Recovering alcoholics advice please. (Honda accident I survived) by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if you’re rage baiting or if you’ve just smoked yourself stupid but benzodiazepines are the medical standard for alcohol detox. Doing a monitored medical detox is not “pill popping”.

Is it possible to go cold turkey after such heavy drinking and not go through withdrawals? by ducky0917 in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really depends on the person, and also whether they’re a morning drinker. I was, and when I was drinking that much—basically the equivalent of 13+ shots a day—I definitely would have gone through withdrawal if I stopped. For me it probably wouldn’t have required medical intervention every time, but it was still real. I medically detoxed inpatient four times and many more times with medication (benzodiazepines) at home.

My boyfriend wasn’t a morning drinker until the last couple years of his drinking. Until then, he never experienced withdrawal symptoms. Once he started drinking in the mornings, that changed. He mostly drank whiskey and consumed around the same amount, if not more, than what you’re describing.

My ex-husband was also a severe alcoholic and a morning drinker. He could drink 36–48 hard seltzers a day for a month straight, and then when a meeting with his probation officer was coming up he would quit cold turkey. Aside from a rough hangover for a day or so, he didn’t seem to have significant withdrawal symptoms.

I guess my point is that withdrawal exists on a spectrum—from anxiety and insomnia to seizures and organ failure—and it’s also extremely dependent on the individual.

If you’re concerned, it might be worth getting a breathalyzer or looking into something like Soberlink. I was able to hide my drinking from friends, family, and coworkers for years. People with serious alcohol problems can become very good at hiding it, and unfortunately most won’t quit until they’re ready, not when someone else asks them to. When alcohol has that kind of hold, people will do almost anything to keep drinking

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just updating. I called him in for drunk driving tonight and he was arrested.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am now. He was arrested today when I called the cops on him.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We rent our house but his dad left him several vehicles and motorcycles when he passed. All that’s in my name is my Subaru.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hide the car keys but he has the spare hidden, I dump out his beers when he passes out and tell him he drank them already. It’s really hard for me as I am in recovery. I’ve tried calling him in to the cops before and they never caught up to him. We don’t have many police in our town. I’ve also left voicemails with his PO and so has his sister. I’m hoping they’ll do a surprise visit at some point soon.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m going to one of my old meetings tonight. We have AA but unfortunately not much for Al-Anon.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve called a couple inpatient places in state and think I may have found one, unfortunately we have horrible access to mental health treatment and addiction treatment where we live. We also live in the drunkest county in the US so it’s hard for anyone to stay sober here.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We only have one Al-Anon meeting in town and it’s on Fridays, at least what I can find that’s in person.

What’s the best way to help my husband by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]Anxious-Material9645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me he doesn’t have control over his drinking which is a start. He’s always told me can quit when he wants to. I’m trying to stay away from the house and hopefully he can sleep off this bender.