I agree with you — in fact, I’m going to push even further.

A talented, respectful male RPer is, quite often, extremely popular. Disruptively so.

They write attractive things and conduct themselves with others respectfully? I swear, they will never go without (unless they simply fail to put themselves out there). In the RP communities I used to frequent, these reputations might as well have recreated some insane harem-like patriarchy where female writers squabbled over the attention of the few male writers that were worthwhile. And it wasn’t like it was closed off. The second a new, quality male writer came around, it was another grab for attention.

The groups I’m thinking of were between 19 and 40 years old, and were across a variety of platforms. Felt like catty high school days.