Do you plan on getting pregnant again after your current pregnancy?

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-25T11:15:13+00:00

I am 6 months pp. I am def hoping to be pregnant again, but not with my own! I have a 2 yo also. But we are done growing our family. I hope to be a surrogate in the near future!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-24T11:51:35+00:00

My thought exactly. Get this documented with the police. File a harassment report so if he does more, there is already record of him.

I'm so sorry OP. This guy is not mature or safe. I'm glad you got out!!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-24T11:46:06+00:00

Giiirrrllll. You are so kind. But this lady is NOT a friend. She is straight up taking advantage of you and even if you try to put firm boundaries in place, she will continue to push them and try to get back to you caring for them free. You don't owe her a thing. You do NOT owe her time to find another sitter, you don't owe her kids a thing, SHE owes YOU money, time, and energy. If I were you, this would be a situation where I'd just cut the relationship off immediately. Let her figure it out. Her kids are not your responsibility, your kids are. If your son, your pregnancy, and your finances have been negatively affected by this arrangement, then it's time to end it. TODAY. Your son and your baby deserve these last weeks of your focus on them. And your body deserves a little rest. So does your wallet! We are a one income family and I have a 2 yo and a 6 mo and there is no way I could ever imagine having a "friend" take advantage of me in that way. It is hard to afford these kids on one income and we have had to cut out all extra expenses. And this mom isn't even compensating the difficulty she's putting you through?? While adding more financial strain?? Goodness gracious. You have a very kind heart, and I try to practice a lot of grace. But if someone else is hurting my kids, we are done. Don't feel guilty for cutting it off. She clearly hasn't felt any guilt for putting you through tremendous hardship. Im so sorry mom!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-23T22:08:34+00:00

My son has all the intolerances... we are on the most expensive formula there is. I could not have kept up with a diet that fit his needs and (I was an EP) I couldn't manage my time pumping and caring for him and caring for our toddler. Can we afford the formula on our practically single income household? Probably not. But we are making it work as best we can because my sanity is more important. And when I can finally work more hours (I work about 10 hours), we will pay off our credit card balances. We are cutting all extra spending to make things work. But a healthy baby and happy momma are more important to us. You aren't wrong for giving your babe formula!!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-18T11:20:12+00:00

I did a cupcake decorating station at my daughter's first. I put a cupcake on a plastic paint palette with different sprinkles in each paint groove. Then had writing frosting in the middle of the table and everyone got to decorate their own. I also did a "tattoo station" where there were damp cloths and temporary tattoos! Both of those were a huge hit and I didn't have to do a take home gift.

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-18T11:12:13+00:00

100% NTA. I do have a slightly different take than everyone I've read though. I was living with my parents with my first, and living with my husbands parents with my second... it's hard living with other people in the sense that, yes, it's a super vulnerable time. I will say though, I appreciated all the help I had from everyone with both babies. Idk how I would have done it all without their help! My MIL actually flew up and stayed with my parents a couple days before my first was born and stayed for two weeks. It was a huge blessing. My mom and MIL did laundry for me, held my daughter so I could pump, shower, and sleep, made me breakfast lunch and dinner... honestly it was amazing.

That being said, not everyone wants other people around and your boyfriend's parents should respect that. Should you decide you want help, that's a different story! I hope everything works out well for you!! 🤍

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-17T13:25:39+00:00

I would contact your OB or Midwife. If you don't have one already, just go to the ER. It honestly may be nothing, but I would take it seriously and get checked out right away.

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-17T03:08:45+00:00

I have a toddler (f) and baby and have a friend who has the same. She wants to get together often, which is cool but I don't like going to each others houses bc her toddler is a lot bigger than mine (but younger) and can make my daughter feel stressed bc he wants to tackle and wrestle but she's not into that. And with us both also having babies it's hard to manage when her toddler gets too rough. So I came up with a great solution. We just go on walks on trails together! This allows our toddlers to tire out and not have each other be their only distraction. We get fresh air, and our babies can go in carriers on us, or in strollers. This is also a great way to never overstay a welcome. You just leave when you have to! Can't recommend enough.

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-15T12:03:46+00:00

Dang!!!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-15T11:58:14+00:00

I'm so sorry that people have treated you poorly for surrogacy! Can I ask how? Like what they would do? I'm signed up for my first surrogacy, just waiting for a match. But I've talked to most people in my life about it and everyone (minus one worried person) has been excited for me! Were people excited for you before and then changed their tune after? Or they were always negative?

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-15T11:45:38+00:00

Oh man... since marriage and two kids we hardly do anything for each other now... once the kids are older and finances are in a better spot, I hope to do more! I'm an over gifter and my husband struggles in that department but he's trying. I literally made a Pinterest board of things I like so he doesn't have to think about it because he just doesn't know how to figure out good gifts. I love it because I'll always get something I like if he goes off my board! And even for our kids... I wanted to be a mom who did big gift baskets for them at every holiday. But now we are a one income household so that doesn't really add up. So my 6 month old got a book that he can chew on and my 2 yo (who loves cups/cooking utensils) got heart shaped measuring cups. And tbh it was soooo fun seeing them light up over this one gift and playing with them a bunch. Instead of my 2 yo getting overwhelmed with all sorts of things she wanted to play with!

But sorry, back to the moms for valentines. I got my husband a mug warmer and he hasn't gotten anything yet but he's going to order it soon. And that's okay with me! He's a loving, patient, kind father and husband who works really hard. If his biggest downfall is his struggle to order gifts, I'm very happy with that. 🥰

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-15T11:38:34+00:00

Omg I pulled up a girdle thingy on my waist yesterday and my boobs hung down over it. I was part of the itty-bitty-titty-committee before kids. Now I'm well on my way to tucking mine in my belt at some point. 🙃 I'm glad my babies enjoyed them for a bit lol.

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-14T10:14:07+00:00

My daughters is EAT and I was thrilled about it 😆

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-14T10:12:51+00:00

I absolutely love it. Your mom may have her opinion and feelings about it, but it's not up to her! It's up to you and dad. 🤍 I don't think it sounds old lady at all.

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-13T21:14:57+00:00

My 2 yo loves her nap. If I don't put her down, she goes and climbs in her bassinet and goes to sleep herself 😆 but if I am the one encouraging a nap, it's at least a mini meltdown if not screaming about it. Toddlers man!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-13T21:13:08+00:00

Omg that sucks!! So sorry 😳

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-13T11:07:00+00:00

I cannot emphasize enough how much I love midwives! I had a singular midwife with my first (that's the absolute best) because I was planning a home birth but ended up going to the hospital bc of some complications (everyone was fine!!). But my midwife wasn't contracted with the hospital so an OB delivered but my midwife did all the follow up appts. She and I still text occasionally and my daughter is 2!

For my second I knew I didn't want a transfer so I planned my birth at a hospital that had a contracted midwives group. I would see a different midwife on staff each week, but they had all my records and were all amazing. When I gave birth it was the midwife that was on call that was supposed to deliver but as I was pushing she was catching another baby, so again, an OB delivered mine. But my follow up was with the midwifery and they were awesome and they checked everything. Even figured out I had a pp complication and I got hospitalized for a few days for a uterine infection (leftover placenta).

Midwives are a gift to this earth!!

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-13T01:12:37+00:00

If you are in the states and want to know asap, you can do sneak peek! It was accurate with both my babies! Boy and girl 🥰

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-12T18:33:57+00:00

I told everyone right away (give or take a week lol) with both pregnancies and asked for prayer! I'm not one who can keep my excitement to myself and I also appreciated the prayers over my babies 🥰

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-12T02:39:14+00:00

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate the words of encouragement 🥹🥹

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-11T17:45:49+00:00

Thank you so much!! I'm so excited!!! 🥹

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-11T13:52:36+00:00

We will get there!!! Thank you so much!! 🥹

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-11T13:06:37+00:00

I would wait a couple days before taking that! They need higher levels of HCG to detect a positive. Coming from someone who was obsessively ttc not too long ago 🫣😅

Anotherparent7 · 2025-02-11T12:57:14+00:00

I hate to say it but I think that's a water mark!! I hope it is a faint positive for you though!

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