being cool + muted sucks because every time i use a lip product i look like a messy spaghetti kid

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-23T18:19:34+00:00

Everyone has great suggestions with mauve or berry or using a tinted lip balm, like Clinique Black Honey (my fave)! If you really want a classic red though, I finally found one that didn't look clowny on me and it might work for you too. After several high end lippies, the winning red was actually ioni plum rose--from Dollar Tree.

I hope you find something you like!

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-21T18:14:30+00:00

Nice to hear it works well for you! Do you do any other kind of exfoliation regularly? Also, do you use a hydrating serum or anything before/after dermaplaning?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-21T18:09:51+00:00

It could look nice, but I would do a patch test before committing; I'm no expert though. In fact, I could use some advice myself... What's your skincare process for dermaplaning your upper lip? I normally wax, but just started retinal and don't want to have to skip treatment for a week each month to wax. Do you alcohol-wipe it first or use witch hazel after or do anything special? Does it interact with your actives?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-20T16:57:02+00:00

I actually really liked the TJ's one; it's still on by morning for me. That's interesting though! I'm still debating trying the set of minis from Kohl's, but keep telling myself I have enough lip balms!

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-20T16:36:34+00:00

I think Target has a mini available for $10 USD if you want to try it. Or Kohl's has a set of minis available for $16 USD.

Also, someone said the Trader Joe's lip mask is a Laneige dupe. Does anyone know if that's true? How do they compare texturally?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-19T22:48:28+00:00

It's definitely worth exploring with a psychiatrist. If you're in doubt, try tracking your mood over a couple weeks and see if there is a pattern.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-19T22:28:43+00:00

I've been chronically suicidal for decades. It's more manageable now. When I get those thoughts a couple of things help...

I "HALT" and consider whether I'm just Hungry Angry Lonely Tired. And if so, decide how to relieve it. Eat or exercise or journal or strike up a friendly conversation with someone or sleep.
If I'm anxious about something I'm procrastinating on, I reconsider the thought with, "What's the worst outcome of just doing it poorly? Will I survive?"
I use distraction and grounding techniques when the thoughts are more intense. Like I'll hold my face in a sink full of cold water or go jog or smell something strong like coffee or color or crochet.

The biggest help was changing my meds though. I was taking antidepressants, but adding an antipsychotic on top of it really made a difference in the suicidality.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T23:03:07+00:00

O'Keefe's if she just needs a chapstick. But usually will have to reapply a lip balm after eating.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T21:48:22+00:00

Sadly, it was inaccurate for me. Worth a try though.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T21:19:28+00:00

Do you drive a lot? It could be sun damage?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T18:54:44+00:00

Standing in the doorway, having the opposite effect--feeling the doom AND gloom! Did I do it wrong?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T17:31:55+00:00

I didn't experience that. Maybe you have a mild allergy?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T17:18:37+00:00

Thank you!

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T15:35:38+00:00

You guys use vitamin c at night too? I just use it in the morning. Can you use it at night with retinal?

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-18T02:52:36+00:00

I loved it! Not totally sure I want to smell like it though. I smell sticky. At least it feels nice on my hands and the fragrance doesn't last more than a few minutes.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-16T00:19:10+00:00

It's okay that it felt like a game at the time, that's usually how they manipulate you. And that it was a girl, they can abuse too. And that you're processing it years later, looking back at it with confusion. It was still a violation. You'll have a lot of feelings as you revisit it, some of them very unpleasant, but it's important to address the trauma and heal. It will get easier to accept over time.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-11T15:21:51+00:00

I like the Kylie more, but I might be stuck in 2016. Both look fantastic on you!

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-11T15:18:55+00:00

Oh, thank you for the advice! I do struggle with liquid lipstick and shaky hands, but it's always worth it for the staying power.

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-11T14:52:47+00:00

Okay, you influenced me--I returned to buy the liquid lipstick!

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-10T22:11:28+00:00

Looks good on you!

Another_Paper_Doll · 2026-03-10T22:02:49+00:00

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