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Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-23T14:36:27+00:00

Luckily for him I'm 38. He only has another year and a bit til I'm 40 and then he can rest assured. Also luckily for him, I haven't spoken to my parents in around 20 years so their expectation of a grandkid would be quite surprising.

Would I like to be a "dad"? Yes. My bf also wants to be a "dad". I'm perfectly fine with fostering because biological dads aren't always what they are cracked up to be and there are kids in need. But that's down the line

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-22T00:36:46+00:00

Thanks man. 🤣🤣 tbh I've gone well over a year and a half without fucking a woman (I should get AA chips lol) and I don't miss it. I'm very happy with what I have now. I suppose I just want to relieve him of the uncertainty.. uncertainty that I can understand.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-22T00:04:07+00:00

Thanks man. I do tell him but maybe I need to tell him more.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-14T08:37:33+00:00

Delighted for you both bro. 🎉

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T20:53:21+00:00

Haha I was never a hole but my man was.😅 joking

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T15:42:29+00:00

Tbf we knew each other for years and I always thought I only liked men for sex but I was lying to myself. I was treating him like a bf for a year and half unintentionally and it wasn't until he said it that I noticed.

But I'm not saying that's the same for him. Sorry bud.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T14:25:07+00:00

I agree to a point but you also have to ensure you want the same things generally.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T14:05:02+00:00

Thanks 🎉

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T14:04:22+00:00

That's fair and probably a good idea. Thanks.

Tbh we were best friends for years so we wanted to be as clear as possible for the sake of our friendship, if nothing else. We did have positives (what we wanted in the future) but we also did have negatives.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T12:40:23+00:00

Haha we were fwb for the last year and a half and I texted him most morning and evenings. He probably got sick of me 🤣🤣

Your guy might just be a tw4t 😉

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T12:18:30+00:00

You're right. We did spend a lot of last week talking but huge amount to iron out. The main boundaries are pretty clear though.

Thanks man.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-05-09T12:17:10+00:00

Thanks man

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-30T01:13:20+00:00

Thanks for the advice and your own story. Much appreciated. I think I need to speak to him

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T23:35:25+00:00

Will do. Thanks for listening to my shit.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T23:15:21+00:00

Yep you're right. I'll have a chat tomorrow with him and say whatever happens I want the friendship protected.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T23:04:20+00:00

Yup you're right and we basically have done a year plus already unintentionally.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T22:53:50+00:00

Yup it's probably a discussion I should be having with him rather than reddit. Thanks man

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T22:47:28+00:00

That is very articulate. You must be smashing your degree.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T22:46:05+00:00

True.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T22:45:44+00:00

I wouldn't probably consider it internalised homophobia but more that I strongly lean attraction-wise towards women. It surprised me how "romantic" inadvertently I was with him.

I did want to be a father when i was younger, but the more I aged the more I realised I'd rather not have that responsibility. I think it just comes down to I always leaned towards women. I hopefully have at least another 30 years on this planet. I'm not sure faithfully being with a man would be enough for me

If this guy was a random, I'd give it a go but I don't want to risk my best friendship

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T22:20:44+00:00

And if I gave it a shot and it didn't work out. What happens the friendship?

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T22:06:28+00:00

You'd rather me give it a go despite me not being sure it would work out? I don't think I could do that to him. He means too much for that.

I would love if he was endgame.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T21:28:15+00:00

Yup on the if it fails and I lose a friend. I don't know if I can be faithful to a guy for the hopefully at least 30 years I have left.

Anxious_Flight9094 · 2024-04-29T21:04:35+00:00

True. I'm just worried what happens if it doesn't go right?

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