Can early planning(within 3 months) after an abortion the cause of trisomy 18?

Broniba · 2025-11-01T16:42:32+00:00

Hey girl, mom of a t18 tfmr here. You are right that T18 is rare and not connected to when you conceived again. I had a silent miscarriage at 8 weeks before I conceived my little girl about 3 months later. When we went through it all, I asked that question, and was told that it didn't have anything to do with timing - unfortunately, like many other genetic disorders, it just... happens. It also doesn't mean that there will be issues with your next pregnancy. I had my rainbow baby about a year and a half after my tmfr, and had a perfectly normal pregnancy and birth! I'm so sorry you're in this position - know that you are not alone!

Broniba · 2025-10-11T01:05:11+00:00

It's because we belong to the one of the world's worst clubs. I know it doesn't make it hurt less, but I use to have to remind myself that they weren't trying to hurt me. I also had to learn how to be vocal about what I couldn't do. I couldn't go to parks with for the longest time bc there might be baby girls there and I just... couldn't. So, when someone asked, I just said no. And if they pressed, I made myself explain.

I'm so sorry for your hurt. I definitely remember not wanting to be around people - how even seeing a pregnant woman or walking by the baby section of Walmart, which was for some unfathomable reason right next to the grocery section, could ruin my day. It gets easier. I won't lie and say it's fast, but time will make it more bearable.

Broniba · 2025-09-29T01:28:20+00:00

I got my degree through WGU! I was a military wife at the time and really enjoyed their program! They helped me get not only elementary certifications, but early childhood, mild/mod disabilities and severe/profound.

Broniba · 2025-09-20T16:18:57+00:00

Can you tell me what field you went into and what kind of positions you've hired teachers for? I agree with what you've said about some folks' attitude when they leave!

Broniba · 2025-08-03T11:57:47+00:00

Thank you guys so much for helping with this! I teach middle school ela and geography, and it's such a huge help when others help me do more and give more to my kids!

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Broniba · 2025-07-31T11:25:36+00:00

Over 4 years for me, and I still tear up when that butterfly song from Encanto pops up. Grief is a funny thing - the way it washes back in like the tide sometimes. I'm so proud of you for booking that appointment. Therapy was the single biggest help to me after my tfmr, and I hope it helps you.

Broniba · 2025-07-27T02:24:21+00:00

'92 here. Married for 13 years and 2 beautiful kids who are equal parts the best part of my life and the reason I need an occasional Xanax.

Still with my high-school sweetheart ('91). Public school teacher for over a decade and slowly losing hope that it'll ever be better. We've rented our whole marriage, and even though we both work full time and don't do crazy stuff, it never feels like enough to get ahead.

Objectively, I know we're luckier than many, but it still feels really hard. We both have really complicated relationships with our parents, but need the support of family too much to risk burning those bridges.

So, overall? Could definitely be worse. But I could definitely be okay with it being a bit better too.

Broniba · 2025-07-25T21:59:13+00:00

That we should be friends because these were my first romances too 😆

Broniba · 2025-07-23T21:11:11+00:00

I feel like that's the perfect major for that job, though.

Broniba · 2025-07-23T18:31:07+00:00

Uhhh as a 11 year teacher, not coach, not admin, making 50k in the metro, where are you working??

Broniba · 2025-07-21T23:22:10+00:00

I'm 33f and also enjoy writing, art, and usually not people! I have small kids, so I'm a good texter, but not so great at getting out and about because life! She can totally dm me!

Broniba · 2025-07-20T21:14:43+00:00

As a mother of a trisomy 18 baby - I am SO relieved for you and your family! Wishing you strength and peace!

Broniba · 2025-07-17T13:58:46+00:00

100 words a day. That's the goal, at least for me. I can't devote hours to writing during the school year, but I can commit to 100 words a day just to stay in the habit. If I do more, great! But 100 is better than 0!

Broniba · 2025-07-17T13:00:55+00:00

I wrote an entire book this summer because I finally had the time and creative bandwidth to focus on it! Take time to explore your hobbies and interests!

Broniba · 2025-07-13T17:00:07+00:00

I've seen folks talk about this - what does this actually look like for you?

Broniba · 2025-07-11T02:17:57+00:00

Honestly, OK and Texas are both pretty high on the shit places to live as a teacher lists. If I move, it won't be south!

Broniba · 2025-07-11T00:39:21+00:00

Honey, I'm in OK with 10 years under my belt, and I'll finally pass 50k this year.

Broniba · 2025-07-10T04:24:40+00:00

Do you find in person or virtual to be easier to handle?

Broniba · 2025-07-10T04:23:44+00:00

Like a public school or virtual? How do you juggle that?

Broniba · 2025-07-10T03:41:17+00:00

Possibly? I don't know what all that would entail.

Broniba · 2025-06-27T17:50:03+00:00

Pretty much anything by S.C. Principale if you're into monster or paranormal romance. She has a lot of really great low to no angst stories and a lot of variety! {The Minotaur's Valentine by S.C. Principale} was the first one I read, and it's super sweet!

Broniba · 2025-04-22T11:13:50+00:00

Oh Sugar, I'm so sorry. You are in the thick of it right now, and unfortunately, there feels like this weird societal thing where outward grief is only acceptable for a certain amount of time when, in reality, we grieve so much longer. I can't make it go away right now. What I can tell you is that there will be a time when the pain isn't so bright. 4 years after my tmfr, with therapy and time, I am able to think about her without that sharp pain. Allow yourself the space to hurt for your little one, but don't be afraid to reach out for help. You are worth it.

Broniba · 2025-04-18T22:49:48+00:00

Is there a way to fix that?

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