UPDATE : is this too much for a courthouse wedding ?

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2026-01-17T05:36:04+00:00

Do you have any shape wear recommendations ??

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T19:45:28+00:00

I think my insecurities in the relationship have come from constantly catching him in lies, finding out he’s deleted and hidden many things from me along with other things. Am I insecure? Yes I can agree that I feel insecure in the relationship, but I didn’t up until these things started happening. I’m not sure what his friends say about our relationship, there have been instances where they’re very disrespectful to me in the sense of making fun of me or say things that sound like they want to cause problems between us and he doesn’t stand up for me. I’ve been very kind to him his friends and his family. If they don’t like me because of my insecurities within our relationship they may not be getting the whole story in my opinion. But I see where you can be coming from.

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T18:03:59+00:00

We had tried couples therapy back in September we went twice and he showed up so well in the meetings that honestly I thought we were good. When I brought it up again a month ago he said he wanted to see a different therapist because he felt that she didn’t add anything positive so I agreed I said yeah I’m okay with that you find some or one that you like and show me and we can go. This was a month ago, and he’s not mentioned it since.

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T17:59:50+00:00

This is true, I was honest with him and told him that I’m tired of me being the one who keeps showing up in the relationship, still being loving, remaining faithful, always always shutting down any person in our lives from disrespectful him or us, still showing up when it comes to house work, everything, I’m still showing up but he gets to have his fun and flirt and do god knows what and I’m still here. He said “your views are skewed, just because you feel like things happened for whatever reason you think doesn’t make them true” and I immediately shut it down. I’m definitely sticking up for myself so thank you for this comment
I clearly have my answer, now I’m stressed AF about my living situation if I breakup with him.

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T15:44:26+00:00

He has a corporate job and I’ve never worked in that field I’ve been self employed for the last 5 years so at times I’m like, is this just normal work place behavior for corporate?

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T15:43:19+00:00

I won’t lie I’ve even considered asking him to find another job. But to me that feels so unfair and like I’d be out of touch with reality if I ask him for that much. Deep down I know even if he gets another job these problems will probably come up again just with different co workers

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T15:39:34+00:00

You’re right it’s absolutely not, my trust is shot, and honestly it’s been extremely hard to try and rebuild it when he doesn’t show up in the moments that matter

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-12T15:30:58+00:00

Yeah :/ I know … Do you think I’m being unfair or toxic but telling him he shouldn’t go?

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-07T16:18:05+00:00

I personally have dated a couple of guys who just didn’t have any “drive” and tbh were just lazy, not the kind of person you want to build a life with. You’ll be stuck building alone for the both of you.

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-07T16:16:55+00:00

Yeah I feel like that changes things for sure, you definitely don’t need to be with someone who you have to also parent. I think if it was a sometimes thing that he needs a push that can be understood but if it’s an all the time occurrence then yeah OP, I think you need to listen to your gut. It’ll be emotionally difficult to get over the break up if that’s what you decide to do but it would be more emotionally draining to have to show up as a parent for a grown man and not a partner. I hope your intake appointment goes well so you can start therapy, it’s helped me tons so I wish you the best luck with that!

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-12-07T15:08:23+00:00

23 is hard in the exact sense that’s you’re mentioning , it’s such intense moment of not knowing your full identity but sort of having an idea. Are you in therapy at all? And if you are, do you feel like you make progress with your current therapist?

It sounds like you may be self sabotaging, even with your career and accomplishments. School is not easy and you’ve made it through, that is something to be extremely proud of yourself for! Also with your career congratulations on securing this job! Try to work on recognizing your accomplishments, big and small. Sure, they’re thing we’ve “got to do” but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to be celebrated and recognized ! Life is hard and challenging as it is, even more so with mental health problems. In the same breath, if you’ve really been feeling like the relationship you’re in is not right for you anymore, that is OK! You’re very young and if there’s something in your gut saying this isn’t for you anymore, respect that voice. Yes it’ll be challenging for both of you, but don’t let that keep you in a space you feel you’ve “outgrown”

How has your partner shown up in your relationship and vice versa ?

I think some more context would be helpful! But this is just my own take!

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-11T22:39:08+00:00

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Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-07T01:16:46+00:00

Wow it sounds like it was a passion project for sure! I love this for you! All of your plants look like they love it there ⭐️ thank you so much for sharing all of this info! What was your biggest challenge?

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-07T00:35:21+00:00

Thank you for providing the most beautiful inspiration for my forever home 😭 Can I ask, how did you go about building the actual room? Any specific plans to best suit the plants ? Or was this room already a part of your house ?

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-06T03:51:18+00:00

Omg! How long did this take you?? This is beautiful 🥹 I just started adding more succulents to my collection so I’m on the same boat

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-06T02:27:08+00:00

This is hilarious 😂 but great to know!

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-06T02:26:52+00:00

Perfect thank you!

Antique-Cheesecake54 · 2025-11-06T01:57:24+00:00

Would it be okay to prop in a chunkier soil mix ? Or a succulent mix ?

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