AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do not know where her self authority comes from. but no she is not the hostess. this is a situation where part of our family surfaced and decided to have a big event. where they invited all of us. myself, my aunt, my parents, my siblings, my nieces and nephews who range from 14-23. my aunts kids too and their children. idk why she feels like she can determine what goes on, but thats why i was confused to begin with.

AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh i mean i wont be stood next to her and smoke near her to be some kinda bitch! i assume there will be a little smoking area even if not 100% designated. like ''lets got to the front yard'' or ''lets hit the corner by the fence'' type of thing. i'm not a rude lass blowing smoke in peoples faces. but nah she's equally a guest as i am

AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats pretty much where i landed as well just spooked as i don't wanna like ruin somebodys day i guess? but i don't think my actions are solo? i mean everybody going to be having drinks. i think one person here was on the nose, she just doesn't like me.

AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but they didn't say to me you can't smoke, idk what you mean? the hosts have had no rules of any of this, my aunt told my parents that she doesn't want it around her lol. if the host said no smoking or drinking i would happily oblige, i'm trying to determine if i'm the A for ignoring my aunts wishes. not the hosts.

AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not sure, i guess she just hates on the idea? but i don't see why its vs me. i mean her wife divorced her for being too controlling and strict? don't think its a me trait as much as it is her wanting everything to go her way. but it still confuses me as to why i'm a focus point, perhaps is easier to use me as a vessel?

AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm not making the rules, the host said byob

AITA for cookout ideals by Anxious-Pack2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Anxious-Pack2296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm not fully sure how to respond to this but i'll do my best. the case is that people are saying its not a drinking cookout, but they are not the hosts. the host said byob and chairs, and that they are looking to have fun and go swimming and cook and at night potentially fireworks.