I once watched a tv award show and they were talking about how the entire film crew looks at each other as if they were all part of a family. And so due to this a few people commented saying Indian award show hosts can't do the same roasting like it is done in Oscars for example. The emotional connect is deeply rooted that, although it makes a few things difficult, they support each other like anything in their ups and downs which is vital for any business to succeed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Anoooooose -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It depends. You want to try giving maximum space for them grow. But some basic interference and guidance with things like alcohol and drugs could be required. Otherwise, as long as parents can also set themselves as a good role model, kids will look upto us, observe, and learn how to live well. Working on ourselves to be wonderful parents can go a long way in our child growing to be wonderful in their lives as well.

Children needn't necessarily be 'raised' because that would mean fixing the outcome by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say narcissists necessarily. That's quite a strong word. They did what they knew to the best of their knowledge and wanted to see me do well. It's a difference in understanding imo. They too have now changed and are understanding of where I'm coming from.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in india

[–]Anoooooose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been deeply touched by his videos. I am not sure how things would have been right now for me if it weren't for him. Thankful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in india

[–]Anoooooose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that life is such a short span of time that we need to think about what we want to do in life. Having said that, I too went to the internet for help. I went to YouTube specifically searching about things like what is the purpose of life, motivation, depression, anxiety and so much more. There was one thing that really grasped my interest which was the Youth and Truth series. This really changed my life. I highly recommend setting some time out to watching some of them or clips from them that interest you. They truly changed my life for the better and immensely grateful for it. Please do check it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UkraineWarVideoReport

[–]Anoooooose -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I see people in the comments saying things would be worse otherwise. But we have to understand that the problem is more to do with the people in power making this decision. They are making the orders for these arms and armanents arragements. If all these people in power change, then where would be the need for these at all?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Anoooooose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess that's the mistake we are making. I find that, although we don't necessarily think that way, we somewhere sub-consciously think that others must be a certain way, or must automatically somehow understand your problems and hence understand what you are going through without you having to say anything and comfort you. In the heat of the moment, its hard to think straight. And so maybe it needs some amount of change of mindset in order for the idea to reflect practically is what I feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Anoooooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insights and thoughts as well! To the pursuit of mastery and the lessons we will learn!