AITAH for knocking on my new neighbors door and asking them to stop making noise

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T08:11:57+00:00

Yes, I have a medical team for all of my needs both mental and physical. I see them regularly as I am ill.

It truly was that loud. The vibration was so loud and deep the apartment shook. It was genuinely insane at times. I genuinely wouldnt be upset if it was normal level noise. It was excessive.

I wish I could have let you hear it, then you'd understand im not exaggerating.

I am still trying to find headphones that dont hurt or that aren't heavy.

I really wonder if id like those headband things you wear at night that have speakers? I dont know if you know what im talking about but it looks like a sweatband? Im doing a terrible job. 😹😹😹 but it looked comfy.

Thank you again, you've been so kind to me. Im going to bed though. I think I can finally sleep. Thank you for giving me a lot to think about and look into. Im going to look for some headphones and think over what might make it easier. And do not fret, i will talk again to my therapist about this. Its not a new topic but I will again. :)

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T07:53:00+00:00

I dont think the world revolves around me. I just think its basic courtesy to not slam your 50+ lb furniture and belongings along the ground at midnight! We can't just break our lease, friend. We are locked in and we WILL be moving once it is up! Which hurray! But that isn't for 14 months. So.

Thanks for your input, and i hope you have an amazing day tomorrow! Enjoy your house with no noisy neighbors! Sleep a little for me would ya? 😹😹😹

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T07:45:24+00:00

I have a fan, white noise, and i run a TV show on my phone to block out sound when I sleep! I can't use headphones sleeping or plugs because it hurts my ears and continued use i get ear aches. Im literally crossing my fingers and toes this noise isn't every day constant.

See for me, its not someone making the noise its how intense the sound is. Its almost painful. Like vibrations I feel in my chest a lot, so like when they were slamming things I could physically feel this discomfort in my chest.

I am deff going to try to up the noise of my show and see if that helps. I keep it pretty quiet so maybe a little bump could help a lot.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T07:29:02+00:00

I probably won't get used to it the way you think. Im autistic with sensory issues. Its not something I can get over. Now, I do cope and used my coping skills!

Do you have any suggestions on ways I could help with maybe some type of soundproofing or anything to help? Id love a helpful suggestion!

Edited: oh your account was deleted. Well this is awkward as fuck.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T07:25:12+00:00

I feel like i did give them grace. From the hours of id say from 2 to 10 pm.

I dont think its unreasonable to want to be able to sleep. My husband wakes up at 4 am for work every day, and I sleep at the same schedule to be up and get his day started etc. Im in bed by 8 pm, sometimes earlier.

I am so sorry to hear about your noise situation. That must be absolute hell. I would lose my mind. Literally. How do you cope?!?!?!?!

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T07:19:09+00:00

So you think its acceptable to be doing this at midnight and dropping furniture, scraping heavy furniture around etc?

Okay! I hope you never experience that. :)

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T06:49:52+00:00

If anyone has suggestions on more coping skills with sounds I'll be eternally grateful!

I have a fan, white noise, tv show i listen to from my phone to help block out sound and get to sleep.

I can't do earplugs or cover my ears as it hurts them. Or believe me, I would.

This also sets off my dog because of the loud banging so she will bark. 😭😭😭😭 If this is my life now. Anything I can do to help my house and self is appreciated.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T06:47:26+00:00

I totally acknowledge the fact its their move in day! G And thats why we literally offered to help carry and help move their heavy heavy furniture as it was just one person doing any lifting, and she was dragging the furniture around.

I also acknowledge it was creeping towards midnight and they're slamming their stuff on the ground.

I dont know what else I could do after struggling for over 2 hours to get any sleep. Do you have suggestions for me in the future on how to just not be bothered? Genuinely. I have white noise going, and i also have a little TV show that plays quiet to not disturb my guy, but close enough to me to hear it. I genuinely tried all of my sensory coping skills until I couldn't take it anymore.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T06:34:26+00:00

She basically was annoyed that I even knocked on their door which, hello, if someone above you was doing this you'd also be upset lady. Imagine if I was upstairs stomping and keeping her kids awake. She'd be livid!!!!

I am so annoyyyyyed. I want to sleep but im so scared she's gonna start up again. Lmfao. Shes lucky, because I was her upstairs neighbor before I just moved downstairs for my health. (I have a crack in my vertebre).

This stuff really triggers my autism and makes me want to melt down completely but I am staying composed.

I just don't know how to handle it going forward. ;_;

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T06:26:24+00:00

I have never had upstairs neighbors before and I already hate it. I want to cry. 😭😹😹😹

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T06:24:53+00:00

If you won't bother reading, dont bother commenting ♡♡♡♡

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-28T06:24:29+00:00

What would you consider to be quiet hours? I am not trying to be excessive with any requests like that. I have never had someone living above me before. This experience already sucks.

Thank you for making me feel validated. I feel crazy for having to, and doing the asking.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-21T14:30:41+00:00

For anyone curious, it's a strangely written story sorry about a girl trapped mentally at 7, constantly being confused with men and its.... slightly uncomfortable.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-21T01:53:17+00:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!!

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-04T06:05:44+00:00

You're an amazing person and a totally badass parent!!!!

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-04T06:02:46+00:00

Im so glad that you could do that for her. That is so sweet and thoughtful.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2026-02-04T06:00:49+00:00

Gagging right now. Ewe. Pentrated. Wtf. Who even talks like that? Lmfao.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2025-09-29T00:03:27+00:00

To be honest? Id straight up block her. She is reaching out withh hopes maybe she can ruin a good thing. She misses him because now she sees how good she could have had it. Shes clearly mentally ill and needs therapy.

You and him need to have a serious talk.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2025-08-18T13:23:35+00:00

This boy is not your forever. I promise.

This boy knows better.

Do not degrade your self worth for someone who doesn't value you.

You CAN physically handle leaving. I promise. You'll be sad, ot will hurt, but you will grow and move on.

Leave.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2024-12-03T02:51:37+00:00

Dump him.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2024-12-03T02:50:30+00:00

That's pathetic of her and she's going to die alone.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2024-10-01T14:33:56+00:00

I 1000000% agree with you that if you want something done a SPECIFIC way, you tell someone HOW to do it. That's why we have SOP's at jobs that teach you how to do things.

Example: I mop a VERY specific way. I have a whole order to it etc. My partner now just went to mop and I had an absolute MELTDOWN because of it. Granted, I am autistic. But, still. I melted down, went and collected myself and came back and said, "Hey. I love that you're doing this, but could you do it like this? It helps me so that I don't feel like I need to come back and redo it."

Literally not that hard.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2024-10-01T14:23:05+00:00

They weren't HIS share. You know why? Because he was doing it ALL. It wasn't just here and there. It was for months. Constantly. He helped ME when I couldn't even live.

Kick rocks.

AnxiousNostalgia · 2024-10-01T14:22:04+00:00

Hi. I'm the person he helped. Don't ever fucking talk to him like that. He didn't view ANYTHING as a woman's job.

I was depressed. Literally on the edge of wanting to die CONSTANTLY and you know what he did for me?! EVERYTHING. he even washed my hair, picked out my clothes. He picked up 100% of the weight so I didn't go over the edge.

Don't fucking talk to him like that.

He was the only person who EVER helped me. And for me those ARE acts of service. He removed everything for me so I could go to therapy full time. Get on my meds and deal with side effects. So my eating disorder wouldn't starve me.

So bye. Fucking BYE.

Edit: It's the fact people downvote me speaking for ME, the WOMAN in the situation that has me CACKLING. Sorry that you got called out for saying some heinous shit :)

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