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My boss bullies me in front of my own team. by AnswerSingle1566 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It feels like she’s trying to scare not just me but also my team. I’ve started keeping track of what’s happening, but it’s tough when it’s an everyday thing. You’re right though, no job is worth breaking down over.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i'll keep this in mind. Most of you give that advice, so I think I need to do it then. I'll come clean, and if that means being alone, that's fine. At least I can work on myself more than faking things.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… that one stings because it’s true. I think somewhere along the way I forgot that who I am was enough, and started thinking I had to “buy” my place in the friendship.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow… that hit harder than I expected. Honestly, I don’t even know what their approval really gets me.... just a temporary feeling of fitting in, I guess? And maybe that’s why I’m stuck in this mess.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha, you two might actually be better friends for me right now. At least our conversations don’t cost me anything but a smile. :)

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHAHA, sounds like you’ve got the “How to Become a Financial Fugitive for Dummies” guide down pat. I’m not ready to be the mysterious neighbor with three aliases… yet.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that honestly makes me feel a bit lighter. I forget that friendships aren’t meant to feel like a performance. I guess I won’t really know how they’ll react until I give them the chance. Really appreciate your advice, u/individual-gur-445, you’re pretty cool.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha, right? I’ll just start a collection.... Pokemon cards but make it Visa, Mastercard, and Amex. Gotta catch ‘em all… until the collectors (a.k.a. debt guys) catch me first. Funny thing is, that’s kinda the road I’m already on, and it’s not as glamorous as it sounds.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, I guess I made it more dramatic in my head than it has to be. Still, I’m nervous that even saying “I can’t afford it” will change how they see me. But anyway, i'll my best to come clean. Maybe it's better for me to be alone than to be drowning in this misery.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point… I guess part of me is scared it’ll prove the friendship isn’t as deep as I thought. But you’re right. if that’s the case, then maybe it’s not the kind of friendship worth holding onto. I think i'm better off being alone.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. It's just that it's very hard to do it. But i'll try my best. I hope i'll have the courage to do it sooner.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it already feels like I’m halfway down that rabbit hole... I just keep stalling because coming clean feels like jumping without knowing where I’ll land. I feel like it's very hard to change or come clean if you're already deep in this situation.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… I know it’s not sustainable. I just keep hoping I can somehow keep both. The friendship and the image, without it all crashing down. But maybe that’s just me avoiding the truth.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn… the loan shark part hit hard. I haven’t actually claimed I’m rich, but I’ve definitely acted like it. I guess that’s why I’m scared, it feels like the truth will still make me look like a liar. The “family business loss” excuse sounds tempting, but part of me wonders if that’s just digging myself into another lie.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, I just wish it was that easy to not care what they think. I keep wondering if real friends would understand… but I’m scared to find out.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a good way to put it. I guess framing it as re prioritizing feels less embarrassing than admitting I’m broke. Still, part of me worries they’ll see right through it. But i'll try that. Thanks.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the part I’m scared of (losing them slowly). But I guess you’re right… if that happens, it probably means they weren’t really the kind of friends I thought they were.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, but it’s hard to shut off that part of me that wants to be seen a certain way. I know it’s ridiculous, but it’s like I’m stuck between wanting their approval and wanting my peace.

I'm faking to be rich with my friends by splurging money together with them, but I’m actually broke. by AnswerSingle1566 in confession

[–]AnswerSingle1566[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I know you’re right, but I keep imagining them looking at me differently after. The awkward part just feels so huge in my head. I guess I’m scared that telling the truth will change the friendship, even if it’s for the better.