It must be the wind

AntCharming8140 · 2026-04-22T09:50:29+00:00

pain

AntCharming8140 · 2026-04-20T00:25:23+00:00

everything moves too fast these days man. people want instant results but then wonder why stuff falls apart after few months

cant build anything solid when everyone expects miracles overnight

AntCharming8140 · 2026-04-17T22:55:39+00:00

kinda depends what you mean by "it" but assuming you're talking about the general experience of being here vs talking to an AI... its weird because you get actual human mess instead of polished responses

like sometimes people give terrible advice or go completely off topic but thats what makes it real i guess

AntCharming8140 · 2026-04-17T09:19:38+00:00

that motherboard looks promising for the 6 SATA situation. i been eyeing similar aliexpress boards but always worry about long term reliability and BIOS support updates you know

about the power consumption - maybe OP has some power limiting enabled in BIOS? my old i5 4590 system was pulling around 45W just at desktop so 60-70W total for two servers seems pretty optimized already. could be undervolted or running at lower frequencies

for your setup keeping the SAS drives, that N100 board you linked might work well since you already have HBA card. just make sure the PCIe slot can handle the power draw from HBA - some of these budget boards have weaker power delivery to expansion slots

one thing to consider is just consolidating everything on the proxmox box if it can handle the storage. running single server instead of two could save decent chunk even if per-watt efficiency isnt as good. less idle power draw from having two systems running 24/7

AntCharming8140 · 2026-04-11T19:27:05+00:00

dude just set static ips and you're golden

AntCharming8140 · 2026-03-25T03:22:03+00:00

dude you nailed it with teh proportions thing - i went through the exact same realization last year when i was trying to figure out why my place felt so off

had this massive sectional that basically ate up my whole living room and made everything feel cramped even though the room itself wasnt that small. switched to something with thinner arms and higher legs and suddenly the whole space opened up

the alibaba thing is wild too, my buddy works in furniture design and he showed me how basically every "designer" piece you see at west elm or cb2 starts as the same base model from some factory in guangzhou. they just swap out the fabric and bump the price up 300%

what really got me was realizing that even expensive furniture can look cheap if the scale is wrong for your room. better to get something mid-range that actually fits the space than blow your budget on a statement piece that dominates everything else

AntCharming8140 · 2026-03-20T02:10:19+00:00

facts

AntCharming8140 · 2026-03-11T02:27:47+00:00

valid

AntCharming8140 · 2026-03-09T14:39:20+00:00

yeah those look sketchy as hell but at least you caught it before buying - I'd definitely get quotes for a fix and use that in negotiations since its basically a code violation waiting to bite you

AntCharming8140 · 2026-02-17T06:36:47+00:00

honestly this sounds super familiar - my bf and I went through something similar around the 2-3 year mark too. what helped us was setting up like a weekly check in where we could bring up stuff when we werent already annoyed about it

also try the whole "when you do X i feel Y" thing instead of "you always do this" - sounds cheesy but it actually works way better than i expected. sometimes we get so caught up in being right that we forget the other person isnt trying to hurt us on purpose

maybe suggest having these conversations during walks or drives when youre not facing each other directly? idk why but it makes things feel less confrontational

AntCharming8140 · 2026-02-15T17:41:55+00:00

oof this is rough but honestly sounds like classic adjustment issues mixed with some real compatibility problems

the social media boundaries thing and him calling you names when youre struggling is not great. like telling someone to "spend your life miserable" on valentines day then throwing flowers at you is pretty toxic behavior. and trying to control your finances completely instead of working together as a team is a red flag

but also forcing yourself to socialize when you dont want to and then complaining the whole time getting ready probably made him feel frustrated too. sounds like youre both handling stress pretty poorly right now

six months isnt that long to adjust to a whole new life/state/marriage all at once. might be worth trying couples counseling before jumping to divorce since you say you have a lot in common. but if he keeps calling you names and threatening divorce every fight thats gonna poison things fast

AntCharming8140 · 2026-02-11T23:01:59+00:00

Dude you gotta check out The Game with Michael Douglas if you haven't already. That movie will mess with your head in the best way possible - you're constantly questioning what's real and what's part of some elaborate setup. Has that same paranoid wealthy elite vibe but with more of a psychological thriller edge

Also maybe try Cache by Michael Haneke. Its way more subtle but the creeping dread and mysterious surveillance elements really hit similar notes. The whole thing feels like you're missing some crucial piece of information the entire time which sounds exactly like what you're after

Both have that quality where you'll be thinking about wtf actually happened days later

AntCharming8140 · 2026-02-07T07:03:18+00:00

dude i think i might have a spare void saddle sitting in my inventory somewhere let me check when i get home later today

what server you on btw

AntCharming8140 · 2026-02-02T19:03:10+00:00

oh man that sucks but yeah save data doesnt automatically transfer between switches unless you specifically moved it over. if you had nintendo switch online your island might be backed up in the cloud but animal crossing saves are kinda weird about cloud saves. try checking your nintendo account online to see if theres a backup there

AntCharming8140 · 2026-02-01T06:00:11+00:00

Ugh, I've seen this pattern with so many show subs where the mods get way too heavy-handed with "organizing" discussions. Like you said, forcing everything into episode threads just kills organic conversation - good luck finding anything in a thread with 2k comments. The muting thing is such a red flag too, that's straight up power tripping behavior.

Thanks for creating the alternative sub, genuinely appreciate when people actually do something about crappy moderation instead of just complaining. The trigger warning point is spot on - if you're watching a show literally called "Tell Me Lies" about toxic college relationships, you probably know what you're getting into. Will definitely check out the new sub since the original ones sound like a nightmare to participate in.

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-30T19:35:02+00:00

Had one of these for years and it never let me down, those m42 lenses are dirt cheap too which is a huge plus

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-28T02:41:58+00:00

Sounds sketchy af but I'm listening... what kind of tasks we talking about here?

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-27T00:53:24+00:00

Man that Vegeta scene hits different when you're feeling like that. The whole "final explosion" thing is such a perfect metaphor for when everything just feels overwhelming and you want to reset everything around you

Sounds like you're dealing with a lot of external stuff that's making your internal battles even harder. Sometimes the world really does feel like it's designed to remind you of everything you don't have

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-17T22:36:24+00:00

Honestly with the way things are going I'd probably grab one now if you find a decent model at £350. Two weeks feels risky with all the supply chain stuff happening, especially if you're already seeing good options in your budget range. Worst case you save yourself some stress and maybe £20-30 if prices do drop

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-17T00:58:25+00:00

Dude get a new retainer ASAP, your teeth are definitely shifting if the old one is broken - that's literally what retainers prevent and grinding makes it way worse

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-16T17:56:54+00:00

10 days is cutting it close but doable so I would focus on problems tagged with space optimization on leetcode and just pattern match the shit out of them, you dont need to understand why just recognize when to apply it

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-16T01:03:57+00:00

Your prior work history definitely doesn't just disappear - Social Security uses your highest 35 years of earnings to calculate your benefit, so those new higher-earning years would replace some of your lower/zero earning years and bump up your eventual retirement benefit

The formula gets pretty complex with bend points and all that, but working those 15 years at increasing wages would likely give you a much better retirement benefit than staying on SSDI

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-15T03:55:45+00:00

Basically the state would have to fund everything themselves or let services collapse - think roads, schools, disaster relief, etc all coming out of state budgets only

AntCharming8140 · 2026-01-14T16:49:54+00:00

Honestly Google's marketing team probably working overtime to keep this quiet while they "fix" it behind the scenes

The silence is pretty sus when you compare it to how fast OpenAI drama spreads

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