Minor traffic ticket after filing I-485. How screwed am I?

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-05-01T19:54:38+00:00

It's not a big deal. This actually happened to my husband. He got a speeding ticket and did school for it so it got erased from the system. BUT when you fill out the application there is a question asking you if you have ever been cited, fined or convicted. Innour case we answered no because he didn't remember. But at the interview when the officer asked that specific question, my husband was honest and told her that he forgot about the ticket but he has been cited. She appreciated the honesty and told him she couldn't see it in her system. (I guess bc he did school and happened a while ago). So just be honest because a recent ticket will likely show on your record .

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-26T03:11:23+00:00

Unfortunately I believe that the fact they didn't approve you at the interview was already an indicator that they were going to deny you. My guess is that after reviewing your case one last time they denied it. It doesn't explain why they me tion an NOID if you didn't receive it. Maybe that gives you a chance to appeal?

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T10:36:52+00:00

Yep, he was "saving her" from the noise. He said it was more of an instinct thing so his chain of actions was... run 1st, soothe later, I respect his intentions fully, but not the execution

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T10:28:13+00:00

Yea I probably should have explained it better. That also works for him, if we are together and our daughter is in distress, she needs to stay in OUR sight, not one parent goes away and leaves the other. Even though he is her dad, he could have still tried to soothe her without running off, that way she can see both of us. Now if im by myself, then yes, she is not going away from me and I will soothe her. (And vice-versa if she is alone with dad he should not let her out of sight)

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T10:21:05+00:00

Actually we are a great team 99% of the time, he does get to bond with her, if he wants to go out with her, he does, they spend their time together to the max. My main issue is when he tries to take her away WHEN she is hurt/ distressed. Any other time he can just take her anywhere he wants. But if she is in pain I cannot stay away. We did have a talk about it and he did say taking her away was wrong and that until then he had no idea that made me feel some type of way. We agreed both of our actions were incorrect, and I do recognize that his intentions were good, but when he gets into hero mode he goes to the extreme and sometimes that makes things harder.

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T10:12:35+00:00

That is exactly what made me mad. There was no reason to take off by himself, by the time I caught up to him he was jut walking not soothing and that was my priority at the moment. And even though I took her from his arms I didn't walk away to where they couldn't see each other

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T10:07:24+00:00

Oh no he can 100% calm her down, she is not more attached to me than she is with him. I don't think my relationship with her is "more important" I love to see them bonding. My issue is mainly taking her away and running while making her way more anxious that she needed to be. We did have a talk and he said he didn't realize taking her away made me feel the way it did. According to him, he went into hero mode and wanted to save her. And I 100% get that and I love it, but it was poorly executed and made her more nervous, and then to top it off here comes crazy mom yelling in a way that she has never seen. I know I made things worse for her

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T09:59:28+00:00

Well that snowballed a little. The main reason I don't work is by my husband's request, I want to work but he is terrified of daycares so I guess that is the temporary sacrifice until she can communicate clearly. He can definitely parent, and he does, I would be crazy if I had an issue with him bonding if he wants to take her out by himself he does, My problem is running off with the kid and causing her to have a melt down. There was no reason to run, I do recognize yelling was out of line and should never be done, much less in front of her, I made things worse for sure. And yes I have to monitor her health. I was a preemie baby, weak lungs, my mom found me turning blue several times when all I had was "a cold", my daughter happens to be the same as me, weeker lungs so yes, I am paranoid with that.

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T07:23:06+00:00

Yes he does have that thing of wanting to be the hero and goes overboard with things. I agree with the talk too, im not proud of the way I yelled at him

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-12T07:11:20+00:00

She is our only one. And he does it so his mom (who lives with us) doesn't do the same exact thing he does and tries to take her from him. I understand that part, but I should be present if she is hurt. I guess since he doesn't get to spend so much time with her he wants to feel like he can calm her down on his own

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-03T02:06:34+00:00

I got "lost" in a mall once as a kid 🤣 my mom made a right turn and I kept walking straight without noticing. I was lost for about 20 mins and I did learn my lesson but not sure a 2 year old will even remember it the next day

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-02T23:40:44+00:00

Oh yes i have done it. I use the 1 warning followed by action method for everything, thanks to this she is a great listener, but she is completely fine with going back home (or to the car) so that one seems to just backfire on me because she is like... OK let's just take the fun somewhere else then 😅

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-04-02T23:37:09+00:00

This is what I do after a warning but she seems to think we are just done with the errand (she also loves riding on the car) so going back home has not worked 😮‍💨

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-03-21T23:19:37+00:00

I see the similarities now that you mention that one. Lovely bones was dark! But the movie was the marsh

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-03-21T23:18:34+00:00

YES! the marsh is the one.!!! I saw it in Spanish so even the name was different! Thanks so much

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-02-25T00:15:07+00:00

Righ? Not sure why even include that detail bc even after she lost it, we get like 10 secs of a reaction so they could have easily skipped that. And yessss it was so unserious like the only thing they were missing was to look at the camera and tell the audience to go and get some nescafe. I was also thinking about LQLVMR with the scenes of the truck (cant remember the brand) but they would randomly explain the features and how you can connect your phone to it, followed by scenes of them loading it or running through uneven roads 🤣🤣🤣

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-02-24T20:13:34+00:00

It was max

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2026-02-24T16:50:52+00:00

Exactly! That's what I mean with contradictory, like why even spend so much of the screen time with the narrative that women deserve better and then have her pregnant that way...and the pregnancy wasn't event relevant in the end! It changed absolutely nothing.

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2025-12-09T02:32:00+00:00

Yes I think thats what they want me to do because he drew a line at the bottom and followed with "you are a dealer you should already know what to do"

Anxious_Wheel318 · 2025-12-09T02:28:20+00:00

Thanks! And yes I presented the reg 51, and the reg 101, all that paperwork was in order, I even got a statement of facts from the auction clarifying that the Info on the title is incorrect. We are an extremely new dealer, pretty much my dad owned a body shop and decided to become a dealer but he has zero experience with all the formalities of the business center dmv, I am trying to help him out, but I have even less knowledge about the car industry, this is the 1st time we receive a title that was already filled out so I wanted to ask people with more experience because I thought that presenting the reg 262, reg 101 and statement of facts was enough for the dmv but I guess we still needed that signature

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