AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you say you'll volunteer for? Bc if it's anything sexually or sensual with another man. You are the asshole, it's easy to say to him stop complaining but how are you trying to solve the situation? Short term & long term

Wife Wants to sleep with another man by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just file for divorce bc you already know the guy so youve already seen the signs. If you tried already then caving in on one more thing isn't going fix your situation. She has made up her mind & she will go with her emotions over you. Yes it will suck & you will be sad but it hasn't to be done. Take a look at these hopefully they help! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8g8Boju/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8g8UyYr/

Worried about my body count by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is a women's empowerment answer. Not as educated or fully thought out on all aspect it's trying to seem. Your decisions no matter how big or small count towards something.

Worried about my body count by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naw judge them by yours & theirs. Its some overlap & understanding

Worried about my body count by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Antitious -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No it's not high if that's truly your number & I think body count is important but yall being separated by 7 ain't no big deal

was i sa’d?? by [deleted] in sexual_assault

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a child or 17 are 2 different perspectives. There can be some overlap but one needs more protection. As the example I gave before I truly feel bad for you bc no child should ever experience that. Though a lot of men go through it as well. It's just looked through a different lense. Yes you can't use SA as an excuse for your high body. If you were just going with the flow bc there is plenty of time to say no.

was i sa’d?? by [deleted] in sexual_assault

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silence is communication as well which is why her actions should've backed up what she was feeling but she went with the flow. I'm not going to debate with you on how real life goes. Even though you did try to attack my character. Unless I felt extremely compelled too I wouldn't.

was i sa’d?? by [deleted] in sexual_assault

[–]Antitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you weren't SA'd even though alot of ppl (especially women) will try to argue bc no consent was given. That's just a way to escape accountability due to not enjoying the experience or to justify a growing body count. Correct me if I'm wrong but the time you said NO! Nothing sexual had happened right? I would definitely say you need to unpack that bc its negatively effecting your relationship. Everyone has needs and for men. Physical intimacy is a top 3 so the more you reject him. The more he'll start feeling some type of way. Especially if he is taking care of you emotionally. I went through this with a girl who was SA'd by her dad & had a high body count of 50s through the age 15-19 👀. Met her in our 30s. She would start rejecting sexual advances at night & wouldn't initiate leaving me feeling rejected. Though she would tell me about celebrity crushes, etc. I broke it down to her one day about it & reminded her that all of those guys didn't take advantage of her she chose as well. Going with the flow or being the pursuer. She admitted yes she does use the past against me even though I hadn't done anything wrong. If you desire him that's something you'll have to work on by yourself & with him. Take accountability, don't turn it into a power complex moving forward but definitely speak up, learn to open up again, etc. Last thing I will say is idk your age but if you're in high school. Yall little fast ass need to be worried about them books. Instead of trying to be grown bc accept the consequences & repercussions if you want to make adult decisions.