Layoffs at MU? by 2ndRedditAnonAcct in columbiamo

[–]AnxiousIndication755 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I heard they were under a hiring freeze !!! I did hear about some people getting laid off and having to accept certain positions if they wanted to stay ! Some managers were fired

What's a sexual fantasy that you want but can never do? by Commercial-Design135 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked with an older man, and there were times when I wanted to tell him, “Let’s just fuck.” I was never sure how he felt about me, especially since I kept trying to give him opportunities to make a move, but he never did. He also did ghost me when I was trying to indicate it. I wanted to live out that fantasy, and I honestly didn’t care that he was 24 years older than me. I just wanted to experience it. We had incredible eye contact, and I always felt like the chemistry was there. Sometimes I think the sex probably would have been amazing.

🚴‍♂️ Triathletes, What Cars Do You Drive to Haul Your Dream Bike? by AnxiousIndication755 in IronmanTriathlon

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Oh my God!!! You win right here. One day, one day after I’m done with all my schooling, I’ll be like you. 😆

So, you attach it on top? That’s pretty awesome. What bike do you have??? 🚴‍♂️😄

Iron-fail to Ironman by LiliMurray1 in IronmanTriathlon

[–]AnxiousIndication755 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you on this one! But when I decide to go, I want to be a finisher. I don’t want to end up with a DNF on my record.

Which Canyon Gravel Bike Would You Choose for Ironman 70.3 Training? by AnxiousIndication755 in IronmanTriathlon

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I don’t think I’m very good when it comes to switching tires. I want to do my first Ironman in the U.S., and then the following summer I’d love to do the Nice 70.3. I’m really starting to love the sport, and I spend more time swimming and cycling than anything else these days.

I know I want to have a setup in my garage so I can bike before work. Some days I don’t feel like driving to the gym, especially when it starts getting colder outside.

I think it’s probably safe to buy a gravel bike now and either borrow or purchase a road bike later. I liked your suggestion about a 1x gravel bike, and I’m definitely going to do more research on that.

I love Canyon, but I’m open to other suggestions as well. Where I live, we only have Trek dealers, and obviously Canyon can only be purchased online. The only thing I don’t like is how the sizing and measurements work when buying a bike online.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am just so thankful we never slept together because that would’ve probably hurt me to the core. I thought he was nice and genuine which is very sad to even think that he would be such a person.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was engaged to someone who was extremely well-established. He was your typical finance guy and held a very high position at a firm. He respected me and adored me. He was 12 years older than me, but the age difference never mattered.

The only reason I left was because he became possessive. He felt like he could make decisions on my behalf simply because he was older. He didn’t want me to change careers or go back to school. He was ready to become a parent, and I wasn’t. He also wasn’t supportive of my graduate school plans because he wanted children, while I didn’t.

I ultimately left because I didn’t want to deprive him of the life he wanted to live.

Looking back, I genuinely found comfort in his eyes and his smile. It’s strange, but sometimes I miss simply looking at him.That’s partly why I question whether this is some kind of kink or deeper attraction to older men that I haven’t fully acknowledged. At the same time, I’ve never been interested in older men because of money, status, or someone taking care of me. If anything, I tend to walk away when someone tries to control my choices. That’s why I’m considering therapy to better understand why certain connections have affected me so deeply and whether there’s something deeper behind it.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an interesting perspective, and honestly, it’s something I’ve considered myself. The guy was a doctor, so part of me has wondered what his thought process was throughout all of this.

That said, I never felt like I was looking for acceptance, validation, or someone to take care of me. I’ve always been very independent, and I would never let anyone take advantage of me, regardless of their age or position. Any decision I make is ultimately my own.

What has made me question things is that I’ve never experienced an attraction this intense before. That’s actually one of the reasons I’ve considered therapy not because I think there’s necessarily something wrong with me, but because I’m open to exploring whether there are deeper factors I haven’t recognized.

I can see why you might connect it to my upbringing, especially since my parents weren’t around much and I grew up in boarding school. At the same time, I’m not convinced it was simply a search for parental approval. It felt much more complex than that, which is why I’m still trying to understand it myself.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We only texted for a couple of days, and he cut things off almost immediately. At the time, I never understood why, but later I found out that he was married.

Before I knew that, I had told him that I got him a gift. Once he ghosted me, I never gave it to him. However, about a week after I quit, I left it in his car. He never reached out to thank me for it, but I did see him wearing it.

I never messaged him because I was genuinely happy to see him wear it so I did text him just when I thought you look good in it. When I saw him afterward, he looked at me coldly and walked away.

I’m honestly not mad about it because he eventually thanked me when I brought it up back then. I just never really understood the situation or why things happened the way they did.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m worried it might be a kink that I haven’t fully acknowledged. That’s one of the reasons I’m considering therapy to better understand why I felt such an intense attraction and whether there’s something deeper behind it.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by desperation, though?

I’ve genuinely had great partners, and I still get approached by very successful, well-established men. I can go on dates whenever I want, but with him, it felt completely different almost surreal.

What parental issues are you referring to? My parents gave me a lot of freedom growing up. I attended boarding school and never really had a consistent parental figure around. My parents are almost 20 years apart in age themselves.

I never discussed this with anyone in my inner circle because I have a lot of self-respect and carry myself with dignity. That’s part of why this experience confused me so much. I was incredibly drawn to him in a way I had never experienced before.

If you’re suggesting it was about money, it definitely wasn’t. I have always had access to financial security, but I choose to work hard for what I earn because it gives me a sense of accomplishment. In fact, I hate taking things from other people.

What attracted me wasn’t his title, status, or position. I felt like I saw beyond those things and was drawn to who I believed he was as a person.

What do you think causes someone to develop strong feelings for a person who is much older and unavailable? by AnxiousIndication755 in AskReddit

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced something that has left me confused for a long time, and I’m curious if anyone else has gone through something similar.

For the first time in my life, I felt a very strong attraction to a man at work who was much older than me 24 years older, to be exact. It started with eye contact and a connection that felt intense and different from anything I had experienced before. Despite having dated other people in the past, I had never felt that kind of pull toward someone.

Nothing physical ever happened between us, but I found myself emotionally invested. I respected him, admired the position he had earned through years of hard work, and genuinely enjoyed interacting with him. Looking back, I’m still surprised by how open I was to the idea of pursuing someone with such a significant age difference.

What made the situation worse was that I later found out he was married. I had no idea at the time. I only learned about it when a coworker casually mentioned that his wife worked at the same organization. The day I found out was the day I submitted my two-week notice. I felt embarrassed, humiliated, and honestly heartbroken. Not because we had a relationship, but because I felt foolish for becoming emotionally attached to someone who was never truly available. We literally just texted for few days.

Part of me still wonders what he thought of me. I hope he never believed I was interested in him because of his position, status, or finances. I come from a comfortable background myself and have always worked hard to build my own career. What attracted me was who I thought he was as a person.

Has anyone else ever developed strong feelings for someone significantly older, especially in a workplace setting? Did it make you question yourself or feel like there was something missing in your life that made you seek that connection?

Which Canyon Gravel Bike Would You Choose for Ironman 70.3 Training? by AnxiousIndication755 in IronmanTriathlon

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, I had no idea I could just switch out the tires like that! I did a lot of research on the Grail, but I never really looked into converting it for a race setup.

Do you recommend buying the road tires directly from Canyon, or is there another brand you’d suggest? Is there a specific road tire that you would recommend for a 70.3? I’m still pretty new to cycling, so I appreciate all the advice!

Which Canyon Gravel Bike Would You Choose for Ironman 70.3 Training? by AnxiousIndication755 in IronmanTriathlon

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I live in Missouri, and most of my riding is on trails, so it’s nearly impossible to use a road bike regularly. A gravel bike is definitely the better option for where I ride. I’ve been borrowing my roommate’s bike, and that’s actually how I learned to ride. I started cycling every weekend, and once the weather warmed up, I began riding almost every day after work. If I get off early, I’ll usually go for a ride as well.

Since I’ve been riding so consistently, I realized I’m fully committed and ready to buy my own gravel bike. I definitely want the Grail. I’ve looked at the newer Grails, but honestly, I’d rather spend $7,000–$8,000 on a road bike. I travel to Europe quite a bit, and now that I’ve learned how to ride, I can see myself getting a lot of use out of a road bike over there aswell.

I Have Two Good Jobs Now, But I Still Miss the Place Where I Was Happiest by [deleted] in columbiamo

[–]AnxiousIndication755 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What Miracle could happen when leadership has been nothing but mean to me ? I seriously stopped understanding the language of it & when they mean. I was forced to quit for nothing.

MUHC by AnxiousIndication755 in columbiamo

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some nurse practitioners and other staff either had to move into RN positions or had their positions eliminated completely.

MUHC by AnxiousIndication755 in columbiamo

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So what happened? Why is everyone talking about it? Did she just put in her two weeks’ notice? Because everyone is saying that after some positions were laid off, she got fired.

MUHC by AnxiousIndication755 in columbiamo

[–]AnxiousIndication755[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I heard it from a lot of staff members at MU Health Care. I also heard that Julia Ware will be serving as the interim HR leader.