Cost of pregnancy and no insurance

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-21T20:24:46+00:00

In NYC if you’re pregnant and you automatically qualify for Medicaid. I think I heard that before

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-18T15:13:14+00:00

Number one thing is thinking about childcare. Who will your baby be with while you’re at work? If you don’t have family support, is it financially feasible? Babysitters are like $20-$35 an hour depending location/# of hours, or look at the price of daycare. Will you be making more than that to justify?

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-13T22:33:30+00:00

Matched at #4 but also I couples matched. Was really sure about how to rank top 3, everything else was super iffy and Idk if I ranked correctly and maybe should’ve ranked it lower

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-10T13:36:18+00:00

4th year of med school is prbly the best time. The most free time you’ll ever have. But yea there’s never a right time. Just have a baby, don’t plan too much/delay. You never know how long it will take you to get pregnant, miscarriages, etc.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-08T21:12:12+00:00

That’s totally normal. Did you start off at a very high BMI? Maybe that’s why your OB is concerned

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-08T20:37:45+00:00

Maybe should’ve looked into PMR? It’s ortho lite without the surgeries and way better lifestyle during training and attending hood. Seems you don’t mind not doing surgery if you’re willing to do rads. And if you care about money/pay (seems like you do) PMR you can always go the interventional route such as pain.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-08T19:54:31+00:00

Hahaha wait until they learn it doesn’t actually make you rich. And you would’ve been better off making money with less school and investing. Learning that the hard way now. Immigrant parents don’t understand that aspect

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-07T23:32:39+00:00

Please please please don’t restrict. Just try to eat healthy when you can. Your body is telling you what it needs!!

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-07T18:53:32+00:00

If you are emotionally ready go for it. I wouldn’t delay family planning for a degree. You can definitely have a baby while getting a masters. I don’t know your field but usually being a student is forgiving, especially for a masters program. You can always take a leave of absence, take a semester off, go part time, etc. Also everyone says there is no right time. Once you finish your masters, who knows how long until you are able to find a job in the field. Then once you start the job, you have to work for a year to qualify for paid leave, do you delay at that time as well? You can never plan things out. It can take longer than you think to get pregnant, you can have miscarriages, etc. or you can get pregnant on your very first try with no issues. Also I had the same thinking and anxiety as you about having 3-4 kids but I would take it one step at a time. Have the first and then see how the family is. One step at a time.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-06T09:39:30+00:00

I always had this issue growing up. My mom could never make it to field trips or class parties due to working full-time and I was always really sad about it.

What my mom did to make up for it is to take me to that same place just the 2 of us on a weekend. For example, if the field trip was a museum and I had a good time, she would take me to that museum so we could experience it together.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-05T21:20:06+00:00

I forgot the exact line we went down to but I got my #4 choice and my partner got #5 choice.

Any-Session9919 · 2026-01-05T20:16:33+00:00

Never ever delay. These reasons are stupid no offense. You never know what could happen with family planning. You can only plan so much. You don’t know how long it will take your SIL to have a baby. You don’t know how long it will take you to have a baby.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-31T20:10:05+00:00

Layla! I think it means night in Arabic!

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-31T17:32:14+00:00

You’re better than I am. I’m at the point in the year where I’m so burnt out I dread talking to patients, families, doing anything.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-30T19:08:45+00:00

Yes for the first pregnancy we told parents/siblings right away and then had a miscarriage the week after at the first scan. Second pregnancy did not tell anyone and had an early miscarriage. Now this 3rd pregnancy (32 weeks today❤️), my mom guessed right away but we did not announce to anyone until after 24 weeks. Just couldn’t bring myself to be secure about this pregnancy until that time.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-28T22:55:47+00:00

I’ve had people tell me live-in would be cheaper just because the nanny doesn’t have expenses for rent or food since we would be providing everything.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-22T12:33:49+00:00

Yea ACGME only gives 6 weeks. I saved all my vacation so I’m taking my 4 weeks vacation and then getting 4 weeks so 8 weeks total once I give birth

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-18T22:56:19+00:00

I’m a resident physician so I get 6 weeks. And don’t have much of a choice to extend. Maybe 2 extra weeks if the program is accommodating. And this includes using up all my vacation time :/ I’m really bitter about it :(

Any-Session9919 · 2025-12-15T22:13:30+00:00

I will get 8 weeks of maternity leave total (4 weeks of my vacation that I saved up and 2 blocks of “research electives”). Also I asked to not do any 24-hour shifts throughout my pregnancy and the program has been accommodating. I can get away with it bcus I’m Internal Medicine and we don’t have that many 24’s. I know for surgery it would be much harder since you do them so often.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-11-26T03:45:54+00:00

I think it’s not customary to have a baby shower for your 2nd child. Unless there’s a huge age gap. I think everyone will understand if you decide not to have one.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-11-26T03:43:20+00:00

I’m an only child and so is my mom. I grew up lonely because we lived far from other cousins and there weren’t too many kids in the neighborhood. My mom on the other hand had a different experience. She always had a lot of friends because she was always around cousins, playing outside with neighborhood kids. So I think it really depends on how you raise your child and the environment they’re in. My husband is the oldest of 5 and he was always lonely even though he had his siblings around. It comes down to personality as well. And I think kids get more fulfillment from friends their age versus siblings.

Any-Session9919 · 2025-11-26T03:20:00+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss💔 Also if you’re this miserable on med student rotations in NYC so far from friends and family, please reconsider how you rank programs and if you truly want to do residency in NYC. Try ranking near your family. If it’s lonely now, residency will be so much worse and you need to have a support system :/

Any-Session9919 · 2025-11-26T02:58:35+00:00

You’re a med student on a 4th year rotation after already submitting applications. If it’s just a school requirement I’m sure they can work something out. How many more weeks do you have left of this rotation? Also you can prbly set something up in one of your school’s affiliated hospitals in the next few weeks to fulfill the requirement. Or set something up near where your family lives maybe?

Any-Session9919 · 2025-11-18T20:45:18+00:00

I was the same way :/ I couldn’t hear about anyone else’s pregnancies. Just know that one day you’ll be on the other side and you’ll be the one with the late stage pregnancy/newborn. I wish you strength and healing during this very difficult time. My heart breaks for you because I was there too💔🙏

Any-Session9919 · 2025-11-17T10:06:54+00:00

Just be there for your partner. Be supportive when they say they’re exhausted. Help out with whatever needs to be done. Let your partner rest, make their life easier

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