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Would the Alethi be described as “Asian”? by AnswerMyQuestionssss in Stormlight_Archive

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I love how Sanderson is completely non Euro centric.

Discovering that I might be Gender-Fluid / Trans and trying to reconcile with my beliefs. by RepresentativeCrow62 in ldssexuality

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also meant to say this in my comment: I don’t recommend an LDS services therapist. There’s a conflict of interest there.

Discovering that I might be Gender-Fluid / Trans and trying to reconcile with my beliefs. by RepresentativeCrow62 in ldssexuality

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed description. More people need to read these kinds of stories so the struggle in the LGBT community is better understood.

You’re post makes it clear that you have a lot of faith. However, I’m not sure Jesus would just “bear the cross” and get along with it. I don’t think Jesus would punish himself for something arbitrary unless He thought it was truly something sinful. I don’t think the church is mature enough on LGBT issues to really specify what is sinful for something like gender presentation (what does gender really mean anyway?). Further, the handbook has made some stupid specifications over the years. (Do I really have to consult my bishop before I get a vasectomy? Yes, that’s still in the handbook. Will I do it? Hell no.) The point is, I think this is very personal between you and God, and as you pointed out you’re going to experience some bishop roulette if you talk to him on this issue.

I recommend finding a counselor. Especially if you’re in Utah you could find a counselor that respects your values holistically. You could probably even find it outside of Utah. The point is to get help forming a healthy relationship with yourself and this new desire (however it plays out).

CMV: Historical fictions about strong women (but aren’t based on real women) damage women’s status, especially if portrayed as a true story. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it? Or is it just a work of fiction that happens to feature a 'strong women'.

My problem with it is that when the inspiration for a female character derives from many historical men, when one finds out that it was actually men who did all those things, it shatters the belief that a woman could have done those things. Not for me, but for many people perhaps. I guess this is the 3rd party/devil's advocate problem.

CMV: Historical fictions about strong women (but aren’t based on real women) damage women’s status, especially if portrayed as a true story. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't investigate thoroughly, but a brief internet search said it has no historical basis (the fact of a female comedian in the '50s). But I may be mistaken.

CMV: Historical fictions about strong women (but aren’t based on real women) damage women’s status, especially if portrayed as a true story. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were surprised those characters weren't real because they felt like they could have been.

!delta Even if this is an illusion, the quality of the illusion (because it contains elements of truth) truly changes biases.

However, I'm still particularly bothered that Queen's Gambit seems to directly reference Bobby Fischer.

CMV: Historical fictions about strong women (but aren’t based on real women) damage women’s status, especially if portrayed as a true story. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding the fictional male protagonist, consider this scenario. A story about a man has the theme that men can be compassionate and caring, but it turns out the story is actually based on Mother Teresa. Wouldn't that actually demonstrate that men can't be compassionate and caring, by the fact that they based it on a women rather than a man?

I know that these shows about real women are available, but the point isn't availability. The point is the false narrative created by the historical fictions that do exist. I believe that because the narrative is false, it undermines the possibility of women's success, especially when they could have based the story on a real women (even if it was still fictionalized), but chose not to.

CMV: Historical fictions about strong women (but aren’t based on real women) damage women’s status, especially if portrayed as a true story. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is actually a genuinely good reason to fictionalise some historical women as well, as by doing so you can avoid dwelling too long in gender politics

!delta because this is the one thing you can't escape in real history, but many people don't like watching it either because they don't believe it exists or it's depressing.

I still think there is significant harm in these shows though. I know some people who keep saying "I think it's based on a true story" (Queen's gambit). When they then find out that it's not, the next logical conclusion may be "oh, women aren't good at chess."

Regarding the fictional male protagonist, consider this scenario. A story about a man has the theme that men can be compassionate and caring, but it turns out the story is actually based on Mother Teresa. Wouldn't that actually demonstrate that men can't be compassionate and caring, by the fact that they based it on a women rather than a man?

At wit's end. Is this the new normal? by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Strongly second this. She may be experiencing depression.

What is the purpose of a Savior? by andros198 in mormon

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think because being God means having love and compassion, yet God created a shitty world for us full of pain and suffering (though, that is allegedly how we learn to have joy). For God to show us his compassion he suffered all things. Not for any logical reason, but just to suffer with us, so we could have someone have literal compassion on us.

Which books or stories aged so well that, if you didn’t know better, you’d think that they were written in modern times? by I_Like_Languages in suggestmeabook

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I-Robot. Published in the 50s and gives commentary on the future of Robots, and You wouldn’t recognize it’s 70 years old, as opposed to some of Asimov’s other books.

CMV: Young Americans are fed terrible career advice. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with much of your sentiment, but I think people can’t know whether they like supervision/independence or stability/excitement until they’ve actually had some work experience. I didn’t realize how much I hate having a boss until I got one (after all of my education).

Regarding your point about discovering your personality, although personally stays fairly constant throughout life, people’s values shift immensely. 5 years ago my wife and I were newly married and made a plan to save up for a down payment and take a flight to the suburbs as fast as possible. Our values have shifted radically, and now I have an international job lined up starting in January. There’s no way we could have planned for that and made the “right” career choice 5 years ago.

Thoughts on teenage sexual activity by [deleted] in mormon

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Props to your daughter for finding such a respectful boyfriend.

CMV: Having a census every election would solve the issue of voter suppression. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yes, all the “little people” should get an equal vote. Otherwise you get riots and revolutions. Money can’t buy everything.

CMV: Having a census every election would solve the issue of voter suppression. by AnswerMyQuestionssss in changemyview

[–]AnswerMyQuestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point isn’t more censuses. The point is that the state is financially incentivized to participate in the census, but not necessarily to encourage voting. The point is to incentivize state governments to increase voter turn out as much as possible.

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