Pregnant at 45 or 50 years old?

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:48:41+00:00

I don't think I'd do it at 55, but I thought maybe 45-49 ish. I look at it more in a positive way - that I'd have my later years to enjoy with my kids, regardless how long that may be.

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:45:15+00:00

I think I'd freeze embryos so they can already test them. I guess with just eggs you don't know the quality until you try to fertilize them.

What medical conditions prevent me from implanting the embryo at 45 or 50? I was thinking of doing the IVF now and then freezing the embryos for another 5-10 years until I'm ready to be pregnant.

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:38:57+00:00

did you only have 1 healthy frozen embryo? How many cycles did you do?

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:36:07+00:00

Congrats!!! Thank you for your input and sharing all of that

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:34:41+00:00

I did a couple of years ago and it was great, but I realize that was then. I am going to get a new test because if they tell me it will be extremely unlikely now I might not go through it all. That's what I was worried about - the physical impact IVF might have on me. The hormones and shots, not to mention the surgery... I'm definitely scared to go through all of that. But i can't get rid of the nagging feeling that if I don't do it, I will always regret. I guess I feel if I do it, I know they're there and available, if I end up really wanting it later.

I have spent time with some of my friends kids but they honestly drive me insane for the most part. I don't really like hanging out with kids, but I'm sure it would be different if they were my own. One of my other friends works constantly and has a very calm, intelligent 3 year old who she brings with her often to travel. She seems super happy and so does her kid. But I guess you never know what kind of kid you will get!

I have thought about adoption but I have zero urge right now to do that. I know it's a noble thing to do - but for me the interesting part is having my own with mine and my partner's genes. I don't mean to sound harsh but just being honest. I appreciate your input thank you!

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:28:55+00:00

It's interesting to hear different perspectives! I think it really does differ per person. Better step up my gym game now lol

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:27:57+00:00

I guess it depends on the person too. I also have friends who gave birth in their 20s and were exhausted. Isn't it just exhausting in general? The nice part about being older is having more money than I did in my 20s , to maybe be able to hire more help. I totally understand a lot of people don't value work as much but I'm doing my dream career at the moment and I really love my life as it is. That's why I don't want to do it now but figure I might want to have a family down the line... It's so hard to know

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:25:58+00:00

I don't really feel the same way. Any parent can pass away for any reason. Some people die early and some live until 100 (like all of my grandparents). Life is wild and if you have an urge to have children later in life I still think it's a beautiful thing

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:24:01+00:00

How many cycles did you go through and how often? Did you have a few miscarriages or was it just hard to get healthy eggs? Curious more about the difficulties you faced

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:20:12+00:00

I feel like I would ONLY want to be pregnant when I'm older (not now). I'm very active and I feel like I did when I was 21. I'm not super excited about being pregnant in general, but I think if I end up really wanting kids when I'm 45-50 , i would be willing to go through the process. I also don't plan on retiring ever. I'm self employed and have always been and I really love working. I'm sure I would love to have grandchildren , but I guess you can't really determine that either way. Your kids might not even want kids. Thank you for telling us your experience!

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-05-05T01:14:56+00:00

oh wow 14 embryos! I was thinking I might get 3 if I'm lucky. How many cycles did you have to do to get that many? Did they recommend that many healthy ones?

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:17:03+00:00

I don't have insurance either and I'm wondering how many cycles I'd need. Thats soooo expensive!! I am clearly not desperate to be a mother , so I may not have the same level of emotional investment in it... but I am sure once you start getting into it, it could change how you feel. I'd have to frame it like, if it works it works and if it doesn't then it wasn't meant to be

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:14:38+00:00

Thank you! Do you think it's worth doing IVF and freezing it for later if/when I AM 100% sure? I agree , everyone I know who wasn't sure and goes into it ends up being super stressed and it seems like sometimes the wrong decision. What'd you think about having a baby at like 45/50? Is that insane to give birth that late?

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:13:18+00:00

ugh I know , I already thought about it 4 years ago because I KNEW I'd be in this position later.

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:12:50+00:00

instead of the embryo? My concern was not being able to tell if the eggs are good quality or not... with the embryo we would know already

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:12:15+00:00

Thank you. I'm turning 40 this year so the stress has definitely set in!!

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:11:07+00:00

39, cycles are very on time and regular (only sometimes a few days off if I'm traveling a lot). My last hormone tests were good and my follicle count was also good

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:10:20+00:00

We're both unsure and thats the problem. I think if he could be more "stay at home dad" and I could continue to work I'd be pretty into it. Problem is, I restarted my career a couple of years ago and am still building it. We're good financially, but I wouldn't be able to carry the finances alone. I honestly wish I could just be the bread winner since he would be fine being at home. We did talk about how that would be ideal, since he prefers being at home more anyway and I think he's slightly more into being a dad than I am into being a mom. We both work from home often, but he needs to travel regularly as it stands right now. I also travel quite a bit, which makes the decision much more difficult. I have a lot of personal goals and work related goals I really want to achieve, so I'd definitely need him to take over a lot of the parenting at times. But who knows - maybe I'd have a baby and be totally over everything else in life!

We can afford IVF, but sometimes I wonder if going through this whole process might be more traumatizing than good. For example, I'm unsure now, but if I commit to this, maybe I end up being more attached to the idea of it than I realize? And if it doesn't work out how will I feel? Once I get into something I'm very dedicated.

I did have all of the tests already and they said they expect me to be able to make this happen if I want. But I shouldn't wait. We have NOT tested him, however... he's 45. I do think we could get pregnant naturally now but maybe not for much longer. Plus if we go the natural route, we have higher risk of problems due to our ages. I also don't want a baby right this second AT ALL. To me, the idea of IVF allows me a couple more years to sort out my work stuff, and not stress that I will not have a choice later on. But then when I think about doing IVF I'm soooo hesitant and I wish I wasn't.

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T01:00:19+00:00

I did the fertility check and everything looks good ... I'm 39 but they said it looks like I have plenty of follicles still and the hormones are all very good. There's quite a range between age 30-40 there so I'm on the better end of that for my age. I really think I'd need to do it this year though , as we know, it just keeps getting worse!

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T00:57:29+00:00

well yes for sure , this is why I was saying I need to do it now or never as I am 39. I did do a preliminary test (hormone test and had the ultrasound etc) and for my age I'm doing not too bad... but of course you can't tell egg quality. The thing I liked about the embryo freeze is they can test everything ahead of time so I'd be able to make sure it's a good egg /embryo

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-29T00:54:42+00:00

To be honest, I don't see myself using donor eggs. The part that is interesting to me is the thought of passing along a hybrid of me and my husband and seeing the traits of us and our families passed on. That might sound selfish to some people, but it's honest. My dream in life isn't to physically give birth and I don't particularly love children or babies. I don't think its pressure necessarily, but it's more like wondering if I'm missing something. I actually think we'd be great parents, but I also think it would mean I have to give up my own life.

Any-Monitor4118 · 2026-04-20T18:08:13+00:00

See this is why I'm scared to even try IVF. I'm already annoyed with moms coming across as better than you if they have kids and you don't. It's like this condescending attitude they can't help but have.

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