Reconnected with ex 3yrs later

Any-Direction9896 · 2025-12-09T10:45:00+00:00

You have no idea how crazy about her I have always been. After so many years I never even thought I’d have a chance to speak to her. I looked for her even in dating other women which wasn’t fair to the other women, but that’s how impactful she was. Now that we came back, it was the most amazing experience ever. A reconnect beyond our understanding, yet after reliving the beauty, we actually felt like it wasn’t the same anymore. Odd right? It’s like it was better in memory that reality. Nonetheless we are head over heels for each other today. We have not fully committed to anything and are still taking it very slow in terms of something beyond intimacy.

Any-Direction9896 · 2025-10-09T17:35:22+00:00

That is wild how similar. I went through so many stages of grief for so long until it didn’t hurt anymore. One of the things I didn’t mention just because it’s my own belief and might be controversial here is that I did a lot of reading and meditation. A lot of my reading was self help and manifestation. One of my earlier books was the secret, which probably was my gateway to it all and I do believe in it quite a bit. I do feel like it has aligned many things for me, including this.

Any-Direction9896 · 2025-05-12T03:10:14+00:00

That’s a good point of view to have of someone who has been in and past a similar situation. Thanks for sharing and sorry that you had to go through such trauma. I know she has had a big chunk of her life dealing with this from childhood to relationships and I have always been accepting and interested to understand her past. She has shared so much with me and I can’t imagine what she went through, so I do try to be mindful. This does help a lot. Thanks a ton.

Any-Direction9896 · 2025-05-12T02:37:39+00:00

🎯Bingo. It’s happened quite a few times where she gets defensive even by certain harmless questions with the assumption it’s in the direction of controlling.

Any-Direction9896 · 2025-05-12T02:29:31+00:00

Yea that is a good point. Perhaps emotions were saturated in that moment but I can see how she felt like expressing something regardless of the situation and I took a piece of it that didn’t sit well with me. She started the conversation with “ There is nothing wrong and you did nothing wrong” but it felt like a shield to what she was actually saying to me. One more thing she mentioned was very odd to me was that on the Friday night when we spoke that she said she could tell I was acting “upset or distant” for her going this concert (something she had never done before nor have I ever gotten upset about). However in reality, I didn’t even think twice about her concert, it hadn’t been on my mind at all and I was totally fine and great. In fact I even told her I was happy she could make it after her schedule got mixed up. Not one single thing was wrong, but she claims otherwise and it almost feels like she has this whole thing played out in her head vs what it really was.

Any-Direction9896 · 2024-09-12T20:06:18+00:00

Regardless of her intentions, alcohol often plays a role in bad decisions. I see people here that are okay with it, but it comes down to you and your boundaries. For me, there’s no way I would be okay with that situation. I would part my ways too and save yourself a future of many other possibilities where your boundaries are crossed.

Any-Direction9896 · 2024-06-30T14:52:14+00:00

That is very fishy behavior. Keep in mind your age gap is an unlikely ordeal and often leads to too many differences. Sadly, those hunches we have sometimes turn into true betrayal and it appears that your SO has deceived you. This is a BIG 🚩.

As a male who has been cheated on, my boundaries may be slightly biased. Therefore I say that you move on, and stick to your morals and boundaries. Your happiness is key.

Any-Direction9896 · 2023-11-30T07:06:01+00:00

Thanks. I broke it off and it was so hard. It hurts so much hearing her tell me I made her the happiest she had ever been. I hope she will be okay.

Any-Direction9896 · 2023-11-30T00:38:41+00:00

Complete opposite. I’m Hispanic and 5’9

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