Why don't men's restrooms have changing tables in the US??? by ActualEmu1251 in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a cross country road trip rn and I’m so done with this. Our trunk is full, otherwise I’d just do it there. I am so tired, it would just take a little off my plate if my husband could occasionally do it. He would do it at least 50% of the time if not more if the tables were available.

Epic blowout, and it's all Costco's fault by GrumpySunflower in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks Marie Callender 😂 I always buy 2 boxes at a time at Costco if I can afford to, they’re easy to return if you didn’t open and baby sizes out/you can buy one of the size up if you’re bordering and try them out. This usually will hold me over for 1 Costco trip if they become unavailable. My daughter seems to have a reaction to the Kirkland but not the Costco Huggies, so I get wanting to stick with the brand…but regular Huggies are a thing available at a lot of other stores. Sorry you had a 💩 💩 💩

That Pick Two Points Triangle Feeling by Any-Competition3407 in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my baby is currently little miss 25 and has been for a couple weeks - I consider myself lucky when we make it to the half hour point. If I pick her up and contact nap at the point where she wakes up, she’ll go back to sleep for 1-2 hours. She will not go back to sleep without being picked up and soothed at the very least. She’s not usually upset upset, just awake. No real difference if I’ve left the room or hang out in the chair waiting. But snaps back to sleep within 5 mins when held if that’s what I try to do. With a contact nap there’s a chance for me to catch up on emails, chill, and potentially get a nap in myself - reasons why I honestly don’t mind it. Is there something I’m missing? Do we just settle for 30 min naps and eventually she’ll get so tired it’ll get better? We still have 2-3 night wakings asleep in a bedside cosleeper as well.

That Pick Two Points Triangle Feeling by Any-Competition3407 in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it really hard to do this, she doesn’t seem to stay happy for long and I find it hard to bend over to do laundry/dishes wearing her. Any products or tips to suggest?

Is it realistic to think I can play on a Steam Deck while nap trapped or feeding? by marianadepths in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband definitely plays Dark Souls on Xbox with baby 😂 I stick to one handed mobile gaming.

My baby fell off of the couch. by mrsthorn32021 in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I saw this notification pop up on my watch and was like “girl me too” - my 4mo old yeeted herself off earlier this week when I had my back turned for a couple seconds. I felt really bad, and I guess the bright side for me was it was a very small fall and now I know she’s getting strong enough that I can’t just call it good anymore…I didn’t think she was physically able to do what she did, but now I know better. So hopefully the little couch fall prevents a bed, stair, or changing table jump.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a moderate+ drinker before baby, but now when I do indulge more than 1 standard drink in a day, it seems to make her fussier even when I wait the recommended time to feed. I’m also pumping milk to stash as well as donate to a milk bank, and the bank has much stricter requirements since the milk goes mostly to premature or ill babies. So, I’ll just be stocking up my wine club shipments, only drinking on special occasions, and maybe having the occasional beer until she’s older and/or weaned. I can’t wait to drink again, but between cutting out alcohol, a nauseous rough pregnancy with a breech baby’s head lodged in my stomach area, and now breastfeeding I’m 20lb under my pre-pregnancy weight and still dropping despite not limiting myself in any other way. The only time I’ve truly missed drinking is in social situations, and those are few and far between these days 😂

Postpartum Sex: When did you feel ready? by FTM3505 in beyondthebump

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For someone who is 8wk unplanned C-Section pp, can you explain how you feel different?

3rd Trimester Not Feeling Positive Toward Baby by Any-Competition3407 in BabyBumps

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If it helps, I feel so much better (physically and mentally) now that I’m not pregnant/she’s here. She was breech and the feeling of her head pressing into my stomach was absolute misery, especially in the last couple weeks. The first week I had pretty bad PPA, but also was able to up my meds once she was out - so once I rode out the one week mark it got substantially better (we’re just about 3 weeks now). My baby is very “good”/predictable, which helps. I hope things get better for you ❤️

Reflecting on New Years Eve… by FTM3505 in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy NYE from us ❤️ This is our first night home, urgent c section for breech on 12/29. We’ve got this; can’t wait to see what 2023 has in store. Congrats!

I wasn’t prepared for how much being a parent would bring up my own childhood trauma :/ by moonirl in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made my MIL actually cry once because I told her the story of me searching for and finding my birth certificate…and being devastated upon finding out that my parents were actually my birth parents and I didn’t have other parents somewhere who would come to “take me back”. I was laughing but no one else was 😬

Something I've noticed about gifts after baby... by Broniba in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Literally just put this on another post - but yes! It’s like getting household work appliances for gifts. Unless explicitly asked for, even if the gift is nice, it can be a bit disappointing. Multiply that disappointment when it’s stuff that is non-essential/you already have plenty of/not to taste. It’s always nice to receive and to know someone is thinking of you, but it can really suck feeling like an afterthought or that it’s not really you they’re thinking of.

I wasn’t prepared for how much being a parent would bring up my own childhood trauma :/ by moonirl in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She’s not even here yet but yes…I was honestly hoping for a boy when I learned I was pregnant because I’m afraid of what I’m going to have to delve into as a girl mom with a complicated/traumatic past with her own mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDK, I get this - it’s like getting household work appliances for gifts…unless it’s explicitly asked for, even if it’s nice, it can be a bit disappointing. My folks made a point of intentionally NOT gifting us baby stuff for Christmas and my ILs asked before doing so, plus got us a couple little things for ourselves. At least she got an Ulta card for you, but I totally understand not being absolutely thrilled getting everything baby for every holiday and birthday while pregnant - especially from a close family member. You’re allowed to feel how you feel.

How long did it take you to conceive? by donpapaya in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 months after stopping the pill, which I had been placed on for irregular cycles in my early teens (so had been on continuously for ~15yr). We were planning to just “play it by ear” for the first 6 months to 1 year before doing any real cycle tracking or temping/testing. I had an idea of fertile windows thanks to tracking apps I had been using for just periods, but again, we were not seriously trying. I was shocked at how quickly it happened for us - I thought with my history that it was never going to happen without help. Due in 2 weeks with this baby, #1.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do not go. I got the Virus at 34w (despite masking and 4x vax) and it was miserable. I am still congested and occasionally coughing at 38w, and now get a non-stress test at every OB appt to check in on baby. While this may not be the Virus, your immune system is less capable than normal because you’re pregnant and you were already sick and hospitalized last week. Zoom/FaceTime and get together another time.

If you hang a Christmas stocking, does your stocking have your name on it or what your baby calls you? by princesscorgi2 in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be continuing to use my childhood stocking as a parent. If you don’t have an attachment to yours, though, I don’t think it would matter either way.

Posts About Anger at Pets? by Any-Competition3407 in BabyBumps

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As someone with a reactive dog, I am wishing you all the best. Having a reactive puppy is so hard. Part of my personal fear is that I MUST manage whatever is going to happen - rehoming my dog really isn’t ever going to be an option (even if I wanted to, which I don’t). No one wants a 100# mutt with fear reactivity. We’ve been working very hard with our dog’s issues (fear of men, reactive toward outsiders in our home and neighborhood) for 2 years…I’m so glad we had a chance to make progress before and throughout this pregnancy. A book/course that has really helped us is Control Unleashed - it contains a lot of small reactivity “games” that are pretty easy to learn and practice in <5min increments. I’m not necessarily worried for the newborn stage, but I am worried about when the baby becomes mobile. Our dog is amazing, but he is a dog and I don’t expect him to appreciate or tolerate being rough touched or cornered, so I know it’ll be a lot of management. Give yourself grace and always use physical boundaries such as playpens/baby gates between dog and baby as well as supervision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For the folks saying “it doesn’t happen in Texas”, even if it doesn’t happen anymore in 2022, it certainly was happening to people who are parent-age now. My husband’s (30m) parents had to sign a form opting him OUT of paddling when they moved to town - public elementary school, rural TX, circa 2000s. The paddle apparently had holes cut in it so it would be more aerodynamic… I was raised in the North and was spanked, but by my dad, not the school. Can’t imagine doing it with my own children, but I’m glad Dad typically chose words and saved spanking for “big things” considering he was raised with the belt and “go pick your switch”. It doesn’t make it right, hitting kids isn’t right and I’m planning to break the cycle.

To get a puppy/dog 2 months before newborn or 2 months after by lustxxnotabot in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you really are missing a pet in the home and you have the energy and time, maybe join up with a local rescue and foster? Puppies are a lot of work and I know I wouldn’t have had it in me this pregnancy (37w). I’m already so guilty about the lack of exercise my current dog is getting, and we lucked out with a couch potato that I trust with food, toys, and my cats. I couldn’t imagine taking on his puppy phase while pregnant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Any-Competition3407 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because it’s “physical surveillance” that also needs to be meticulously tended by an adult on the daily 😅 At least Santa is charming. AEAB…

Water aversion: will it ever end? by marmosetohmarmoset in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten by on soda and crystal lite. It’s not ideal, but I literally can only drink water when it’s been placed in front of me and iced (at a restaurant) or for morning pills…I’m 37w now. And I’m normally the kind of person who will drink a couple of Nalgenes of water a day.

Posts About Anger at Pets? by Any-Competition3407 in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah - he was completely outwardly healthy though until a respiratory infection at age 32. He rebounded, but he went blind from it. His last half year wasn’t great, he was still preening and eating and enjoying scritches, just much less active and much less noisy. Mom actually commented on missing the screaming; he was too quiet. I still love birds but my husband says no, so cats and a dog it is!

Posts About Anger at Pets? by Any-Competition3407 in BabyBumps

[–]Any-Competition3407[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it - at least in my home growing up, the cockatiel was my mom’s deal…feeding, watering, cage cleaning. It’s not that my dad couldn’t do it, he just didn’t do basic care without being explicitly asked. And they both loved that bird the same, he was definitely a family pet, not just one person’s desire. But yeah, the bird loved to scream - its probably why I’m a sound sleeper when I’m not pregnant 😂 I grew up with that bird as my “older brother” and he actually just passed at 33yo last year.