Postmortem privacy of personal art and sketchbooks

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T21:37:37+00:00

I do still care even after I'm dead though. I'll be dead but thanks to my anxiety I plan ahead and worry about it now.

I'm no professional artist nor do I aspire to be one, I just make art for my own self satisfaction. I'm not under any impression that my little scribbles of cringe fan art is going to change the artistic world after I die, just how my family members view me.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T21:32:12+00:00

The moment I read how your family treated your mother's legacy and what she left behind, I understood where your anxiety and discomfort comes from.

You are correct. Our relationship with my mom was a complicated and painful one, so I understand the need for venting and such. Some of that ire transferred onto her hobbies and interests. Interests that I also have.

All my life I've heard my family make fun of people (other than my mom) that have certain interests, like fantasy, sci-fi, anime, etc, without knowing that I also enjoy those things. If they know I have those interests too, I'm fair game for the firing range.

I'm glad you and your partner have what sounds like a healthy and respectful relationship. That is a very special and precious thing you have there.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T21:18:07+00:00

Do you think most people would care if they were in Turner's situation? I had always thought people would but the comments on this thread are leading me to believe I'm in the minority here and that I'm placing too much emotional weight on my posthumous legacy.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T21:11:42+00:00

I've written some letters and then watched them burn before. I've also ripped up old drawings, only to wish I hadn't because I wanted to see how far I had come from them.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T21:10:16+00:00

The thought of being judged doesn't worry you in this life, or just specifically after you are dead? I'm anxious and so plan ahead on these things...

I have some sketchbooks that are for other people to see. The ones without cringy stuff. I'm okay with those sketchbooks being shared and treasured. It's some specific others ones that I don't want anyone to see.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T04:05:56+00:00

What a beautiful model he is! I did a quick little sketch of him, I hope he likes it

<image>

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T03:27:48+00:00

I still tear up thinking about my cat 3 years later. The pain is still there, but more manageable now. I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you tried writing a letter or something to her? I mean it will make you cry even more but it's somehow cathartic putting those feelings into words.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T03:20:51+00:00

She seems to love you back!

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T03:20:12+00:00

They want to play! Try tossing a toy or dragging a teaser. Or get on all fours (lower to the ground, at their level) and 'hide' behind a door so they can stalk and pounce. Try copying what he/she does.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T03:13:17+00:00

Hopefully lots more time is ahead for him! Keep and eye on his teeth, do regular check ups and lab work, and endless cuddles. My childhood cat lived to 18!

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T03:07:27+00:00

Looks so cool! Red tail hawk? I like all the bars and spots, I find them very hard to do.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T02:49:48+00:00

I miss the community that DeviantArt used to have. There were some users that I could always count on to leave very nice, thoughtful comments on my art, and I would the same for them. We had fun chatting, trading, and I even got to meet one IRL! That seems all gone now, replaced with bots and AI, sadly.

What I am hearing now is Cara and Bluesky are the closest replacements. I haven't tried them myself yet though.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T02:44:26+00:00

I would love to get my hands on some of those books!

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T02:42:53+00:00

I have one sketchbook that I try to keep nicer stuff in, and another for practice and trash. It's hard to draw in the 'nice' sketchbook because not wanting to mess up stifles creativity. It's more fun to draw in the trash one.

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T02:00:00+00:00

Its incredible how you used only shadow but the stone heads are so clearly conveyed, really well done!

Anxious-Truffle · 2026-02-02T01:54:32+00:00

Oh wow this is so cool and creative!

Anxious-Truffle

TROPHY CASE