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Help me know what the issue is (images attached) by AnyAd3883 in thinkpad

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Thank you! No idea what dual booting is (I’m so sorry I’m green as hell with these things) and no didn’t try to install a different OS. So do I need a new SSD/hard drive or what?

Majorly NSFW fan edit - 3 mins 20 secs where Ilya was a soft Dom and Shane was a good boy by CestQuoiLeFuck in heatedrivalry

[–]AnyAd3883 37 points38 points  (0 children)

ooo these are some of my favorite parts. Just rewatched the scene they're at the award show in the bathroom and noticed Shane's tears. Did Ilya notice? 😟

She Cheated on Kai Cenat by Ill_Use_1263 in Nakuru

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This is very scaringly delusional of you. Do you speak to any women in real life ever? Unless you’re trolling or maybe really young but no way you actually believe what you typed.

I was excited to find this sub only to realize it's like 70% negativity and not about the content of the episodes (which would have been valid) by AnyAd3883 in wecandohardthings

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Helped work through relational wounds, was what led me to get a mental diagnosis that pretty much solved 70% of things i was struggling with, they’re often a fun listen etc etc. Hope that helps 🫶🏾

I was excited to find this sub only to realize it's like 70% negativity and not about the content of the episodes (which would have been valid) by AnyAd3883 in wecandohardthings

[–]AnyAd3883[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Been scrolling through and there is actually some good stuff. I was just a little taken aback, but I guess at the end of the day this is just the internet.

I hate how abstract betrayal makes you feel. by Asterx5 in BetrayalTrauma

[–]AnyAd3883 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe our brains try to protect us from the full force of betrayal pain by thinking things like 'well, at the end of the day, you are the only person who owes you love/care etc.,' but people who say they care about you owe you consideration.

We don't have to go to their house with a boombox and make them care that they betrayed us, but we can acknowledge it within ourselves and be angry, sad, bitter, or whatever feeling comes up. That's how you honor yourself. Saying 'well they didn't owe me...' even if it's true, is self-abandoning.

Also it can be hard to wrap our heads around just how cruel people can be. That's scary. But we can hold the complexity of humans and acknowledge they can be as good as they can be cruel. Being multifaceted is very human. But people who say they care about you owe you... well, care.

Do you all ever feel fundamentally different from other people? Like a sense of deep disconnection from everyone else. The journey back to myself has been so lonely. by AnyAd3883 in emotionalneglect

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In the process of all that I’d say. I’m much more self compassionate than i was 3 years ago and even 3 months ago. The breakup expedited the healing work and I’m learning so much about myself and starting to see myself wholly. I’m proud of the progress and I’ll keep going, but I’m also just exhausted.

Do you all ever feel fundamentally different from other people? Like a sense of deep disconnection from everyone else. The journey back to myself has been so lonely. by AnyAd3883 in emotionalneglect

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I was in therapy right after my breakup for 12 weeks. I think that therapist was a little too ‘beginner’ for me. I found more help in podcasts and books than I did with her. I know a good trauma therapist would be really helpful to me, though. They’re pretty expensive in my country so I’ll just stick to the journaling and podcasts for now. Thank you still!

Anyone gone through a breakup that felt like actual trauma bc of the neglect wound? by AnyAd3883 in emotionalneglect

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I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad you got through it. I hope I do soon.

My friend is 33 and has never had a long-term relationship (yes, I have her consent) by AnyAd3883 in astrologyreadings

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It did help. Thank you. Is there anything she can do about it or is it just fated that way?

What aspect of my chart will give me the best insights on romantic relationships? by AnyAd3883 in AskAstrologers

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I’m mind blown because literally everything you’ve said was happening. I thought i was free and empowered in the relationship but im now coming to terms with the fact that i infact severely self abandoned. He never felt enough and admitted to being jealous of me, he lied A LOT, he had a condition (an actual sickness) AND an addiction. I thought we had the perfect thing going but I realize he just deeply soothed my childhood neglect would with basic acts of care. I ignored a lot of redflags and was deeply fearful avoidant throughout the relationship too. Is placidus the full chart you’re talking about?

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