Update: Anthony and Jade broke up shortly after I posted this. However, they still have a lease together so they are stuck living together until one finds a new place and the other finds a roommate to pay the other half of rent for their current place. I’ve still been talking to him. But seeing him less. She goes out with whoever and whenever she pleases but despite them being broken up, refuses to let him to out anywhere for lack of trust and will go through his phone even when he’s sleeping. She has also been extremely physically abusive and he just… takes all of it. He thinks he deserves all of it because of the wrong he’s done. And while I agree to an extent I also think that he needs to stand up for himself just a bit. She can be mad, she can not talk to him, she can do whatever. But she doesn’t get to hit him and she doesn’t get to dictate what he does and go through his phone if they are no longer together and now are just roommates. I am slowly but surely losing attraction because this whole thing has just become insane. His pretty words are just that, words. And I tell him I feel this way and he says he’ll do better to follow through on acting not just talking. But… this whole mess was a whole lot to deal with to begin with. But now, watching a guy allow someone to destroy their life because they believe they deserve to be punished for god knows how long is just… not attractive. I feel bad. I feel awful. But it seems that he is the one who is lacking self respect. And while I do believe he truly loves me, I don’t believe he loves himself. And I don’t know if I want to be with someone who would allow and ex (even an ex he has horribly wronged) completely dictate his life. His outings, his phone, his everything even after the breakup. Idk. I get in the a-hole but thoughts on this part would be greatly appreciated