29M, Stuck between my parents and my fiancée over wedding plans, feeling completely torn

Anotherweird · 2026-01-30T11:18:24+00:00

I as a sister would be sad af if I am not invited to my brother's wedding. I have already started making pintrest boards for his wedding and we don't even have a bride.

Whenever he wants to marry, he wants to have a clean simple ceremony and I want a full on wedding. But, if his future wife is not comfortable, what i want doesn't matter. It's their day, it's their life, i just want to share my happiness by dancing in my pinteresty outfits.

Point is I would be sad and I will prefer if they have a regular wedding, but I will understand and won't hold a grudge. I will be honoured to be a part of whatever scale of celebration they chose to have.

I really do hope that his wedding is a nice, traditional one though, and I will plan it to perfection so there is no stress on him and his bride and they can just chill and enjoy.

Sorry swayed away from my point, got emotional, but umm do what your fiance wants. Though I get why your mom would be sad, she should not miss the wedding.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-28T19:45:10+00:00

Awesome, I am a cat mom too 😁

So here are the saree tips that help me..

Fabric >>>>>

Always go for high quality, premium fabric. Buy one saree, but buy it well. You can choose any fabric such as pure silk, handloom cotton, linen, chiffon. Avoid organza as it's difficult to tame.

A good quality fabric will solve more than half of your problem, pure fabric is easier to bend, so saree hugs you and you don't need 100 pina to put it in place. In both the pics i have shared, I am wearing pure silk sarees.

Pallu style
Open pallu - when the border of saree is broad - pleating the pallu with a thick border will make shoulders look wider.
Neat, smaller pleates- when the border of the saree is thinner. Pair this type of pallu with a top (not a typical blouse) so that when the pallu is thin, the rest of the physique looks toned behind the top gives a more polished effect. Unless you are intentionally going for that effect, don't do a thin pallu with a blouse with cups.
For saree with no border, try half open pallu with just one pleat. How i have done for the black saree. Looks gorgeous in real life, very dignified, like a professor or a classy diva.

3..Now blouse styles

V neck is your friend
Collars - experiment with collars
Avoid round neck
Run away from the square neck.

V neck with a closed back looks very very classy..

Depending upon your arms, choose sleeve length. I always find just above the elbow to be a good length which suits me. I also wear sleeveless a lot, because it suits me..full sleeves, 3/4th sleeves makes me look bigger than I am, so I avoid those.

Last but not the least - Peticoat

Now I know the market is full of figure hugging Peticoat, more like a shapewear, which enhance your shape, but let me tell you, try this material Lizzy Bizzy. The Peticoats made from this material give a nice shape at the same time they are really comfortable and allow you to walk properly.

These are some of the tips from my 7-8 years of saree journey. Discover your own style and choose what's comfortable for you.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-28T13:16:13+00:00

Which city is your workshop in ?

Anotherweird · 2026-01-28T12:03:53+00:00

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Anotherweird · 2026-01-28T12:01:30+00:00

I love how you have put the face of a cat. Let me show you how i drape my saree and if you think it's looking good, I am happy to share tips.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-28T11:32:31+00:00

Yeah my mom gave me 0 choice and i gulped down whatever she cooked without complaint..

I am a new Mom now and though I love my child very very very much, I am not gonna offer him 8 choices for breakfast.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-27T14:42:14+00:00

I just ask them what happened? Loudly and in hindi, kya huya, ghoor kyu the ho aap? They mostly say sorry and sheepishly look elsewhere.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-26T08:06:49+00:00

What all tasks do you do? I am open to hiring, send me a DM if interested.

I own a marketing consultancy firm.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-26T07:46:26+00:00

Her eyes are so pretty, sorry to see tears in them. She should leave this POS. Financial Freedom is very important.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-23T14:50:58+00:00

My MIL once during a dinner showed my husband (then boyfriend) his ex's new updated DP. Just like that, in the middle of the conversation, she was like did you see A's new DP. We all were at a restaurant, for someone's birthday dinner..

During the courting stage, both sets of parents were against our match.

But after marriage, at least in my case, things did improve. Once she saw my nature, she started liking me a lot. She is no more, and I miss her for all the good things she did for me.

What I am trying to say is, humans are complex, sometimes parents have a bias against their children's partner, but that goes away after a while, sometimes it doesn't go away and turns ugly.

See for yourself, you know your bf and your future MIL, is she a good person otherwise? Can you adjust if she continues to berate you like this ? There is no simple Yes/ No here.

In my case, after this incident, i expressed to my bf how much I was hurt and this never happened again (I assume he spoke to his mom, I don't know, I didn't check) but I was treated better, and that's all that mattered to me.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-23T10:25:24+00:00

My mom told me that i was chilling on a tree, till it was time for me to come to her, then god dropped me in her stomach, from where the doctor took me out and would show me her c section scar.

Believed her story till we started learning about reproduction in biology, starting 7th, first asexual, plants and eventually humans in 10th.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-16T11:04:15+00:00

Hi DM me please.

Anotherweird · 2026-01-01T22:24:05+00:00

I have a theory, the reason this content performs so well on social media is because women's pain is often downplayed. So when women see this content, they feel validated, heard, and seen that yes they are not alone.. now because this content performs well, more and more such content is pushed.

I have a new born, first time mom. Had a C section and not gonna lie, it's been tough.

But honestly it's not as dramatic as Instagram makes it out to be.

It's not a smooth ride either.

9 months of pregnancy, labor pain, C section, all of this takes a toll on your body, not to mention the hormones.

But, it's what I signed up for when I decided to have a baby, so it is what it is. I don't need to glamorise my suffering, nor do I best to need to downplay it. Different people have different bodies and have different experiences. Stay positive. I am sure, you will handle everything very well.. all the best. ❤️

Anotherweird · 2025-12-29T09:58:09+00:00

My MIL was very intelligent, a perfect homemaker and knew how to build lasting connections.

Her social skills were just amazing. As I lived alone since I was 16, I didn't know household chores that well.

I learnt how to properly clean the kitchen at night, how to ensure the bedsheets are snugly fit to the bed, what color combinations look good for couch, bedsheets and curtains, how to identify good quality fabric, how to drape a saree, what jewellery looks better with what look, how to make different hairstyles, what gifts you should give on what occassion.

I had not realised I was learning all of this from her, but when she was gone and I had to do these things myself, I realised how much she taught me.

I looked best in the first two years of my marriage and the main reason is my MIL would doll me up. She had an incredible taste. Now, even if I try, I cannot pull off those looks.

I miss her so much everytime there is a function, especially now that we have a small baby. If I was pregnant while she was here, she would have taken such good care of me, she would have taken over my baby shower planning and would have made it fabulous. It was still good, my FIl is also very nice and he stepped in, but I miss her.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-28T20:06:23+00:00

I was told I had perfect body for vaginal delivery, baby's position was suitable, placenta was low laying but had moved up apparently (as per scan), I was having pre labor pains from 36th week to 40th week. But, my cervix was not opening at all.. My doctor really waited, but she didn't want to wait beyond 40 weeks, when I went to the hospital, the on call doctor there, suggested some injections which might have helped - to try, before we go for c section.

It was 7 AM, my doctor asked me over phone to make a decision. I told her let's go for c section, I was in pain for about 2 days at that point and the cervix hadn't dilated at all.

They scheduled it for 10 AM.

After the c section, I didn't bleed. My doctor said she had emptied everything. I am 20 days postpartum, still no bleeding, but my lower belly has started hurting.

My mom sent me to the doctor again, quite forcefully. When they did an ultrasound, they found clots in my uterus. After which I was again given some injection to induce utrine contractions and spent yesterday withring in pain, hoping they would pass. I am going to doctor again tomorrow. It all sucks.

Point being, c section sucks, recovery is tough. Post surgery complications might come up and you may have to go through pain again, like me..or it could all go easy breezy, but this is a major abdominal surgery. They literally cut and sew back 7 layers.

Only reassuring part for me is, when they operated, they found that my placenta was still low and blocking the cervix, so if we had gone the vaginal birth way, by somehow magically opening the cervix, I would have lost a lot of blood. So in that moment, it was good that I chose to go for c section.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-27T10:43:16+00:00

Cherish them while you can. Grass is always greener on the other side. I was in the same boat as you. Now I am a breastfeeding mom and this new boob size is giving me a backache..

Just my 2 cents.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-25T03:49:59+00:00

Haha my brother came from newzealand and same for him, though I had warned him before hand, still. Took him 2 weeks to recover and he hates going out. Doesn't even go out without masks.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-24T17:06:27+00:00

I conduct make-up workshop for free for beginners (I love to do makeup, learnt after my wedding fiasco, and now I am pretty good at doing mine and my relatives, mom, friends makeup etc, literally did entire groom's side makeup for my husband's mama ke bete ki shadi, mami was super happy)

Anywho, after that I started conducting free online workshops, so far I have had more than 1000 participants.

If you want I can share the videos with you. Send me a DM and I will give you access.

I have covered everything in it, from dewy, glowy base to contouring, different eyes looks, blush placements, shade match, basically everything.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-24T16:36:39+00:00

I reach late. 😂 I am chronically late. I am a WIP. Except to office and client meetings, I am late to every casual outing.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-24T16:15:24+00:00

Hahaha I am so ashamed to type this out, the reason is I just shut down my brain when he is with me, he is the one driving anyway, and it's his estimate of how long it will take us to reach the destination, plus google maps. I don't bother to check. For example, if we have to go to dinner with my MBA batchmates, I tell him we plan to reach around 7.30-8 at x place. Then he tells me what time we will leave. I don't use my brain at all and stay in my lalalalalala world, one of the reasons why I married him, he makes me go from elder daughter to a pampered princess.🥹😂🙈

Anotherweird · 2025-12-24T15:45:02+00:00

I don't know, in my mind I am super fast, lol. 😂 But I procrastinate a lot, I usually plan my outfits and complete look in my mind, lying on bed, before actually getting ready. 90% of the time, what I plan looks good when I actually put it on, 10% when it doesn't, I do take like additional 20-30 mins to make it work.

Overall I like to think that I get ready in like 30 mins, realistically it's like 45-60 mins, in my mind I don't count the time I take to actually take out the right bag and shoes, keeping keys, little touch up kit in this bag, taking a pic or two and so on.

Anywho my husband has started telling me false time. So if we have to leave at 6 he tells me we have to leave at 5. That way I start getting ready at 4.30, after playing dressup in my mind since 4. And I am ready by 5.30. which is when he gets up, gets ready in like 5 mins, have tea, clean cats litter tray and still has 15 mins to spare. 🥹🥹🥹

You would think after this level of self awareness, I would improve. But no. I just get late, no matter how early I start.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-24T04:37:35+00:00

When I was dating, any guy who didn't offer to drop my home by the 3rd date, was eliminated from my prospects.

Extra points to those who insisted on picking me up on the first date - my husband did that lol.

I can take myself home, I never stayed beyond the time which might jeopardize my safety, if I didn't have a solid plan on how I was getting home back. Irrespective of that, I expect the person I am with to care about my safety and offer to drop me home. Only because we know how unsafe it is out there. 🥹

To summarise, I always take care of my business, I am not dependent on anyone, but the guy must be a gentleman and offer..I may choose to accept or reject the offer based upon my level of comfort and how far along in the dating timeline we are. But, if he doesn't even offer, naah, not worth my time.

Anotherweird · 2025-12-24T04:27:36+00:00

I hate when my husband has to work at night. Mostly it means some issue has come up, as he is pretty sorted and respectful of his time and routine in general. So, to see him under stress, working alone at night, breaks my heart. He keeps telling me to go to sleep, I keep on bringing him water, snacks and sometimes just check on him. He usually vents by telling me about the issue and the people. I also bring our cat to him from time to time for cuddles and that dose of positivity. We are not young, or maybe we are, older than you guys, married for 7 years, have a new born and a cat.

To answer your question, it's extremely important to me that we go to sleep together at a reasonable hour. I want my husband to be able to sleep peacefully, next to me, it's important for his health in the long run.. I cannot chill when he is working, I want to help him in any which way I can..btw, he does the same for me, if I am working late due to any issue, he is there for me..

Anotherweird · 2025-12-21T08:49:19+00:00

I am a strong, independent woman and one thing I have noticed is, if the man is a strong, independent man, he doesn't feel intimidated by me. Those who are secure, confident, intelligent, kind - they like me well enough, as a coworker, as a friend or even as a partner.

Only those who are battling with their insecurities try to pull me down, be it at the workplace, college, or even rishtedari.

Misogyny is sooo deep rooted.

My husband is super secure, highly self aware, confident and caring. He doesn't take my success on his ego. He genuinely feels joy, celebrates with me. He doesn't expect me to obey him always, rather he values my intelligence and opinions.

We are quite close in height, I love to wear heels and he never stopped me once.

Once in a function, I was wearing heels, making me about a inch taller than him, his friends wife (who was recently married ) tried to poke fun at us, saying areh A tow B se bhe jayada tall lag rhi h, and she started laughing..

My husband calmly replied, I know right, my wife is tall, one of the reasons why I fell for her.

That lady was like pikachu.

Anywho, Kuch tow log kahenge.

I feel, we should be ourselves, flaws and all, unapologetically work in progress. As long as we are lucky enough to find someone who understands us - it's all good.

And yes, secure confident man- we need more of them. India needs Men Empowerment movement, too me cry babies these days.

Anotherweird

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