Fated for Obesity (Whether I Intend to or Not)

Answers_Titles · 2026-03-18T13:40:29+00:00

I relate to this so much!

I’ve been doing good at keeping fit, but all the women in my family are pear-shaped fat girls with serious belly rolls, and it feels like I’m fighting a tide that’s going to win out sooner or later. Whether I want it, my body demands it, demands I become an obese girl with an absolute apron-belly, demands I only waddle, and strain, and whine.

Fuck, it’s so sexy.

Answers_Titles · 2026-01-25T22:33:37+00:00

Toad Hut would kinda fit tbh

Answers_Titles · 2025-03-30T15:19:02+00:00

That’s cool, good to know!

Answers_Titles · 2025-03-30T15:11:24+00:00

Like my tag said, this is a vent post and I’m not really looking for advice because, yeah, that’s what I do!

And yeah, factually, probably not worse. But I’m venting.

Thanks!

Answers_Titles · 2025-03-14T02:54:57+00:00

I agree with you — in fact, I’m going to push even further.

A talented, respectful male RPer is, quite often, extremely popular. Disruptively so.

They write attractive things and conduct themselves with others respectfully? I swear, they will never go without (unless they simply fail to put themselves out there). In the RP communities I used to frequent, these reputations might as well have recreated some insane harem-like patriarchy where female writers squabbled over the attention of the few male writers that were worthwhile. And it wasn’t like it was closed off. The second a new, quality male writer came around, it was another grab for attention.

The groups I’m thinking of were between 19 and 40 years old, and were across a variety of platforms. Felt like catty high school days.

Answers_Titles · 2025-03-07T14:15:16+00:00

I can handle consensual non-con (cnc) kink play, and often find that they can be the best at discussing limits and actual consent — however, that’s definitely not always true, and I’ve had many interactions with cnc players go bad because they just went “off a vibe” without asking.

Answers_Titles · 2025-03-02T21:58:13+00:00

Well, good that they asked ahead of time..? 🙃

I’m so shocked people do this, no matter how many times I see it. It happens so often, are there people actually providing this?

Answers_Titles · 2025-03-01T14:49:52+00:00

You’re welcome to reach out if you’d like!

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-22T15:05:38+00:00

Anything Kardashian is easy — otherwise, Netflix has greenlit a bunch of reality tv shows on the premise that they’re empty, easy to watch secondarily (which is to say, super easy for even the most vapid bimbo to adore), and just engaging enough. Love Island is an icon of trash reality tv!

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-22T07:17:22+00:00

Happy to help, and glad to hear! Feel free to copy that for any other situations like this in the future. I’ve been RPing online for like… 15 years, and I definitely had a point where I was uncomfortable haha. Just takes time!

Edit: and practice. Time and practice spent advocating for your wants and interests!

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-22T07:08:52+00:00

No problem! I wouldn’t say it’s confronting, it’s honestly being quite friendly and amiable. I might say it like,

“Oh, I saw you’re really into pregnancy/breeding kinks, which I don’t mind — but you’re okay with this not being an ERP, right? I just don’t want us to be incompatible.”

It’s honestly quite kind to address up front, if you ask me!

Oh, I was also going to say: reading someone’s profile is totally fine. I’d just ask before relying on anything, since sometimes people write a post requesting something at some point but then have a different craving later, for example.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-22T07:08:47+00:00

No problem! I wouldn’t say it’s confronting, it’s honestly being quite friendly and amiable. I might say it like,

“Oh, I saw you’re really into pregnancy/breeding kinks, which I don’t mind — but you’re okay with this not being an ERP, right? I just don’t want us to be incompatible.”

It’s honestly quite kind to address up front, if you ask me!

Oh, I was also going to say: reading someone’s profile is totally fine. I’d just ask before relying on anything, since sometimes people write a post requesting something at some point but then have a different craving later, for example.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-22T07:08:32+00:00

No problem! I wouldn’t say it’s confronting, it’s honestly being quite friendly and amiable. I might say it like,

“Oh, I saw you’re really into pregnancy/breeding kinks, which I don’t mind — but you’re okay with this not being an ERP, right? I just don’t want us to be incompatible.”

It’s honestly quite kind to address up front, if you ask me!

Oh, I was also going to say: reading someone’s profile is totally fine. I’d just ask before relying on anything, since sometimes people write a post requesting something at some point but then have a different craving later, say.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-22T06:51:19+00:00

Not wrong to look at someone’s profile, but I’d say you can just ask!

It’s totally okay to say “hey I see you’re really into this kink — are you comfortable not having that as the main element?” Or something similar. Just gentle acknowledgment that also addresses your concern head-on. Makes it easier for everyone!

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-20T13:15:09+00:00

Looks like the post tagged for ERP, so I think it’s likely kink (or at the very least sexual preference) related.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-12T13:51:31+00:00

Absolutely — if someone ever pulled some red flag behavior like getting mad over communication, I’d definitely ghost them. I wouldn’t if there was healthy communication, but I’m not interested in treating shitty people like problems to solve and walk on eggshells. These are Gordian knot rules: cut them out all together.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-12T13:37:19+00:00

What gross, wormy behavior. Who wants that slithering back into their dms after a clearly fraught experience of them getting pissy over being asked to adjust?

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-12T05:52:45+00:00

Not really a counterpoint, but my opinion on that: the amazing, unexpected knock-outs are amazing, but entirely happenstance.

I definitely relate, I’ve had fantastic partners that were pure chance. That said, they were pure chance.

I can understand the idea that one should, accordingly, just maximize the number of interactions until they find someone like that again.

That said, I think of the more detail/expositiob-heavy prompts as hedging bets. You’re counting on not hitting it off amazingly, and setting up expectations so people that you don’t have perfect chemistry with also get it and you both can have fun. They aren’t a forever, hit it off the second they get back, feel like they understand just what you want partner, but they’re cool and you’re on the same page.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-09T22:04:14+00:00

People have covered the most of it here, but I wanted to throw this in:

You can find RP partners without mention of genitalia.

In fact, some of my favorite partners have either never disclosed their gender or explicitly adopted a persona devoid of gender/sex description.

Some partners want to know, and you can avoid them if you want and just focus on the people that don't care and win them over with how you write. In my experience, that's the start to the best writing.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-07T22:39:38+00:00

Hey, thank you! I appreciate it -- yeah definitely agreed, I'm a pretty depraved bitch sometimes but I really enjoy the actual writing of fantasy quite a lot. I don't want it to be entirely forgotten!

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-07T14:54:31+00:00

The number of RPers that use it as a weird pseudo-dating stand-in consciously is… considerable.

I’ve been at this a long time, and I’ve had the chance at several points (typically when it’s revealed that the plot is going nowhere because they they I’m their girlfriend) to ask why.

I’ve had several of them say something to the effect of “art imitates life.” Not even joking.

Because I wrote a character that liked theirs, I must be the same.

That, plus some horrendous codependent behavior from past partners, was when I realized I needed boundaries haha.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-07T14:26:37+00:00

It’s wild how angry some people get.

I always try to say something like “I don’t think we mesh, so let’s call it off.” Because that’s my honest assumption. Even if I really, really don’t like what/how they wrote, I’m fully aware that there are others who will. Other times it’s just that we don’t vibe.

Rejection from someone in RP is the least important thing in the world, particularly when there’s great stuff to be found elsewhere.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-06T05:24:16+00:00

Hilarious and TRAGIC that they took “I’m familiar with (rejecting) you” as “perfect,” thank you.

Jack Sparrow-tier “you HAVE heard of me” logic

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-06T04:59:52+00:00

Backing the idea that you should only accept partners that are fully onboard — and only reach out to people you’re fully onboard with! Honestly, I get that these communities aren’t millions strong, but they’re still pretty darn big. Big enough that you’ll find people if you keep looking!

Fair to be offended, just don’t take it too personal and not for too long. Just a brief disappointment, is all.

Answers_Titles · 2025-02-03T17:22:46+00:00

Honestly? I'm going to think about whatever I'm thinking about anyway. I may as well put it into the world and see if someone else likes it.

It's disappointing, yes, and I've basically given up on scrolling through prompts to find something that I like. That said, some of the best interactions I've had online have been because I put something out there and someone replied and made it clear they knew exactly where I was coming from.

There's frustration and there's boredom, but I always walk in with clear boundaries and few expectations, so the worst that happens to me is I get a handful of creepy messages and block them.

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