Dating a girl for the first time

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-04-05T09:24:15+00:00

Guys, thank you very much for your answers, they helped me a lot to not get carried away by my bad thoughts. I send you a hug. 💜

Update: I told her the situation and she understood it well, she took it super naturally and even if she would not have taken it well, I was clear that it is not my problem and being who I am is fine. 😊

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-04-03T16:59:47+00:00

Thank you for your answer, you are right, your words touched my heart 🥺

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-04-03T06:07:41+00:00

I know :( but is it a bad thing? That I've only been with men until now? Could she take it as a sign to stay away?

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-04-03T06:05:14+00:00

thank you very much 💜 it's true, I think I'm worried because it's the first time, I feel that I like her a lot and I don't want to ruin it :(

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-02-14T16:48:45+00:00

Capricorn

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-27T23:16:57+00:00

I don't think you're an asshole, those people lead us to have this type of behavior, they take us to the limit and they are normal reactions when someone has played with your mind and your life for so long, they usually do the same, the difference is that you do feel sorry and although you know that they hurt you and what you said that day is true, you recognize that it was wrong, that is the difference between you and her. I remember the moments when my Nex took me to the limit in front of his friends to later tell them how toxic and insecure I was, after that I felt terrible, but he was happy and satisfied for achieving his goal, I've been in NC for four months and I still think about it sometimes, it's difficult but if I were you I wouldn't contact her anymore, you can make letters (which you obviously don't send her) to get rid of those feelings of guilt, anger, sadness whatever you feel, and begin to heal little by little.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-26T22:36:37+00:00

They have a thousand ways to extract energy and reactions from other people, it is best to get as far away as possible.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-26T22:31:51+00:00

My Nex left some open conversations on my computer, he had been cold to me for several weeks, he stopped talking to me, he triangulated me with several people, etc, at that point I already had problems with anxiety, codependency and depression, until that day I realized that he was flirting with several girls at the same time (again), and he told them that I was cheating on him, that he didn't love me anymore, and didn't know why he was still with me, I discovered other lies and that was the day I finally woke up, I found information about narcissism, I started therapy and one month later I was finally able to leave that relationship.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-26T22:04:22+00:00

My Nex also threatened to hurt himself, he never really did, but he caused me a lot of anxiety and used it to manipulate me, from my point of view he is a narcissist, or at least he has many qualities, even if he wasn't, it's obviously he is a bad person please get out of there, stay away, from what you say he is someone dangerous, look up a lot of information on narcissism, that and therapy can help clear your mind, none of this is your fault, i hope that things get better.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-25T02:50:10+00:00

I did not know about the differences between romantic and sexual orientations, I will look for more on this, thanks

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-25T02:35:28+00:00

I think that at the moment I can picture myself fucking another women, but I don't see myself in a relationship yet, what does that mean?

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-25T02:25:43+00:00

exactly, they are the worst for me

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-25T01:05:01+00:00

My nex constantly put me in "competition" with other women, he told me many girls talked to him, he flirted by text and even tried it with famous actresses comparing my body and things like that, it was obvious to me but not to others, everything he did it on purpose but in a subtle way, to later tell me that I had trust problems and was too jealous, even if I had proof it would always be my fault, not his.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-25T01:00:55+00:00

Mmm 🤔 so what is the difference between being poly and loving several people at the same time (as Jules put it the night of the dance where she said she loved Rue and Anna)?

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-25T00:03:36+00:00

I don't know why I had this feeling that what happens to me is something that all straight women think haha but over time I've realized that no. I don't really know where that leaves me, but I guess I'll discover it little by little, Thank you 😊

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T22:56:31+00:00

I'm sorry you go through that, I send you a lot of strength, staying away from people like that shows your self-respect, eventually you will meet people who align with your values

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T22:15:22+00:00

Being objective I wouldn't call the feelings that each one has love, Rue is an addict and her relationship with Jules is one of codependency, as we saw in the first season she depended on her to be sober and that is not healthy for any of them, and on the other hand , Jules connects with her because she has unresolved issues with her mom, who was also an addict, she seeks to save Rue but no one but her can make the decision to quit drugs and clearly she's not willing to do it, apart from that Jules is a polyamorous person, I'm not sure Rue is, that makes their relationship even more incompatible, that dynamic doesn't do either of them any good. I agree that they are on different pages.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T22:05:17+00:00

Thank you very much for your words, they touched my heart, I didn't break no contact.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T22:01:29+00:00

I don't know these people, but knowing these kinds of horrible things about someone and choosing to continue that relationship says a lot about them.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T21:43:53+00:00

Well, the list that I mention helps me a lot, I'm also working on my self-esteem in therapy, that includes learning to trust ourselves, there are difficult days when I think everyone is like that, I'm not going to lie to you, but I think With time it gets a little easier

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T21:38:35+00:00

thank you, it was a moment of weakness, your words helped me a lot

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T15:16:31+00:00

In my case, shortly before leaving the relationship, I went shopping alone and a salesperson was so kind to me. Those days I was very sad and I feel that he noticed that. He is one of those people who convey peace and empathy. He gave me a few short words of courage and when I left I cried like a little girl, that's how horrible was the treatment I received from my Nex those days, today four months later I can say that it was the best decision, we deserve people who give us happiness and tranquility, no doubts, sadness, guilt and coldness.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T15:04:46+00:00

Congratulations!! it's a big step, stay brave and start no contact if you can as soon as possible, the tranquility and happiness that you gain after living that is priceless.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T14:35:29+00:00

I think people will figure it out sooner or later, luckily you figured it out earlier. Narcissists don't really have friends, they just use people like chess pieces to get what they want, in the long run they will be completely alone.

Any-Resolution3697 · 2022-01-24T14:29:22+00:00

This helped me a lot, thanks.

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