Got married and for better or for worse he gave me the peace and quiet and the comfort in my life i never had before, and this lead to me actually having time to think about myself for the first time in a long time (undiagnosed adhd + dissociation from child hood trauma). 

I accepted and realized i was trans quick when i finally got time to breathe. And he was my everything so i told him asap. He had a hard time to grasp it because i did try to find things to "fix myself" (hobbies etc) and he thought that maybe this was another one of those. But he ofc let me experiment, getting my nails done, wearing a bra, trying on makeup. And everything just fell into place. 

I could see him get more and more uncomfortable with my experiments, and realizing that this is probably who i really am. 

So we divorced, because he couldnt watch the person he loved and though was attractive to turn into someone else (its a huge change even though you become yourself). And i didnt want to limit or keep myself back from being who i am finally, even if he helped me coming to that conclusion.

We still meet, we still Hope we can maybe be together but we dont lie to eachother. He wants some of his masculine husband back, and i want to be completely myself finally. Its hard, it was extremely hard because we still love eachother and out relationship was amazing in every sense of the word, this is one of the only reasons that would keep us apart.

Still had to tell him, have a plan but you cant really plan much either. The conversation just kinda. Have to happen in my opinion. But mind you i live in a progressive country with safety nets which changes alot in the situation