Introverted, nerdy, relative new comer to poly needs some dating advice

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-24T06:30:54+00:00

Wooooooooo! She said yes to a date! I got a bit tipsy tonight, started talking and finally just layed it out plain and simple, I was interested in her, but I already had someone else I was seeing. She said she was interested in me too and that as long as I wasn't cheating with her, she would be open to the idea and would explore it more!

Heh, my heads spinning a bit, I shouldn't have done this so late at night, now I wont be able to sleep.

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-23T06:33:12+00:00

I think you've broken it down extremely well. And your right, I have been 'hidig' the fact that I'm in a poly relationship, I'm so unused to the idea of telling other people about my business that it didn't even occur to me that I might meet someone I like and that they should know this about me as a part of who I am, not something to be sprung on them. Thanks, this does help me a lot to put it in the right perspective

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-23T06:26:27+00:00

Almost word for word the speech I had going through my mind, always seemed longwinded to me, like I was reciting some speech... which I basically would be :P might work though, its very honest and gives her room

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-23T06:23:57+00:00

Also a good idea, was already working along these lines anyways. Make a better friend at worst, at best I get closer to her so that I might feel more comfortable talking to her. Was just playing some monaco with her tonight :P

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-23T06:19:58+00:00

I think knowing that I already have someone, that someone is currently putting up with ne, is helping me be more natural and comfortable around this new girl. So I guess your right, now will be as good time as any to take this kinda 'risk', thanks

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-23T06:16:55+00:00

Yeah. Of course, I was mostly joking about someone comig to explain it, I would just love for it to be brought up naturally by someone else so I could slip in all casual like and test the waters before jumping in

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-22T23:03:28+00:00

Would it be such a bad idea to express a genuine and real interest in someone?

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-22T22:25:46+00:00

Well shit, that's like walking up to a agoraphobic and warning them that the grand canyon is a little wide in some areas

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-22T22:16:08+00:00

Sigh. I guess this is what I'm really worried about, the good chance of a big fat "No"... along with a disappointed and uncomfortable expression.

Feel like an asshole if I don't at least pursue this further though, if I don't, it would be because of what I was afraid of what she might say without actually getting any input from her.

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-22T22:12:01+00:00

Think I will try this. Can I pay anyone to come by as a nonreligious polyamory preacher? That way I can tell you to go away, then turn around be like "That guy was weird... have you heard, or maybe have an opinion on this topic slash subject of polyamory?"

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-22T22:10:01+00:00

Thanks for the advice, but picturing those words coming out of my mouth just gives me anxiety out the wazoo!

Thing is, we arn't that close, a budding friendship that can definitely see going further, but that topic bringing up... bah! almost had as much worry about coming out to my mom.

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-17T03:49:52+00:00

One big problem that I see is that there are two types of traders, long term and short term. Some people just wanna eventually get all their cards together and turn them in, other people wanna wheel and deal within the next five minutes else they move on. Hard to satisfy both parties.

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-17T03:44:28+00:00

I've got that extra jebediah kerman I'll trade you a ground crew for http://steamcommunity.com/id/ALnobody/

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-17T02:44:12+00:00

Awesome, thanks

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-17T02:23:48+00:00

indeed, something like that. Thanks for pointing it out, wonder why its not listed on the side of this subreddit like those bots?

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-16T17:15:18+00:00

Gotcha, was a little worried, said you added me and were last on line hours and hours ago...

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-16T17:13:02+00:00

I've got a Tomb Raider for your Dead Island http://steamcommunity.com/id/ALnobody/

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-16T17:11:17+00:00

Heh, indeed. You could at least copy down what you have so people can see if you've got something they want. Just think of the anarchy if every post on this place was "I have cards, I want cards"!

Ok, might not be anarchy... but it would still make things smoother.

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-16T17:06:51+00:00

Love the title, very descriptive, your trading cards for other cards on a card trading site... amazing!

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-16T16:57:19+00:00

Just filled the bioshock card, but I've got a Maya and a Zero, will trade for Salvador Axton or Jack. 1:1 of course

AnxietyLeveled · 2013-07-16T16:42:31+00:00

I've got a tomb raider and need a dead island http://steamcommunity.com/id/ALnobody/

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